Showing posts with label How I deal with my hubby?. Show all posts
Showing posts with label How I deal with my hubby?. Show all posts

Monday, January 24, 2011

我們去看你們了

我和 King 好久好久沒有去我們以前去的殘障孤兒院了。我們決定今年一定要去看孩子們。所以,我們在辦年貨的同一天,我們把 10 包米送過去了。這一次,是帶著 Declan 一起去。

到了門口,孩子們都一如往常得自己開們,一個接一個地來車裡辦貨。手腳靈活,每一個都知道他們應該怎麼做,不爭不搶,沒有爭先恐後,10 包米就很輕易地搬下車了。我抱著小 Declan 坐在車子里,找那幾個我熟悉的臉孔。我沒有辦法下車,Declan 在我的肩上睡著了。我只有在車裡望著他們。啊,他們都長大了!搬完了 10 包米,我們就回家了。

我在車子里跟 King 說,孩子們都長大了,你有注意到他們嗎?他說,嗯,都長大了,但是那個大頭娃娃不在了。我們都停頓了片刻。心裡是有點難過。嗯,他離開了人間之後,我們間中都沒有去看其他的孩子們。

然後,我跟老公說,等 Declan 會走路了,我們帶他來跟孩子們玩。我們的眼神都交加而明白怎麼做了。

有時候我會覺得上天很不公平。但是這所謂的不公平,確讓我明白我更加應該珍惜自己所擁有的一切。

如果你也有感覺,也去看一看這群孩子們吧!

Friday, January 7, 2011

Love our kids in a right way

This article is forwarded by a friend of mine. Something to share with all my blog readers. Cheers! =)
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One young academically excellent person went to apply for a managerial
position in a big company.

He passed the first interview, the director did the last interview, made
the last decision.

The director discovered from the CV, that the youth's academic result is
excellent all the way, from the secondary school until the postgraduate
research, never has a year he did not score.

The director asked, "Did you obtain any scholarship in school?" and the
youth answered "none".

The director asked, " Is it your father pay for your school fees?" the
youth answered, my father passed away when I was one year old, it is my
mother who paid for my school fees.

The director asked, " Where did your mother worked?" the youth answered,
my mother worked as cloth cleaner. The director requested the youth to
show his hand, the youth showed a pair of hand that is smooth and perfect
to the director.

The director asked, " Did you ever help your mother washed the cloth
before?" The youth answered, never, my mother always wanted me to study
and read more books, furthermore, my mother can wash cloths faster than
me.

The director said, I had a request, when you go back today, go and help to
clean your mother's hand, and then see me tomorrow morning.

The youth felt that its chance of landing the job is high, when he went
back, he happily wanted to clean his mother's hand, his mother feel
strange, happy but mixed with fear, she showed her hand to the kid.

The youth cleaned his mother's hand slowly, his tear drop down as he did
that. It is first time he found his mother's hand is so wrinkled, and
there are so many bruises in her hand. Some bruises incites pains so
strong that shiver her mother's body when cleaned with water.

This is the first time the youth realized and experienced that it is this
pair of hand that washed the cloth everyday to earn him the school fees,
the bruises in the mother's hand is the price that the mother paid for his
graduation and academic excellence and probably his future.

After finishing the cleaning of his mother hand, the youth quietly cleaned
all remaining clothes for his mother.

That night, mother and sons talked for a very long time.

Next morning, the youth went to the director's office

The director noticed the tear in the youth's eye, asked: " Can you tell
you what have you done and learned yesterday in your house?"

The youth answered, " I cleaned my mother's hand, and also finished
cleaning all the remaining clothes'

The director asked, " please tell me your feeling."

The youth said,
Number 1, I knew what is appreciation, without my mother, there would not
the successful me today.
Number 2, I knew how to work together with my mother, then only I can
realize how difficult and tough to get something done.
Number 3, I knew the importance and value of family relationship.

The director said, " This is what I am asking, I want to recruit a person
that can appreciate the help of other, a person that knew the suffering of
others to get thing done, and a person that would not put money as his
only goal in life to be my manager. You are hired.

Later on, this young person worked very hard, and received the respect of
his subordinates, every employees worked diligently and in a team, the
company's result improved tremendously.


A child who has been protected and habitually given whatever he did, he
developed "entitlement mentality" and always put himself first. He is
ignorance of his parent's effort. When he started work, he assumed every
people must listen to him, and when he became a manager, he would never
know how suffering his employee and always blame others. For this kind of
people, he can have good result, may be successful for a while, but
eventually would not feel sense of achievement, he will grumble and full
of hatred and fight for more. If we are this kind of protective parent,
did we love the kid or destroy the kid?

