爱情宣言

这三个月都是结婚的好时期。我身边也有不少对的 couples 成了 Husband-and-Wife。可喜可贺!

唯一让我有感而发的是，最近好像很流行新郎给新娘的 "爱情宣言" 或 "结婚和约"，让我有话要说。一些新娘小姐总会要求老公做家务，要不就是不管什么情况，一定要把老婆放第一位，否则就是吵架不可以大大声，还要小小声的和对方说话，而且还要当家里的 Queen，还有很多条约。

什么东西嘛?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!

---- 家务，如果你老公不帮你做，他就不爱你了吗?

---- 老婆的确是娶来疼的，但是如果事事都把老婆放在第一位，那也未免太霸道了吧? 那么家人呢?

---- 什么道理嘛? 吵架还要小小声? 虽然我不是一个很厉害吵架的人 (我每次很生气都是把气 cake 起来先，爆发威力却可不小!)，也知道吵架语气不会低声下气，但是就连我自己生气的时候，说话那里有可能是小声的???? 那里有可能??? 莫明其妙嘛! 吵架不大声，那里是吵架? 最重要的是要讲道理嘛!

---- Be the Queen of the house ，我的天啊! 新娘小姐，你去排戏比较适合哩! .................. (无语)

还有很多看了我就想笑的条约。。。。。

当别人的老婆，当别人的媳妇，我们又能给对方什么呢? 先告诉对方，你能为他做些什么，给他些什么吧 ---- 新郎哥儿们，祝你们好运!

我还好

久违了，好一段时间没 UPDATE 我的 BLOG 了。最近身体不怎么听话。累的时候我只好小睡一下 30 分钟。

最近 COBY 特别听话呢。它对我总是特别斯文，好乖!

老公在工作方面特忙。我除了听他苦诉工作上的问题，也想尽办法弄些好吃的东西让他品尝，满足他的肠胃，呵呵! 虽然我不是什么大厨，但弄些好吃的羊排我还行。

年尾的几个月，都是结婚的好日子。我和老公也参加了两对很要好的朋友的婚宴，扮美美去参加婚礼。我，是可以很美一下的。哈哈哈 -- 自恋!

A husband and wife team.

We had a very good start in November. =)

King attend his first drum lesson with my companion; I attend my first violin lesson with King's companion. It might sound funny a bit like a kid goes to school on the first day with parent's companion, hahaha! Yet, we did enjoy each other's companion during our first 30 minutes of instrument lesson. We were curious with the drum and violin instruments at first. And, we were very happy and blessed to have two kind and nice drum/violin teachers.

King is very happy and excited that his drum teacher will teach him his favorite band and songs when King is ready. I see the other side of King as well when he plays drum. Haha!

I'm very excited but also nervous about my violin lesson as it's not as easy as I thought. Yet it's something new and fun to me.

We are glad that the headmaster of the music school is a kind and friendly mid-40 woman. Hopefully, we'll be able to perform in public one day with our joy and fun, we were told by our teachers and the headmaster. We will not go for any exam but we definitely will have fun on it down the road.

The husband and wife team, that's me and King! Hahaha!!! :D

不安

这阵子，我一直觉得不安。不安在 Internet 上面能 post 多少事情。而在 Internet 的世界里，到底有多少人，有何人在 monitor 你的生活，甚至是在 study 你的思考。想起来，真的是有点恐怖!

我开始在 Facebook 里把我很多照片给删除了；我开始不在 Facebook 和 blog 写太多我的思考了；我开始考虑到我和家人的安全和隐私权；我开始了很多其他的思考。我是不是想太多了呀?

什么是隐私权? 这真的是要看自己能够保护自己多少了。Privacy... Yes...

We are enrolled!

I've enrolled my violin lesson, ah ha! :D
King has enrolled his drum lesson! Rock school, here King comes! :D

Last Saturday, King and I were talking about what lessons we want to go for in our life. With no kids commitment yet, we decided to pursue what we are going to do right away. Hence, we drove to a music school nearby our house right after our breakie last Saturday. And here we go, we've enrolled ourselves to the music school! Hooray!

