永遠擔憂不完的我

我對 Declan 的擔心真的是不少。自從懷了 KJ，KJ 帶給了我很多意外。我也被醫生嚇得半死。

First trimester 時，我的 nausea 不成甚麼大問題。一直到了做 blood test，要測試 KJ 的種種。成績出來的時候，醫生親自打了電話給我，親口告訴我，我有 hypothyroid。我半桶水問了醫生一些問題，要確定對 KJ 不會造成傷害，我就去見了另一位 Endocrine Specialist 再做檢查。當我被 confirmed 得了 hypothyroid 時，King 剛好在國外公幹。我就這樣自己一個人駕著車子回家，在車裡流下了眼淚。幸好被發現得早。否則，缺乏碘是會對 KJ 的腦部發育造成很大的傷害，甚至會變白癡。就這樣，我吃藥，補充身體的碘，好讓 KJ 也有足夠的碘而好好地在我的肚子里成長。

Ultrasound 是少不了的。我們每一次去照時，心情都是無比得興奮與期待。醫生當然也要 make sure KJ 的身形健全。突然有一次，醫生一邊照 KJ 的腳，然後一直看，一直看。然後，她指著 KJ 的腳，向我們解釋，甚麼是 CTEV。King 問了一些問題，我一回家就馬上上網 google check CTEV，所謂的 Club Foot. 我看了所有的照片和詳細質料，我的眼淚就不停地往下流。我說，這孩子太可憐了。後來，我們去見了另一位 Gynae，拿些 second opinion。這醫生比較樂觀，他說，如果是 CTEV 的話，也是輕微的，無需太擔憂。就這樣，我們每一次做產檢，就特別注意 KJ 腳的位置和形狀。我們也開始有心裡準備，KJ 有可能會是 CTEV 的 baby。當然，我們拼命得胎教，告訴 KJ 一定要把腳放好，有對健康的腳。

接下來，醫生每一次替我做血壓檢查，她都會提醒我，我很有可能會早產，而且是要剖腹。我說，甚麼嘛！我希望能有個 full term baby，而且我 prefer 自然產。回家后，我們天天和 KJ 說話胎教，要當一個健康寶寶，開心寶寶，當一個順產兒。而我的血壓問題，我們一直認為那應該是家族遺傳吧。就別太勞累和擔憂了。

33 week，醫生測驗了我的血壓，說我肯定會早產，而且 KJ 的體重已經沒有再增加了。她勸說我們去馬大醫院生，因為在私人醫院生個早產兒，費用是天文數字。我無比的失望，我可以不要這樣做嗎？後來，為了安全起見，也考慮到費用的問題，我們就這樣地去馬大醫院掛號。怎知道，當天去馬大醫院，我的血壓上到 160 多。馬大醫生要我馬上入院觀察。我就這樣心不幹，情不願地住在馬大醫院。我吵著要回家。醫生給我打了 Steroid 針，要確保 KJ 的呼吸系統可以早熟，我也乖乖聽話的打。

35 week，我去做產檢，私人醫生說我得馬上去馬大生孩子了。因為我的血壓高，尿蛋白高，臉部紅腫（我以為是後期水腫）。當時，護士用輪椅把我推到車旁，不讓我行走，擔心我隨時會抽筋缺氧，這種情況會對 KJ 不保。King 也被搞得很緊張，立刻把我送去了馬大醫院。在馬大時的血壓是高到 190。我跟醫生說 ，我考試都沒有這麼高分過哩！搞來搞去，我當晚就剖腹把 KJ 生下來了。當醫生把 KJ 從我的肚子里抱出來時，我沒有機會馬上看到他，就馬上被抱進育嬰箱里，這裡插管，那裡插管。而 King 也就一直看著 KJ，拍照送給我看。也確定了 KJ 沒有 CTEV。怎麼知道，KJ 出來了之後，我的血壓確沒有恢復正常。我被送回 labor room 觀察。那一晚，我聽到了超過 10 多位自然產的母親們在啊，啊，啊，痛啦，醫生們叫 lagi lagi lagi。天啊！睡了一晚，一早，我看到了一群醫生圍著我的病床。然後問了我一些身體感覺的問題，就告訴我說，我得了 HELLP Syndrome。我糊裡糊塗地，哦，哦，哦。我問了一位年紀比較大的醫生，想必他應該是在馬大最有經念和權威的一位，我會死嗎？醫生，你一定要救我，我剛生了一個可愛的 baby！幸好他很樂觀，微笑得說，我不會有事地。我也吩咐了一位年輕醫生告訴 King 我的狀況。King 回家就馬上 wikipedia HELLP Syndrome。原來我得了血崩，而且是最 critical 的 level。天呀！搞甚麼東東嘛？！然後，醫生給我輸了兩包血，把我轉到 normal ward 觀察了 10 天。真是難熬！在馬大醫院的日子，每天抽血驗血，我看到血壓機我就怕。我告訴自己，我被插管，好過 KJ 被插管。謝天謝地，KJ 健康正常，只是體型太小。就是這樣，我在醫院里“享受”了10天，而 KJ 還得住院，以至體重達到標準為止。當我們送 KJ 回到育嬰箱時，我的臉都是淚水。啊，我可憐的孩子！