You can let your kid lived in a big house, eat a good meal, learn piano,
watch a big screen TV. But when you are cutting grass, please let them
experienced it. After a meal, let them washed their plate and bowl
together with their brothers and sisters. It is not because you do not
have money to hire a maid, but it is because you want to love them in a
right way. You want them to understand, no matter how rich their parent
are, one day their hair will grow gray, same as the mother of that young
person. The most important thing is your kid learn how to appreciate the
effort and experience the difficulty and learn the ability to work with
others to get thing done.

Thursday, October 28, 2010

Story time between a father and a baby



I like to see the moments of King & Declan, actually. They always make me laugh no matter who lead the story telling session. One will come up with funny description, one will babbling non-stop. Ahh... These 2 persons meant so much to me!! I just can't live without them -- the father and the son! =)

Monday, August 23, 2010

Hi from Big Daddy!


Declan, this is your Dad, your proud Daddy! He feels proud every time when you were noticed by stranger outdoor because you look just too cute! And, I love this pinky romper with "If you think I'm cool, you should see my dad"! The shirt says it all, don't you agree, Declan? =)

Daddy loves holding you in his arm all the time. He looks for every single chance to bathe you, change diaper for you and bottle feed you! He just can't stop looking at you and start having a man-talk with ya! I guess you'll be quite occupied by everyone in this house! Or the other way round? Oh hahahaha....

You've a Big Daddy! He's mommy's Big Man! Mommy loves him very very much! And, I hope you love him too! Because Daddy loves you without stopping a single second. Enjoy your days and nights with Big Daddy! =)

Thursday, April 22, 2010

Taking a break

King is taking a break from work lately. Thank godness he's with me all this while when I lost my Grandma and my baby bump is growing bigger and heavier. He's such a kind hubby, I'd say.

** Well, we did some gardening together, although I hardly do much and King did most of it under Coby's inspection, haha! We know that we will not have time to do gardening together when baby KJ comes to this world.

** King goes for shopping with me all the time. We shop for home furnitures and stuff for baby KJ. It's so good to have a good driver when my belly is big, ha!

** King brings me for swimming with my sister when we have time during weekend. King is a good swimmer. We agree to let baby KJ to take up swimming lesson when he's ready in a few months old.

** We brought Coby to see vet when Coby started to unwell a week ago. Oh man, I don't know how am I going to handle Coby without King because my baby bump is heavy. Coby, we can't live without daddy, do you know that?

** We hang around in bookstore again when we have time. We bought new books for ourselves and baby KJ, again. Hehe!

** We have a lot of DVDs on our TV shelves. I cried wholeheartedly when we watched "Ten Promises", damn it! More DVDs to come while sitting next to King.

** Walking Coby together in the park is our usual daily job. We started to imagine when baby KJ is sitting in his baby stroller, checking out the park and birds in the park together with us, that's nice and sweet!

** Of course, King tend to have more sweet time for me and baby KJ. We talk to and play with baby KJ every morning and every evening. Baby KJ is starting to build the bonding with us and we enjoy every moment with him.

There are more things that we haven't start doing..... Catching movies in theatre, having fun in the kitchen together, designing the room for baby KJ, more and more.

It's good to take a break from work. Life with family is beautiful, beautiful, beautiful!

Wednesday, March 31, 2010

我的腳和你的手

在台灣的十天,我到台中和 KING 住幾天。自己挺著一個大肚子到處去逛和吃,還算不錯。當然,也為 KJ 買了很多東西,很是開心。有位司機先生知道了我獨自去逛,他開玩笑得說,老公不對哦,怎麼能讓太太獨自挺著一個大肚子逛街呢。我笑笑得回答說,我老公很愛我的,我也不會讓他擔心。他用往後鏡看了看我,沒說甚麼,呵呵!

因為我走得很多,老公下班回到酒店,就放了熱水讓我泡泡腳,這是我們在家也回做的事情。啊,舒服多了!泡好了腳,我開始動不到我的腳了!KJ,你一天一天的長大,媽咪的肚子越來越大,媽咪不能親自用手洗腳了!突然間,老公彎下了腰,很用心得用一塊干布幫我擦干腳,說我的腳不能濕濕的,一定要擦干才行。我當時感動得不能自己!謝謝你了,KING!我真的很感動!KJ,因為有你,媽咪看到了爹地的溫柔一面,呵呵!

我的腳,你的手,拉近了我們的距離。這一幕,我永遠也不會忘記!