King choose a rocky instrument -- Drum! Ah ha! I can't wait to see my King to play drum with his head scarf, hehehe! I choose Violin from the list. We are going to have fun, I'm sure. No exam, no concert performance, no stress. Just to have FUN out of it! :D

Oh, my... We are so excited about our new lessons coming up! Can't wait to meet our new teachers. =)

The grass is always greener on the other side

There's a say saying that, "The grass is always greener on the other side". I agree with my two hands and two legs.

We all tend to look at the good side of the other party and what they are having. But we never thought of what they are lacking of. Hence, we are so unsatisfied with our current life and start complaining. I envy you, you envy me. And this chain goes on and on. Nobody is satisfied with our own current life.

What I can say is, "I do not have many things; yet I have many things, at the same time". =)

給你五分鐘自我介紹，你可以講滿五分鐘嗎？

人生除了事業與工作，你有其他值得驕傲的回憶嗎？

一位朋友被總公司調回美國去受訓，回來後像換了一個人似的，臉上有笑容、生活有朝氣，跟他過去總是唉聲嘆氣、皺著眉頭的模樣真是判若兩人。他的改變引起了大家的好奇，於是羅漢請觀音，把他找出來吃飯，拷問他改變的原因。他說到美國後，公司用巴士把他們載到一個山明水秀的深山旅館中，使他們除了吃喝拉撒睡，什麼地方也去不了，只能乖乖去上課。

第一天，老師叫他們做五分鐘的自我介紹，他原以為很容易，想不到不到兩分鐘就把學經歷、名片上的頭銜，連家庭成員都講完了，剩下三分鐘無話可講。老師厲聲問他，「你人生的經歷難道連五分鐘都填不滿？」他悚然而驚，對呀! ！活了快五十個年頭，怎麼連五分鐘都填不滿？但是卻真的想不起自己做了什麼值得拿出來講的大事。他生活的重心一直是工作，但是這些人都是同一公司的高階主管，做的工作跟他都很相似，有什麼好講？除了工作，其他乏善可陳。所以他跟老師告饒說「真的沒有了」。

老師反問他，「你小時候的志願是什麼？」，他想了一下說「籃球國手」，因為他父親有一本珍貴的剪貼本，上面全是民國四十幾年，四國五強籃球賽的剪報。看他父親對籃球神往的樣子，他曾立志做國手，為國爭光。當然，運動員是千中取一，他沒有做成，但是籃球一直是他的最愛，只是工作忙，很久不曾碰球了，兒子履次哀求他去打，都沒空。

老師叫他想他兒子從一出生，一路成長到現在的影像。他記得兒子剛出生時的樣子、剛入學一年級的樣子，但是很快就變成高中生的樣子了，中間的十年他怎麼也想不起來，好像一晃就過了。 最 後老師說，「你難道願意死後墓碑上除了年月日什麼都沒有留下？」他再度震驚，因為他已經明瞭他人生是白走的了。

他開始了解他人生的優先順序放的不對，時間不能逆轉，他們這些穿西裝、打領帶、坐冷氣房的有錢人，表面上很有成就，但是名片一拿掉就什麼都不是了。

人生的意義在心靈的富足，心靈的富足在對別人的關懷、照顧與奉獻，他在這方面太貧乏了，連自己的家人都沒有照顧好，遑論對? 懋、對他人。

所以他回國後，開始把白天做不完的工作帶回家，想辦法跟家人一起進晚餐，飯後還陪他太太散步一小時後再進書房去工作。週末一定陪兒子打籃球，星期天則全家去替他母親買菜、打掃，讓他的弟妹可以休息一下。他說他工作並沒有少做，但生活充實了、家人對他的態度也變好了，他的心情也不一樣了。

說完，大家都一臉肅然，心中都在檢討自己的人生.....

但願大家能及早看到人生的目的，為自己和社會留下一些東西，充實的過一生。

~~ Source from a friend on Facebook.

I miss you all!

I miss all my friends in the States so so much! Yes, I miss you all very much! =)

I miss the golden time we've spent together.

I miss you whoever has been so supportive to me even though we don't see each other very often, maybe once a year or two.

I miss your smile and the laughter we used to have.