生完孩子，醫生要我做另一個 blood test，要確定我有沒有 APS，另一種跟 hormone 有關的測試。而我的 thyroid 問題又多了一個。天啊，這真是一個健康的考驗！但是，我告訴我自己，最重要的是 KJ 健康無礙。

現在的每一天，我都會觀察 KJ 的一舉一動。雖然醫生們都說他很健康，很正常，但是，我還是會擔心他營養不足夠。呵呵！不管怎樣，日子還是要過下去。KJ 的每一個笑容都帶給我勇氣去面對任何問題。孩子，要當你媽還真不簡單也！哈哈哈！

My 34th Birthday

生日－－母難日。以前聽過這個辭彙，但根本談不上甚麼感覺。自從生了 Declan 了之後，對“母難日”就有點恐懼感。生日，怎麼過？我今年好像也沒有甚麼興致去慶祝。只要一家人（和 Coby 狗狗）能夠在一起，我就已經很滿足了。我的生日，是我媽 34 年前的母難日。我好像也不好意思去大慶祝甚麼的。

Declan 讓我深深瞭解到母難日的真正意義。回想起我生 Declan 之前與之後所經過的日子，我就流汗！別人生孩子很容易，我這個安帝生孩子就那麼多經歷。嚇人哶？！昨天早上，我們一家人一起去見了我們尊敬的 Dr. Yap。聊了我之前所患的病 (pre-eclampsia 妊辰毒血症 & HELLP syndrome 血崩) 和之後要做的身體檢查等等之後，Dr. Yap 還是鼓勵我們再多個兩年，我可以再懷孕。我簡直就在流汗，舉起雙手，擺個大阿差，表示不可能！！！雖然患的機率還是很高（30％），但是一些人還是鼓勵我要往那 70％ 的好機率方面想。我只能說，只有親身體念才能讓人深深瞭解到，生孩子的偉大與危險！而生多少個孩子對我來說，數目不重要。一家人能夠健康快樂得在一起成長才是最珍貴的。人生當中，每一樣東西只要和數目扯上關係的，人人都會拿來做比較。何苦？有多少個孩子，有多少輛車子，有多少個老婆，有多少錢？答案都是一個數字而已。寫一下不就可以了事，呵？！

和死神擦肩而過，我把 King 和 Declan 的手握得緊緊的。憶起當時 King 罵醫生和護士 man man 的樣子，想起我們把 Declan 留在醫院時的情景，我的心還是會抽一下。這兩隻屬老虎的都把我的心抓得緊緊的，我想我這輩子就是要服侍這兩位皇帝的啦，呵呵！

過去這一個月來所接到的越洋電話和問候不斷，鼓勵更是連連，我們的感激真的是不盡！抱歉的是我沒辦法及時向所有的親戚朋友們報平安。曲折的生產故事全都是原自於我的 Placenta 而產生的妊辰高血壓和嚇人的血崩。而我最感激的是醫學的進步！！！否則，我也不敢去想這個“否則”。

我 34 歲的生日，我第一個有寶寶的生日，真的是很不同！餵小恩桐喝奶的感覺就是我最棒的生日禮物！

生日，是讓我們重生的日子嗎？＝）

Flexibility

Everyone likes to plan. Nobody likes no plan ahead before we do and take action. Me neither. Without a plan, I hardly do things right and I know what I want to achieve.

Well, I had my birth plan, King and I have planned a lot of things together for our baby during our pre-birth period. However, we've many unexpected surprises along the pregnancy and child birth delivery. I thought I was able to pre-shadowed whatever I want accordingly along my pregnancy and birth delivery. But now, I learnt that things are not always go with our plans. Nothing is perfect. Now, I've learnt not to be so stubborn but flexible. The flexibility give me strength and happiness! Really!

I wanted to give birth naturally, I should say I WISH TO. And, we planned to deliver baby in a private hospital. I wished to hold my baby right after my delivery and breastfeed him. I even wished to start bonding with him right away!!! I wanted to breastfeed him without giving formula. There are many I-wanted-to or I-wished-to. But surprises pop up out of the sudden one by one. I don't care about those I-wanted-to or I-wished-to. I just want my baby to be safe and sound healthily. It's that simple! Now I even mix-feed Declan without much worries. Why cares much about those plans if I've a better solutions?!

Flexibility give me strength to keep on surviving with my family. And, I am happier now and then! =)

Thank you, Dr. Yap!!!

Dr. Yap, you are a wonderful Gynae to us!!

