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Friday, January 7, 2011
Love our kids in a right way
This article is forwarded by a friend of mine. Something to share with all my blog readers. Cheers! =)
One young academically excellent person went to apply for a managerial
position in a big company.
He passed the first interview, the director did the last interview, made
the last decision.
The director discovered from the CV, that the youth's academic result is
excellent all the way, from the secondary school until the postgraduate
research, never has a year he did not score.
The director asked, "Did you obtain any scholarship in school?" and the
youth answered "none".
The director asked, " Is it your father pay for your school fees?" the
youth answered, my father passed away when I was one year old, it is my
mother who paid for my school fees.
The director asked, " Where did your mother worked?" the youth answered,
my mother worked as cloth cleaner. The director requested the youth to
show his hand, the youth showed a pair of hand that is smooth and perfect
to the director.
The director asked, " Did you ever help your mother washed the cloth
before?" The youth answered, never, my mother always wanted me to study
and read more books, furthermore, my mother can wash cloths faster than
The director said, I had a request, when you go back today, go and help to
clean your mother's hand, and then see me tomorrow morning.
The youth felt that its chance of landing the job is high, when he went
back, he happily wanted to clean his mother's hand, his mother feel
strange, happy but mixed with fear, she showed her hand to the kid.
The youth cleaned his mother's hand slowly, his tear drop down as he did
that. It is first time he found his mother's hand is so wrinkled, and
there are so many bruises in her hand. Some bruises incites pains so
strong that shiver her mother's body when cleaned with water.
This is the first time the youth realized and experienced that it is this
pair of hand that washed the cloth everyday to earn him the school fees,
the bruises in the mother's hand is the price that the mother paid for his
graduation and academic excellence and probably his future.
After finishing the cleaning of his mother hand, the youth quietly cleaned
all remaining clothes for his mother.
That night, mother and sons talked for a very long time.
Next morning, the youth went to the director's office
The director noticed the tear in the youth's eye, asked: " Can you tell
you what have you done and learned yesterday in your house?"
The youth answered, " I cleaned my mother's hand, and also finished
cleaning all the remaining clothes'
The director asked, " please tell me your feeling."
The youth said,
Number 1, I knew what is appreciation, without my mother, there would not
the successful me today.
Number 2, I knew how to work together with my mother, then only I can
realize how difficult and tough to get something done.
Number 3, I knew the importance and value of family relationship.
The director said, " This is what I am asking, I want to recruit a person
that can appreciate the help of other, a person that knew the suffering of
others to get thing done, and a person that would not put money as his
only goal in life to be my manager. You are hired.
Later on, this young person worked very hard, and received the respect of
his subordinates, every employees worked diligently and in a team, the
company's result improved tremendously.
A child who has been protected and habitually given whatever he did, he
developed "entitlement mentality" and always put himself first. He is
ignorance of his parent's effort. When he started work, he assumed every
people must listen to him, and when he became a manager, he would never
know how suffering his employee and always blame others. For this kind of
people, he can have good result, may be successful for a while, but
eventually would not feel sense of achievement, he will grumble and full
of hatred and fight for more. If we are this kind of protective parent,
did we love the kid or destroy the kid?
You can let your kid lived in a big house, eat a good meal, learn piano,
watch a big screen TV. But when you are cutting grass, please let them
experienced it. After a meal, let them washed their plate and bowl
together with their brothers and sisters. It is not because you do not
have money to hire a maid, but it is because you want to love them in a
right way. You want them to understand, no matter how rich their parent
are, one day their hair will grow gray, same as the mother of that young
person. The most important thing is your kid learn how to appreciate the
effort and experience the difficulty and learn the ability to work with
others to get thing done.