I miss you whoever can read my mind without a word from me.

I miss the jokes we used to have and how we teased each other.

I miss the way we posed for a picture.

I miss the car we used to carpool.

I miss the Summer trips we had.

I miss....

I miss everything of you all.

Because....

I don't like the friends here in Asia, although there are a few exceptions.

I don't like the people who are realistic and materialistic here.

I don't like the people who hurts people's feeling for the sake of being a winner here.

I don't, I really don't like them with many reasons.

Thank you for giving me a wonderful memory during my Golden time in the States! Take good care, my dear friends in the States! =)

My dearest dog, the Labby Coby!

I just can't stop loving my Coby, the Labrador! =)

I used to be afraid of dogs when I was little and young. King is the one who changed my mind to loving dogs. During the days and years in the States, King introduced me dogs and how dogs treat their owners and repay their owners in life time. We fall in love with Golden Retriever because of their friendly faces and playful characteristics.

Ever since moving into our new home in Kuala Lumpur, we never thought of having a dog. But Coby came into our life in the right timing. I still remember how cute and lovely Coby was when he was just born. The little seven Labrador puppies were crawling and sleeping next to their mother JJ. King decided to bring Coby back home as my home companion after seeing my love fallen into this little buddy. And, ever since, our life is enlighten by this little puppy everyday and night.

Coby is one year and 9 months old now. How we wish he will not grow up and old fast.

When I wake up in the morning nowadays, Coby wait for me happily by biting his toy(s) at his sleeping area. I put on my sport shoes, Coby bites his red leash, we will go to the park happily together. After our morning walk in the park and Coby has done with his "business", we'll come back home and I'll get ready for Coby's breakfast -- milk and doggy biscuits. After pleasing this little fellow in the morning, I'll bring Coby to our bedroom and greet King! What a happy family scene I can say!

King is busy and stress with work all the time. However, he'll not miss his personal time with Coby every evening in the park. Having a personal touch and conversation with Coby is our daily activity. Surprisingly, Coby is our superstar in the neighborhood. Many kiddies love to play with Coby by throw-and-fetch trick. And, we slowly introduce the kids how nice a dog can be, if you love the dog. A few kiddies will come at my house gate and call Coby, just for the sake of seeing Coby for a second. It's so touching to see a scene like that between kids and Coby.

Coby, you are a wonderful doggy, especially in our heart. When daddy and mommy are upset, you will always be there with us and cheer us up by giving your cute look. You always forgive us when you were scolded by us. We've a place for you in our heart and it'll be forever.

We have friends and families in our life; yet, Coby has merely both of us in his world. Coby, we love you, we really love you! You are an amazing dog! =)

Flightless Bird, American Mouth ~~ Iron Wine

I bump into this beautiful song through Ashley's blog 2 days ago. And I can't stop playing this song!

This song was played in the movie of Twilight. I'm not a fan of Twilight but this beautiful song gives me a sense of peace. Check out the links on youtube:

The original song:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7FddRcJwlT4

The piano piece:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LCG2nRjkLtY

The third quarter of the year

九月风起，十月也来临了。

那天我才问老公，这一次的金融风暴，我们学到了什么? 虽然我们不是什么大投资家，但是总会从中学习到什么吧?!

再过三个月半，我们家的 Coby 就两岁了。我还真的有点舍不得它长大得那么快呢!

搬进我们的新屋子也超过一年半载了。很高兴得我们把屋子布置得还蛮不错的，哈哈! 最重要的是还是我们能快快乐乐得住在一起啦!

而接下来的 last quarter of the year ，希望我们能继续努力，而在明年的 budget 2010 实现我们的小小愿望!

Life is full of bonus!

What's the definition of Friendship? 我这两天一直在想一个很好的答案给自己。朋友，到底定义又是在那里?