We paid Dr. Yap a visit after my confinement to show our greatest appreciation. I was very very happy to visit her with Declan and King since the delivery. She is a wonderful doctor who helped us to save a big amount of medical bill in the end. Knowing that I was diagnosed with pre-eclampsia, she suggested us to have ourselves registered in UMMC as early as we could for emergency purpose. We felt thankful to follow her instructions. And now, both mother and baby are safe and sound.

Declan, Dr. Yap save our lives! I'll bring you to visit her when you are able to say Thank-you one day! =)

My 35 weeks -- KJ arrives!

34 weeks 6 days, King brought me for Gynae check up as usual. The moment we stepped into Dr Yap's room, she told us right away, Wan Teen, you have to deliver your baby today or tonight! We were shocked! My blood pressure was high -- around 160/110 and the protein level found from my urine was high too -- more than 2. My eyes were puffy and my face was swollen -- I thought I was having water retention. All these indicated that I was diagnosed with pre-eclampsia (pregnancy induced hypertension) and the only solution is to deliver the baby. Dr Yap ultrasound KJ again and KJ was doing fine (fitness, heart beat) but he was underweight with 1.6 kg merely at his gestational week. And because of all the reasons put together, Dr Yap demand King to send me to UMMC right away without thinking twice. Dr Yap wrote a reference letter to a Gynae and she rang the Gynae for KIV arrangement. Everything seems unusual to me. I was wheeled by a nurse and King sent me to UMMC right after that. Dr Yap was praying for us, I know that. She told me before seeing me off, "I want you to deliver your baby in UMMC. They have many good doctors and you'll save a lot of money, trust me.".

The minute I was arrived in UMMC, King wheeled me to the labor ward. The medical team did all the arrangement for us. From that minute on, I was monitored closely by the medical team for blood pressure reading and pre-eclampsia symptoms. They sent me to general ward for a few hours monitoring. King went back home and brought me my hospital bag.

Around 7 pm, I started to have nausea -- one of the pre-eclampsia symptoms. I rang the nurse and the team transfer me to labor ward. I sms King quickly that I might deliver KJ that night. He's going to be a father very very soon!

At midnight, I started to have gastric pain -- another pre-eclampsia symptom. I was nervous and the medical team decided to deliver KJ right away for safety purpose. Otherwise, KJ and I will be in danger. The hospital rang King right away and the medical team prepared all the equipments for me. I told myself that, KJ, you are going to be alright, mommy will meet you soon, let's work things out together!

I finally saw King again when I was bed-wheeled to the operation theatre. King gave me a smile and I know I'm gonna be alright. The operation theatre was damn cold. I was excited but nervous. I just couldn't wait to meet my little KJ. The operation didn't take too long. I was told by the team that KJ is smaller than other babies. I heard KJ's crying noise and I was happy. But I didn't see KJ right away. I didn't think too much. I just want KJ to be safe and healthy.

I was bed-wheeled to another room for blood pressure monitoring right after my delivery. I was there for about 15 to 20 minutes. I was conscious and I wish to see King. After that, I was transfer back to labor ward for monitoring again. King came to my bed after seeing KJ. He showed me KJ's pictures and videos, and we are very happy that KJ is fit and healthy. KJ can breath by himself without using oxygen supply.

Next day, I saw another medical team standing next to my bed after I came back from toilet. One of the doctors asked me, how do I feel now. I told them that I felt dizziness and tiredness. The specialist who is named PC Tan told me that I developed HELLP Syndromes during my delivery. I didn't know what the heck HELLP Syndromes is. They told me that my liver enzyme is shoot up tremendously, my platelets count drops seriously to classification 3 (the most critical) and my red blood cell counts drop. This can be very serious!!! I asked the team, am I going to be alright? Dr Tan explained to me what they are going to do the next. I'll have 2 packs of blood transfusion and steroid injections. Blood test is a must everyday for making sure everything gets back to normal. I was shocked, still. Why am I having such a complicated and tough delivery?! Before the team left, I requested a doctor to explain everything to King.

King was informed and he came to me. I was comforted. King did wiki HELLP Syndromes at home that night and he was worried. Fortunately, I was transfer to general ward after the blood transfusion was done on the same day. Since then, I stayed in the general ward for another 6 nights. It seemed like a year long to me!

Mom got to know about the delivery and she rushed to KL for visiting. Thank God mom was here for help! And, thank god again, my confinement lady rushed to KL for help and start working! Help is coming, I told myself. Since then, King was my meal delivery guy. Mom went back to hometown when my confinement lady was here. I'm glad that part of the things were settled down, although I needed to be hospitalized.