Tuesday, March 16, 2010

My chicken essence

I made King my own brand of chicken essence when he was back from a business trip. Ah ha! It took me only 4 hours to make it and it did smell good, hahaha! I showed King how to prepare the ingredients and the kitchen utensils while showing him off my chicken essence. I can see the smile on his face! :p

Well, so..... King loves my chicken essence!! I'm glad that I can make more home brand chicken essence for this family, haha! Chicken oh chicken, you taste too nice! :p

The Man in my world -- the real King

King was back for a short weekend last week. His caring melt my heart. It's not easy to take care of myself mentally during my pregnancy. He miss me and our Lil' one very much. I couldn't ask for more when I think of this wonderful man in my world.

We always believe that it's good to have a short separation for a couple. But it requires more mental support for a preggie when it comes to a short separation, especially I live by myself with the only dog. I'm glad that King was trying his best to be back as early as he could. I saw his effort and the love he is nurturing with this family.

Well, we spent a lot of good quality time together before his next trip. He brought me to get a maternity long jeans, we went for my favorite Japanese food, we hang out in Borders bookstore as usual, he showered Coby and took care of his morning and evening walk, he asked Coby to take care of me when he is away again. I think my pregnancy will not be sailing smoothly without King's support and caring.

Now King is off to business trip again. I'll meet him in Taiwan in a few days time for 10 days trip. This man in my life might not be a perfect man but he's just too perfect to me. I tell my baby that he has a wonderful daddy who miss talking to him everyday. Our baby boy responds to King when the Lil' one heard his voice, even via Skype. Isn't it amazing?!

King told me once, he'll work harder for this family. I hug him silently and thank him for everything.

Again, I wanna thank God to grant me a perfect man and make my life even more beautiful! And, I love you, my love! =)

Thursday, March 4, 2010

我們的成長

你將會是個怎樣的媽媽呢?我不斷地問自己,提醒自己。

除了要當一個能培育好下一代的好媽媽,我還很注重一件事情。那就是我不要當一個整天只懂家務事的媽媽。除了煮飯燒菜,除了家務清理,除了接送孩子上下課,我還懂些甚麼呢?我還能學習甚麼呢?我能做些甚麼而不會和孩子有代溝呢?地理?歷史?財經?運動?錢財管理?算起來是數不清呀!

我和 KING 討論過,當我們的孩子問很多“為甚麼”時,要如何應付。我們的地理歷史不是一百分,經濟學也不是 A+,動物植物學樣樣半桶水,而我們的耐心更不是一百分呀!經過商討之後,我們希望我們能和孩子一起努力尋找答案,不恥下問的精神,應該要和孩子一樣。但是,教導孩子自尋正確的資訊更是重要。我發覺到現代的孩子們很愛問問題,但確不知如何自尋答案。

孩子讓我們成長
孩子讓我們懂得甚麼是愛
孩子讓我們學習更多
孩子讓我們的人生可以更完美

感激寶寶的爹地

老公出差去了,而我自己照顧自己的日子又開始了。當他抱著我,告訴我要好好照顧自己和寶寶的時候,我的眼眶確濕了。本以為我不會怎麼樣,因為我多兩個禮拜會去和老公會面,順便到處去走走,跟寶寶介紹一下這個世界,是件開心的事。但是,我的懷孕荷爾蒙確作怪,讓我突然間變得很無助。當然,我不想讓寶寶的爹地知道我流淚的事,好讓他安心得去公幹。所以,我們家的 Coby就傻傻地看著我在家流淚。可憐的狗。

在老公出差前,他都很細心地盡量把我不方便做的而他確可以幫上忙的事情一一搞定。幫我清理屋子啦,修修草地啦,買 Coby 的狗餅啦,交代我如何用新的 printer 啦,把要清的賬單和單子準備好啦,換床單啦,這個那個的。雖然我的肚子不是特別大,但是行動方面還是會有點兒喘和慢。而他的細心確是滿滿的,我的感動也是滿滿的!

很多人都說,懷第一胎時,老公都會特別緊張。不管甚麼事情,老婆都是最大!呵呵!我曾經問過 King, 當我有機會懷第二胎時,他會不會像現在這樣得對我體貼和細心。他笑了笑,拍了拍我的手。而一些媽媽級的朋友告訴我,要好好利用我懷第一胎的機會,叫老公做這個做那個。否則,懷第二胎時,就很難有這種特權了。呵呵!不管怎樣,我還是很感激 KING 對我的體貼和幫忙!兩個人要一輩子的在一起生活,感激的心很重要。這也是讓我們不管走到那裡都一直牽手的原故。

謝謝你叻,King!我肚子里的寶寶以你為傲!加油!=)

Thursday, February 4, 2010

Magician's show time

I had a good laugh yesterday because of my dearly husband.