当然，我不是一个很好的故事人，更别是在我的世界里说一堆有的没的的 complaint 。然而，我想在我的世界里抒发自己的不解和疑惑。

我不是一个对朋友要求很多的人。然而，我对朋友能做能帮的，我一定尽我所能去做。我不求回报，我也不是想证明些什么。有缘就做一辈子的朋友，没缘的，我也无所谓，反正我又不是活不下去。但是，我就是不喜欢被无赖被误会的感觉。

朋友对我好，我由衷感激。每个人对待朋友的方式都是不同的。我用方式 A 对待你好，我不渴求你用方式 A 回馈我，我那敢要求啊?! 我尊重任何的方式 A 到 Z，甚至是默默无闻的方式。我也无所谓。Life is full of bonus. =)

受伤一下也好啦。人生反正就是这个样子。当你过得快乐得要死的时候，突然间就会有一个天使出现在你身边，提醒你一下，让你痛一下。Life is full of bonus. =)

一位朋友曾经告诉过我一句话: 如果你没有要求太多的话，而你没有 expect 到的都是 bonus。我包着这个心态去处理与面对任何事情 -- Life is full of BONUS!!! 就这样，我的人生都是惊喜与快乐! =)

谢谢那些猪朋狗友给我带来的"有眼泪的欢笑" -- Laugh with tears! 谢谢那些对我没甚特别要求的朋友们 -- 你们的无所谓让我知道，我不是自己一个人在这里讲我的真理，呵呵! 谢谢老公当我一辈子的知心好友 -- 不管是看我的死人臭脸骂人，还是搞笑的一面，呵呵! 也要谢谢一直陪伴我的另一个知心朋友 -- Coby，我的爱狗! 不管我多生气骂你的时候，你到最后还是头低低得来疼我 kiss 我，呵呵! 至于那些把我打下地狱的朋友 -- 谢谢你早点让我知道，什么才叫做真正的朋友，而我会更加珍惜他们。=)

Life is full of Bonus! =)

Happy 09.09.09!

It's a good day today with a good combination -- 09.09.09! And it means a lot to me and King! We registered on 9th of September four years ago and we've became husband-and-wife for four years! Oh wow! I've never thought of being a married woman for that long, haha! And, I'm happy that I've became Mr. Lau all the while that made King's life better, I suppose. Hehe!

Thinking past, we dated in year-end 1999. After 6 years of dating, King proposed to me in June, 2005; we registered in September; we got married in Jan, 2006; we went for honeymoon in May. Wow, we've made it so far!

I'm not fancy with all kinda anniversary with first kiss date or first dance date or first hug date or what-so-ever. But 09.09 means a lot to both of us. We chose to be husband-and-wife officially on 9th of September because it means "Everlasting" in Mandarin. And, we really mean it and we know that we are going through all the obstacles together until we can see our white hair one day.

Thank you, my love, whom have given me the chance to share your happiness and sadness along the years. And I hope that I've been a wonderful wife to you, hehe! Cheers, King!

老伴

昨天和老友 Yen 吃饭叙旧。彼此互相 update 最近过得如何。而 Yen 怀孕了，我们的话题当然是离不开孩子啦。

聊着聊着，Yen 的话让我有很深的感触。而自己一向来也是有这么一个观念，孩子的多寡不是最重要的，我们注重的是 quality, 不是quantity。孩子长大了也会有自己的一片天。而最重要的也是，我们的身体一定要保持健康，身心愉快，财务独立。好让孩子(们)能够放心得打拼他(们)自己的天地。而在年老的岁月里，能够和我们相依陪伴的就是我们的老伴了。因此，拥有相爱的老伴儿是很重要的，因为孩子(们)不是我们最终的依靠。

晚上，我跟 King 在车子里分享了我和 Yen 的话题和想法。我也趁机告诉他说，健康是对自己和爱人所负的责任。有了健康，爱和财富就会跟随着我们，一直到老。我们不知道我们能相依到什么时候，得看我们的缘分了。好好珍惜吧!

The Up

Yes, the Disney cartoon movie -- Up!

King and I caught this movie last week. Bee Ai gave it a thumbs up and we gave it a try. As a cartoon lover, I won't miss it for sure.

King had a teary eyes when the old wife left the old husband after suffering from illness. The 78 years old man continue pursuing the dream of theirs . It really is a good storyline by telling all the audiences that we shall continue make our dreams come true even though it is for someone you love.

Wish our dream comes true, King! =)