KJ stayed in the hospital with me. So I wasn't alone. I started to breastfeed him. But my blood pressure didn't drop to normal reading. I hate to be on medication but I've no choice. After a week, the medical team discharged me and I have to go back for check up after 2 weeks time. I was happy about the go-home news! However, KJ needed to be stay in the hospital for weight gaining purpose -- he weighed 1.62 kg merely. My breast milk was not enough for KJ. And that's why KJ didn't gain weight accordingly. For safety and healthy reason, we decided to put KJ in the hospital for a few days. Hopefully the team will be good, they better be! I couldn't stop crying while leaving KJ in the incubator...... I felt guilty and sorry for leaving him!!! Thank God I've King and a few supporting friends. I was comforted that I need to build up my health before welcoming KJ home. And I promised King and KJ that I'll do that.

Home sweet home! I rested and slept well at home. I was the breast milk suppler and King was the milk delivery guy. I visited KJ every day happily. Oh my, little KJ was famous in the Pediatric ward because of his active kicking and punching, and his tiny body. Many people came to King and me when we were there.

My blood pressure has dropped to normal reading after a few days fully resting. And another good news was KJ can come home!!! This is the day that we have hoping for so long! When KJ came home, his 4 grandparents were at our house for welcoming. =)

Four of us were together, finally! King, me, Coby and KJ!!!!! This is one family! I had a tough delivery and I have a lot of thought after all these. Thank God that KJ and I survived and we are recovering well! Thank King for supporting and everything! Thank Coby for cooperation! Thank my family for praying! Thank all my friends for praying, blessing, phone calling and everything! It's blessing in disguised! I wanna thank another important person -- Dr Yap! She's the one who safe us and she saves King's wallet! The medical bill turns out cheap and affordable! We are blessed that we went to a good and ethical doctor!

Life is a celebration. Living healthily has became a wish to me and King. We never thought of any serious illness which will strike any of us suddenly but it had happened. We are blessed that we've overcame the worst situation together. And now, we've one new family member -- KJ! No matter what had happened, we welcome KJ and we are happy that we've extent our family to a greater height.

Thank you all! We wish all of you happy and healthy! =)

Third Trimester

After coming back from Koh Samui, Thailand, I entered my third trimester. Fatigue strike me again and I was so lazy to do anything. I basically slept and rest a lot.

When I was in 33 weeks, I was refered to UMMC by my Gynae suddenly. Dr Yap told us about pre-eclampsia and the symptoms that I need to pay attention with. My blood pressure was shoot up noticeably and I was admitted into UMMC for a night of blood pressure monitoring. I was shocked and I hate to be admitted into the hospital out of the sudden. Oh well, we've no choice. So I was sort of being forced to stay in the hospital for a night. I told the nurses and doctors that I WANTED TO GO HOME because I couldn't rest at all in the hospital! One of the doctors calmed me down by explaining how serious a pre-eclampsia could be. So I tried to cooperate with them as much as I could and I was able to discharge the next day. It was so good to be home!!!!

Since then, I monitored my blood pressure closely at home. I do not want to be admitted into hospital again unless KJ is ready to meet us. Hence, I rest and sleep as much as I could since then. I was told by Dr Yap that I might need to deliver KJ in UMMC (a government subsidized university hospital) if I had the complication and if KJ is underweight. Dr Yap's purpose is to save our medical bill. King and I sort of understand and we follow what Dr Yap has told us.

It's no fun to have "surprise", some times. But nothing is perfect. We want a safe and healthy baby delivery, that's our aim.

Koh Samui

King is taking a long break since April. We had so many plans to do since then as we didn't wanna miss our plans out before King Junior arrives. One of the plans was having a honeymoon!

Welp, we chose Koh Samui in east Thailand at last. It was a 5 days trip. We had a lot of great time together in the hotel and at the beach for 5 days. I wanted to take my pregnancy pictures so badly. And so, I took some ideas from the Internet before heading to Samui Island. Both of us are not professional in photo shooting. But King did a good job and I love all my pictures very much! Being pregnant is once or twice in a life time. If I missed out the opportunity of taking pregnancy pictures, I don't know when is my next chance, haha!

We spent all our time in the hotel everyday. Of course, we did sunbath at the hotel private beach, too. Many people noticed my baby bump and I was well-taken care of wherever I went. This is the privilege of being a preggie, haha! Everybody said "Good luck" to both of us.

Walking at the beach hand-in-hand with King -- this is what I love the most in the trip! I told King, KJ will be the sandwich between us when he is here one day. But King said each of us will take turn and be sandwiched accordingly. He wants KJ to know that Daddy needs Mommy sometimes and Mommy needs Daddy sometimes too. =)

King brought me for star view every night after dinner. We miss starry night so so much!!! We had many great moments together in Samui Island. And, we had a lot of fun topics to talk to as well. Having a great partner is more than enough wherever a destination is.

I wanna thank King for a wonderful holiday! Now I can cross out an item from my Wish List. =)

My right side of my baby bump

Lil' baby KJ likes to park himself on my right side of the belly. If you wanna look for baby KJ, please look at my right side of my belly.