After taking evening shower, I stepped out from the bathroom in a relaxing way. Out of the sudden, King showed me a magic in front of my eyes. "Let me be your magician!", he said. And then, he hold his iPod with his one hand. Showing me his iPod from left to right, from right to left. After that, he could hold his iPod by using his single thumb only. I was amazed and wow! And then, he raised his eye brows and gave me a funny look -- I'm the Magician, hehehe! I burst into laugh. At the end, I found out there was a sticker behind the iPod!!!! And, that was how his only thumb hold his iPod! Duh..... But, we had a good laugh and it made my evening!

Oh my dear hubby, you are a great magician in my heart! Thanks for the show! =)

Tuesday, February 2, 2010

Time wait for no man

The clocks tick non-stop. I just realized that how time pass by in a fast pace when I'm pregnant. I'm in month 4 now, wow! 5 more months, we'll be able to see our little bub in real! Can you believe it?!

Stepping into my second trimester, I feel a lot better and more energetic although I don't have much serious nausea. And now, I start to pick up the books on the tables and bookshelves again. Reading articles on the Internet is one of my daily things-to-do. I just can't stop reading.

I'm glad that King is willing to read the Chapter-to-the-Fathers. He started to understand how amazing a life is developed and shaped week by week, month by month. We build this family together with our love and patience. King is a good reader, either from book or my mind.

Time wait for no man. Tick tuck tick tuck tick tuck.....

Friday, January 22, 2010

原來

我第一次嘗試到沒有老公在身邊的失落感,是前幾天他去了香港公幹幾天的第一晚。天啊,好難受啊!我簡直是難受到不知如何是好!我不曾有過這種失落感。因為,老公經常出國公幹,我也早已習慣了。但是,那一晚的我,就是莫名奇妙地感覺到沒有他在身邊的難過。

原來,跟老公在一起十年了,他還是對我很重要的。
原來,老公在我的生活中是那麼重要的。
原來,我們還是很依賴對方的。
原來,我們依舊還是很愛對方的。

有人問我說,世界上到底有沒有真愛?我不知道要如何給一個很好的答案。但是,我很慶幸的是,我找到了我的真愛。謝天謝地!

老公,歡迎你回到這個家!

Tuesday, January 19, 2010

Baby IQ

一天,我在一本 magazine 和 Internet 讀到說,如果孕婦吐得越多,根據統計,寶寶會越聰明,能夠有好成績。

我把這消息告訴老公說,嘿,我沒有吐哩,我生不到一個聰明的寶寶給你了,呵呵!老公“啊”了一聲。我又說,你真的相信嗎,你真的介意嗎?老公告訴我說,最重要的是寶寶健康和快樂啦!我們很開心的笑啦!

我不會生一個科學家寶寶,也不會生一個讀書得第一名的寶寶,更不會生一個當總統的寶寶。哈哈哈!我們對自己的智商程度都知曉啦。寶寶健康和開心最重要。而孩子以後的學習環境和 EQ 磨練更是重要過科學家的智商。處世待人更是重要過成績表。

很多人都會認為,生出健康的寶寶都是理所當然的事情。但是,我們確是要求寶寶要健康的長大。沒有了健康,其他的都是虛假的。

人生里有太多東西是要讓我們去發掘的。而懷孕的過程當中,我們也學習到了如何面對人生。呵呵!=)

Friday, January 15, 2010

Happy Anniversary & Happy Birthday!

15th of Jan is a special date to me and King. It was our wedding anniversary and our wedding was held 4 years ago. We've been together for 10 years, oh my god! How did we make it and walked through the 10 years together?! Time flies! Happy Anniversary, my love! =)

It is Coby's second birthday today. We sang birthday song to Coby and high five with him, hahaha! I'm glad that Coby has turn out a bravo and macho dog nowadays! Coby, we love you! =)

Tuesday, January 12, 2010

The unknown obstacle and tough decisions

Everybody wish to have a smooth-sailing pregnancy process. And so do we. Even though I've a strong feeling of having a healthy baby, King and I did talk about any unknown obstacles and what are our tough decisions. This was raised by my sister-in-law and I do think this is not a bad topic to discuss.

What if the baby is mentally ill?
What if the baby is physically ill?
What if the baby is a premie?
What if I diagnose with pregnancy hypertension?
What are we gonna do?
Shall we continue my pregnancy?
Shall we let go the fetus and try for another one?