Baby KJ kicks and punches frequently, especially after having meal. This lil' angel tickle me at times; I laugh out loud suddenly at times. This is a wonderful feeling! King and I know that baby KJ likes to play with us. Baby is active and curious inside the womb.

Baby KJ, we'll miss this wonderful feeling and moments for sure after this July! We love you, baby KJ! =)

Taking a break

King is taking a break from work lately. Thank godness he's with me all this while when I lost my Grandma and my baby bump is growing bigger and heavier. He's such a kind hubby, I'd say.

** Well, we did some gardening together, although I hardly do much and King did most of it under Coby's inspection, haha! We know that we will not have time to do gardening together when baby KJ comes to this world.

** King goes for shopping with me all the time. We shop for home furnitures and stuff for baby KJ. It's so good to have a good driver when my belly is big, ha!

** King brings me for swimming with my sister when we have time during weekend. King is a good swimmer. We agree to let baby KJ to take up swimming lesson when he's ready in a few months old.

** We brought Coby to see vet when Coby started to unwell a week ago. Oh man, I don't know how am I going to handle Coby without King because my baby bump is heavy. Coby, we can't live without daddy, do you know that?

** We hang around in bookstore again when we have time. We bought new books for ourselves and baby KJ, again. Hehe!

** We have a lot of DVDs on our TV shelves. I cried wholeheartedly when we watched "Ten Promises", damn it! More DVDs to come while sitting next to King.

** Walking Coby together in the park is our usual daily job. We started to imagine when baby KJ is sitting in his baby stroller, checking out the park and birds in the park together with us, that's nice and sweet!

** Of course, King tend to have more sweet time for me and baby KJ. We talk to and play with baby KJ every morning and every evening. Baby KJ is starting to build the bonding with us and we enjoy every moment with him.

There are more things that we haven't start doing..... Catching movies in theatre, having fun in the kitchen together, designing the room for baby KJ, more and more.

It's good to take a break from work. Life with family is beautiful, beautiful, beautiful!

The 5 kg

I finally reach 49 kg yesterday, yay! Well, I sound like someone who like to shade off some extra pounds, hahaha! No no, what I mean is I have gained extra 5 kg in the past 6 months, hooray! I'm happy, King is happy too!

By putting on weight, I started to drink fresh milk everyday and eat my favorite Avocado. Most people think I've the potential and good reasons to eat more more more based on my skinny and petite body shape. I disagree with this mentality and saying because everyone has different bone structure and body shape. I just want to eat healthy for myself and my baby, that's it.

Something good that I really wanna mention is baby KJ kicks a lot after having meal every time. I'm happy that he enjoys the food that we have together. I told baby KJ that all kinda food is good for him.

My target weight is 53 kg. Keep it up, mum-to-be! =)

夫妻誰的基因決定了孩子 （1）

夫妻誰的基因決定了孩子...

基因, 夫妻, 孩子

身高是誰的遺傳大？

——父母各占一半。

在營養狀況下的前提下，孩子的身高有70%的主動權掌握在父母的手裡，父母的遺傳是決定孩子身高的主要因素，因為決定身高的因素35%來自父親，35%來自母親。假若父母雙方個頭不高，那就要靠寶寶後天那30%的努力了。

智力是誰的遺傳大？

——媽媽

智力有一定的遺傳性，同時受到環境、營養、教育等後天因素的影響。據科學家評估，遺傳對智力的影響約占50%-60%，就遺傳而言，媽媽聰明，生下的孩子大多聰明，如果是個男孩子，就會更聰明。這其中的原因在於，人類與智力有關的基因主要集中在X染色體上。女性有2個X染色體，男性只有1個，所以媽媽的智力在遺傳中就占有了更重要的位置。

為證明此點，我們首先來復習下高中生物知識：男寶寶和女寶寶是怎樣來的？

男生是XY，X (卵)是來自母親，Y(精子)是來自父親。

女生是XX，X (卵)是來自母親，X(精子)是來自父親。

所以生男生女都是先生的錯，不要怪罪媽媽的肚皮不爭氣。

請注意：

男生是XY，所以男生的智商全部都是來自母親的遺傳，女生是XX，所以女生的智商是父親跟母親各有一半影響。

因為女生的智商是父親母親都有影響，所以會有中和的效應。所以女生智商的分布會呈現自然分布(normal distribution)，就是倒鐘狀，中間最多，兩邊較少。

然後男生因為是完全只受一方影響，所以男生智商分布會呈現在偏向在兩個極端。也就是說，男生天才比較多，但是同時，蠢材之中也是男生特別多。

這個故事告訴我們什麼？

1. 你要判斷一個男生聰不聰明，看他媽媽就知道了。可是，你又要怎麼判斷一個男生的媽媽聰不聰明？......。.想不出簡便的方法...。.

2. 然後我們用機率來算：

生男孩的機率= 1/2；生女孩的機率=1/2。

生男孩的時候，母親對於男孩智商的影響力 = 1

生女孩的時候，母親對於女孩智商的影響力 = 1/2

所以說母親跟父親對於下一代智商的影響力(期望值)的比例是

1*1/2 + 1/2*1/2 : 0*1/2 + 1/2*1/2= 0.75 ： 0.25= 3 ： 1= 母： 父

所以說，如果你：

1. 是男生，如果你覺得你很笨的話。你千萬要娶一個聰明的女生來。這樣你小孩翻盤的機率還有七成五，人生還是充滿了希望。

2. 是女生，如果你覺得你很笨的話，因為，你翻人家盤的機率有七成五...。.啊，我不能再說了.......。.總之，最近天氣不錯，出去走走。

3. 當你看到一個男生很聰明的時候，則，他父親很聰明的機率是 0% (應該說，就算他父親很聰明，也對他是沒有影響的)，可是他母親很聰明的機率是100%。

所以說，如果你在考慮要嫁給一個很聰明的男生的時候，你就要小心他媽媽，可能會是一個很會算計的婆婆。

反之，當你看到一個男生很笨的時候，沒錯，他通常會很有錢，這是上帝的安排，上帝為了不讓人類滅亡，所以他會讓很笨的人很有錢，這樣他才能娶到聰明的女生。

性格是誰的遺傳大？

——爸爸。

性格是父親的遺傳大。性格的形成固然有先天的成分，但主要是後影響。比較而言，爸爸的影響力會大過媽媽。其中，父愛的作用對女兒的影響更大。一位心理學家認為：“父親在女兒的自尊感，身份感以及溫柔個性的形成過程中，扮演著重要的角色。”另有一位專家提出，父親能傳授給女兒生活上的許多重要的教訓和經驗，使女兒的性格更加豐富多彩。

相貌是誰的遺傳大？

——具體問題具體分析

膚色：

總遵循“相乘後再平均”的自然法則，讓人別無選擇。若父母皮膚較黑，絕不會有白嫩肌膚的子女；若一方白一方黑，大部分會給子女一個“中性”膚色，也有更偏向一方的情況。

眼睛：

(眼形)孩子的眼形、大小遺傳自父母，大眼睛相對小眼睛是顯性遺傳。父母有一人是大眼睛，生大眼睛孩子的可能就會大一些。

(雙眼皮)雙眼皮是顯性遺傳，單眼皮與雙眼皮的人生寶寶極有可能是雙眼皮。但父母都是單眼皮，一般孩子也是單眼皮。

(眼球顏色)黑色等深色相對於淺色而言是顯性遺傳。也就是說，黑眼球和藍眼球的人，所生的孩子不會是藍眼球。

(睫毛)長睫毛也是顯性遺傳的。父母只要一人有長睫毛，孩子遺傳長睫毛的可能性就非常大。

鼻子：

一般來講，鼻子大、高而鼻孔寬呈顯性遺傳。父母中一人是挺直的鼻梁，遺傳給孩子的可能性就很大。鼻子的遺傳基因會一直持續到成年，小時候矮鼻子，成年還可能變成高鼻子。

耳朵：

耳朵的形狀是遺傳的，大耳朵相對於小耳朵是顯性遺傳。父母雙方只要一個人是大耳朵，那麼孩子就極有可能也是一對大耳朵。

下顎：

是不容“商量”的顯性遺傳。父母任何一方有突出的大下巴，子女常毫無例外地長著酷似的下巴，“像”得有些離奇。

肥胖：

會使子女們有53%的機會成為大胖子，如果父母有一方肥胖，孩子肥胖的概率便下降到40%。這說明，胖與不胖，大約有一半可以由人為因素決定，因此，父母完全可以通過合理飲食、充分運動使自己體態勻稱。

禿頭：

造物主似乎偏袒女性，讓禿頭只傳給男子。比如，父親是禿頭，遺傳給兒子概率則有50%，就連母親的父親，也會將自己禿頭的25%的概率留給外孫們。這種傳男不傳女的性別遺傳傾向，讓男士們無可奈何。

青春痘：

這個讓少男少女耿耿於懷的容顏症，居然也與遺傳有關。因為父母雙方若患過青春痘，子女們的患病率將比無家庭史者高出20倍。

腿型：

酷似父母的那雙脂肪堆積的腿，完全可以通過充分的鍛煉而塑造為修長健壯的腿。倒是那雙腿若因遺傳而顯得過長或太短時，就無法再塑，只有聽任自然了。

KJ -- King Junior

I started to use KJ to represent my lil' one lately. Does KJ sound good? Hahaha.... KJ means King Junior! :D KJ oh KJ, I like this short form of nickname so so much! If I have a baby girl next round, I'll call her EJ, which represent Eunice Junior, hahahaha!!! Hmmm.... Let's focus on KJ now first.