I'm glad that King is open-minded to talk about all these with me. We are pretty clear and calm for this discussion. And, fortunately, our thinking is the same and we know what's in our mind clearly to answer all the questions above.

It's good to read more books and have a healthy discussion with our partner. We can't foresee tomorrow but we can remain calm and prepare for a tough decision. God bless our baby! =)

Sunday, January 10, 2010

趣事一則

最近的我,半夜總是會起來上廁所。然後,就很難再入眠。醫生說這是正常的。

今早凌晨 5 點多,老公醒來上廁所。然後,就輪到我去上廁所,順便也拉拉肚子。過了大概 10 分鐘,我上床準備繼續睡覺,我看見老公把自己包得密不透風的,而他的樣子應該是熟睡了。我確對他說,“你很像木乃伊哩!”!他沒回應我。然後,我又繼續說,“嘿,木乃伊英文叫甚麼嚇?”,我也不知道為甚麼我會問這種無聊問題。老公小小聲得說,“mum-my....”。我還 “甚麼” 了三次,才聽清楚。得到了答案之後,我們兩個又繼續昏睡了。

今天吃午餐時間,我們才想起這件事情。莫名奇妙地嘲笑對方有多麼得無聊和神經質。睡覺時間一個問木乃伊英文叫甚麼,而另一個還會在昏睡中給答案。天啊!!!!笑到眼淚都飆出來了!

懷孕期間多點無理頭趣事也不錯。笑笑沒煩惱!=D

Thursday, January 7, 2010

Congratulations, my father-to-be!

Congratulations, King! =)

You will be a father soon in coming July! I am able to sense the joy and excitement from you since the first day we knew about the surprise. And, I know how curious both of us were when we saw our little one from the ultrasound machine. And, I know how big your burden will be since then. Your feeling is a sense of complication.

Thanks for helping me out for doing the house chores when I need. And, I know my craving for food is like killing me and you all the time. But your patience melt my heart and my hungry tummy. Moreover, Coby enjoys his shower time with you, ha! I, sometimes, feel bad for leaving all these things to you. I can see how a father-to-be shape your characteristics day by day. And, I know that you will be a good father one day!

Thanks for telling me your jokes and your big smile all the time. Your big hug and morning-hello to my tummy makes my day everyday. We are one big family.

There are few more months to go before seeing and holding our little one. I hope and I'm sure that both of us will be able to enjoy my pregnancy process happily and calmly. I've promised you to take care of myself well and control my emotion if possible (yes, blame the hormone, haha!). I know that you are always there for me when I'm miserable and in doubt. You are a good husband, in deed.

I've so much to say to you, my love. I'm sure you are able to sense my appreciation.

Congratulations, my father-to-be! I love you! =)

Thursday, November 5, 2009

A husband and wife team.

We had a very good start in November. =)

King attend his first drum lesson with my companion; I attend my first violin lesson with King's companion. It might sound funny a bit like a kid goes to school on the first day with parent's companion, hahaha! Yet, we did enjoy each other's companion during our first 30 minutes of instrument lesson. We were curious with the drum and violin instruments at first. And, we were very happy and blessed to have two kind and nice drum/violin teachers.

King is very happy and excited that his drum teacher will teach him his favorite band and songs when King is ready. I see the other side of King as well when he plays drum. Haha!

I'm very excited but also nervous about my violin lesson as it's not as easy as I thought. Yet it's something new and fun to me.

We are glad that the headmaster of the music school is a kind and friendly mid-40 woman. Hopefully, we'll be able to perform in public one day with our joy and fun, we were told by our teachers and the headmaster. We will not go for any exam but we definitely will have fun on it down the road.

The husband and wife team, that's me and King! Hahaha!!! :D

Tuesday, October 20, 2009

We are enrolled!

I've enrolled my violin lesson, ah ha! :D
King has enrolled his drum lesson! Rock school, here King comes! :D

Last Saturday, King and I were talking about what lessons we want to go for in our life. With no kids commitment yet, we decided to pursue what we are going to do right away. Hence, we drove to a music school nearby our house right after our breakie last Saturday. And here we go, we've enrolled ourselves to the music school! Hooray!

King choose a rocky instrument -- Drum! Ah ha! I can't wait to see my King to play drum with his head scarf, hehehe! I choose Violin from the list. We are going to have fun, I'm sure. No exam, no concert performance, no stress. Just to have FUN out of it! :D

Oh, my... We are so excited about our new lessons coming up! Can't wait to meet our new teachers. =)