KJ KJ KJ! I like KJ! =)

Good and relaxing mood

I'm glad that I did go for a trip after knowing that I am diagnosed with Hypothyroidism. I'm relief after the trip because relaxing mood does help to ease my condition and worries. Pregnancy does change a woman's health due to the hormone change. Good mood is the best medicine after all.

After chatting with a few cousins and friends of mine, my condition seems controllable. As long as my physician and Gynae do monitor my health condition with blood test, I would be fine. And so does KJ. I keep telling KJ that he'll be a healthy and happy boy. And he'll be a full term baby.

Moreover, Raimond Lap's musics ease my mood every single minute. KJ seems calm while I listen to Raimond's songs. And my blood pressure is under control by having a relaxing mood.

Alrighty, keep it up! =)

買買買

天啊！我在台灣買了很多很多 KJ 的東西！老公說，如果我繼續待在台灣一兩個禮拜，他可要幫我把我的戰力品船運回家了，呵呵！

KJ，我們買了很多東西給你哦！有你的小衣服，小玩具，書本，用品等等。媽咪自己都差點忘了買自己的孕婦用品呢！你這個幸福的小傢伙，爹地媽咪都好愛你唷，呵呵！

書本，我最不能掉以輕心的 ITEM。我很注重看書的好習慣，和書本的選擇性。我很高興得找到了一些我很喜歡的書本，和給 KJ 看的書本和畫本。KJ，爹地媽咪都是愛書人。我們希望你也能參與和我們一起享受看書的樂趣。書中自有黃金屋。而我們也選擇了英文和中文書給 KJ。KJ 一定要學會讀中英文書！

買買買，我們都開始為 KJ 而忙了。

感謝堂姐一家人

我在台北的日子，堂姐一家人都很照顧我這個大肚婆。而我的 KJ 也從來沒有餓過，哈哈哈！在台灣的十天，我的體重增加了2 KG，夠力夠力夠力！！！但是，我真的很享受台灣食物，哈哈！KJ，你真的是有口福哩！希望你將來不會是個偏食的小朋友哦！

而我的6歲表姪子陽陽也很棒！他還替我想了一個英文名字給 KJ － Wester Lau。雖然我們還沒有確定 KJ 的中英文名字，但是6歲陽陽的細心真的是讓我整個人都融化掉了！孕婦是不是都比較容易被感動啊？哈哈哈！

堂姐一家人的照顧真的是讓我說不完，感動和感激都是滿滿的在我的心裡和記憶里。謝謝你們讓我的懷孕過程當中留下美好的回憶！謝謝叻！=)

我的腳和你的手

在台灣的十天，我到台中和 KING 住幾天。自己挺著一個大肚子到處去逛和吃，還算不錯。當然，也為 KJ 買了很多東西，很是開心。有位司機先生知道了我獨自去逛，他開玩笑得說，老公不對哦，怎麼能讓太太獨自挺著一個大肚子逛街呢。我笑笑得回答說，我老公很愛我的，我也不會讓他擔心。他用往後鏡看了看我，沒說甚麼，呵呵！

因為我走得很多，老公下班回到酒店，就放了熱水讓我泡泡腳，這是我們在家也回做的事情。啊，舒服多了！泡好了腳，我開始動不到我的腳了！KJ，你一天一天的長大，媽咪的肚子越來越大，媽咪不能親自用手洗腳了！突然間，老公彎下了腰，很用心得用一塊干布幫我擦干腳，說我的腳不能濕濕的，一定要擦干才行。我當時感動得不能自己！謝謝你了，KING！我真的很感動！KJ，因為有你，媽咪看到了爹地的溫柔一面，呵呵！

我的腳，你的手，拉近了我們的距離。這一幕，我永遠也不會忘記！

My first flight with KJ

Well now, we are back from Taiwan! We had a lot of fun time with daddy and mommy's cousin family. And, I'm glad that King Junior (KJ) experienced the first flight with mommy, although daddy can't make it together with us in the round trip. But there are more to come, nothing to worry about!

On the way to Taiwan from Kuala Lumpur, KJ kicked a lot and I guess he didn't know what's going on while the flight was taking off and landing. I touched my baby bump and explained to KJ that we are gonna be alright. Mr. Pilot will ride us to our destination and meet daddy pretty soon. Something to mention, I'm glad that all the flight attendences, airport helpers and bus drivers gave me a hand when I had hard time to carry my luggage. KJ, you are such a lucky star to mommy!

On our way back to M'sia, KJ seemed pretty calm and steady in my baby bump. Welp, KJ, you'll experience more airplane ride in the future because the world is so big and beautiful for you to explore!

We love you, KJ! =)

Airplane ride

I told my baby that we are going for an airplane ride today! Sit tight in my tummy and we'll see daddy soon!

It's funny that I keep talking to my belly. But with the responds and kicking, it brings more happiness to me! I told my Lil' one this early morning, mommy will bring him for an airplane ride this evening and it only last 4 to 5 hours long. We'll reach Taipei pretty late but please hang in there with mommy. Please be good, my baby. Please cooperate with mommy, my baby. We gonna have a fun but also relaxing trip. We'll meet mommy's cousin and your cousin Ryemco. Mommy and daddy will introduce the world and our friends to you, my baby. Get your seat belt ready, baby!

Coby will stay at pet hotel when we are away. I told Coby what he'll do in the pet hotel and who is he going to meet in the pet hotel (oh well, he knows some of his doggy friends there). He seems unhappy with the arrangement but I told Coby that we'll pick him up after our trip. He seems understand. Oh dear Coby, you are such a sweet dog!

Alright, pack things up and get ready. Fasten your seat belt, baby! =)

A wake up call to me -- Hypothyroidism

I'm diagnosed with Hypothyroid and I was confirmed by my Gynae and a physician few days ago through a blood test. Thank godness my condition is pretty mild but I must be under medication as soon as possible. How did I find out? I would say it's blessing in disguise! My blood pressure was high during my last pregnancy check up due to the stair climbing in that morning and so I did the blood test for hypertension test. And that's how we found out that my Thyroid level is lower than the bracket.

After seeing my Gynae and an Endocrine specialist on the same day, they prescribe me the medicine to ease my Thyroid disorder problem. I was worried about the side effect of taking the drug and the harm that'd bring to my unborn baby. Fortunately, there's no harmful effect to my pregnancy and my baby. And so, I've no choice to take the medicine everyday.

I was a bit helpless when I deal with my Endocrine specialist after the confirmation. King is on business trip and I had to handle the emotion all by myself in the specialist hospital. I was pretty upset while driving back home and I even had a few tear drops. How I wish I could have a drug-free pregnancy.

Well, so, I started to do a lot of research online and read as many articles as I can. I realized that how dangerous it could be if I do not take the advice from my doctors. Being a victim of Iodine deficiency, the fetal will not be able to develop his/her brain healthily, which means, it might cause brain retardation to the baby when the baby is born, if the disease is not under control or gets worse. I was so worried and I couldn't think much after reading all these.

I'm lucky to have a cheerful husband. We talked via Skype that night and he told me that we'll be in this together. I felt guilty to take drug during my pregnancy; I felt bad to my baby; I felt sorry to King as I promise to give him a healthy baby. But I felt relief and the pain went away bit by bit after hearing the comforting words from King.

Next day, I talked to a few friends and my cousins who have diagnosed Thyroid disorder before. I want to know the root cause -- family gene or diet or insufficient medical check up or anything. I felt relief after figuring things out. And now, I'm back to the happy-me!

My health condition will be monitored by my Endocrine specialist every month, which is a must. I'm sure my Gynae and my physician will make my pregnancy stable and healthy. This is a wake up call to me and King. It's so important to study our family medical history for more prevention and health awareness. No matter what kinda disease our upper generations have diagnosed, we must do our part on the medical check up and it's always good for our next generation. Do not take health for granted! Medical check up and knowledge studying do not cost us a lot but the emotion of dealing with health issue cannot be described in words! Diabetes, heart disease, Thyroid disorder, Cancer, Papsmear, etc, whatever we have seen in our family, it's something important to know of. It's our responsibility to be aware of for our next generation!

Right now, I feel a lot better because Hypothyroid is not a serious disease after all if it's under control. The medicine that I'm taking now is one kinda natural hormone that good for my baby.

My dearest baby, oh, my dearest baby, mommy and daddy will protect you! We love you! =)

The Man in my world -- the real King

King was back for a short weekend last week. His caring melt my heart. It's not easy to take care of myself mentally during my pregnancy. He miss me and our Lil' one very much. I couldn't ask for more when I think of this wonderful man in my world.

We always believe that it's good to have a short separation for a couple. But it requires more mental support for a preggie when it comes to a short separation, especially I live by myself with the only dog. I'm glad that King was trying his best to be back as early as he could. I saw his effort and the love he is nurturing with this family.

Well, we spent a lot of good quality time together before his next trip. He brought me to get a maternity long jeans, we went for my favorite Japanese food, we hang out in Borders bookstore as usual, he showered Coby and took care of his morning and evening walk, he asked Coby to take care of me when he is away again. I think my pregnancy will not be sailing smoothly without King's support and caring.

Now King is off to business trip again. I'll meet him in Taiwan in a few days time for 10 days trip. This man in my life might not be a perfect man but he's just too perfect to me. I tell my baby that he has a wonderful daddy who miss talking to him everyday. Our baby boy responds to King when the Lil' one heard his voice, even via Skype. Isn't it amazing?!

King told me once, he'll work harder for this family. I hug him silently and thank him for everything.

Again, I wanna thank God to grant me a perfect man and make my life even more beautiful! And, I love you, my love! =)