Dolphin in Tahiti

我們去看你們了

2011-01-24T18:42:00.000+08:00

我和 King 好久好久沒有去我們以前去的殘障孤兒院了。我們決定今年一定要去看孩子們。所以，我們在辦年貨的同一天，我們把 10 包米送過去了。這一次，是帶著 Declan 一起去。

到了門口，孩子們都一如往常得自己開們，一個接一個地來車裡辦貨。手腳靈活，每一個都知道他們應該怎麼做，不爭不搶，沒有爭先恐後，10 包米就很輕易地搬下車了。我抱著小 Declan 坐在車子里，找那幾個我熟悉的臉孔。我沒有辦法下車，Declan 在我的肩上睡著了。我只有在車裡望著他們。啊，他們都長大了！搬完了 10 包米，我們就回家了。

我在車子里跟 King 說，孩子們都長大了，你有注意到他們嗎？他說，嗯，都長大了，但是那個大頭娃娃不在了。我們都停頓了片刻。心裡是有點難過。嗯，他離開了人間之後，我們間中都沒有去看其他的孩子們。

然後，我跟老公說，等 Declan 會走路了，我們帶他來跟孩子們玩。我們的眼神都交加而明白怎麼做了。

有時候我會覺得上天很不公平。但是這所謂的不公平，確讓我明白我更加應該珍惜自己所擁有的一切。

如果你也有感覺，也去看一看這群孩子們吧！

稀有品種

2011-01-14T15:11:00.000+08:00

昨天一位好朋友和我聊到說，若要她放棄她的事業，來個短暫的休息，在家煮飯洗衣燒菜，沒有月薪，她沒有勇氣踏出這一步。我想，要放棄高薪，來個日子大改革，生活品味的改變，真的不是那麼簡單。然而，若沒有試一試，那就只有說不完的嘮叨了。可悲的是，害怕後悔。

在繼續寫這篇文章的時候，我要鼓勵那些願意放下自己的一切，為自己的家付出所有的代價的每一位媽媽－－掌聲鼓勵鼓勵！！！！！啪啪啪！

我想，重點是，不管是當個事業女性，又或者是家庭主婦／媽媽，一定要是“做你最喜歡的事業”！對我來說，家人的幸福，就是我永久的事業。每一個人對生活的要求和品質都不同。而每一份事業也並不代表你的最愛，你的成長，你的身份。我身邊確有很多很多男人與女人，整天就是對自己的生活，家人，事業嘮嘮叨叨。永遠有念不完的經。我很想問一句，不喜歡，又為何留在此處繼續嘮叨？

喜歡出去工作的人有很多，喜歡呆在家裡忙的人也很多，喜歡呆在家裡而又有收入的人確很少。我佩服稀有品種。稀有品種都是很珍貴的，令人佩服的，令人愛戴的。我下定決心，要當個稀有品種，讓自己更加珍貴－－至少對我老公和孩子而言啦！

加油哦，Eunice 媽咪！

Colorful books of Declan

2011-01-13T11:25:00.000+08:00

King and I have the same value of reading. Both of us think that it's way too important to read good books. We have limitation in terms of time and knowledge to our child. Hence, we believe that Declan would be able to learn more by reading -- knowledge and well manners. And, that's the main reason for book introduction to little Declan since his 2 months old.

It's okay for us if Declan doesn't understand the whole story line. We think that the colorful pages with bold words is good for this little baby's vision and imagination. At the same time, variety of vocabularies would sound more interesting to the baby. Foremost, the story time that between the parents and the baby is so fun! When we introduced Declan a book during the story time, I let him see the book cover and sign him "Book" with my words. He usually will give me a smile if I show him his favorite books. I'm more than happy to tell him all kinda stories.

We, sometimes, lie down on the bed together for story telling. Otherwise, Declan would sit up front of me. Ahhh.... Declan's small eyes would stare at the books. He would even turn his head to me and smile at me while I did the reading for him. I love the sweet moment!! And yes, baby can read! Baby does read!!

We've bought Declan a lot of books before his arrival. We chose every single books carefully for his good manners build-up. Most importantly, he'd enjoy every single story and book happily. However, we have to be a good role models if we really want Declan to love books. The whole family has a lot of books sit on the tables and bookshelves. We want to read together in near future.

Son, it's sky limit to learn things in our whole life. Daddy and mommy are not looking forward to own an academic child but a happy child. We hope you would find your direction and goal in life. But setting your own goal in life, setting your own value of life is far more important than anything else. Enjoy what you are having, appreciate what we are offering, love what you are holding on. We love you, Declan! =)

Solid food

2011-01-13T11:03:00.000+08:00

Declan has recovered from flu, oh thank God! And so, I was excited to introduce him his first solid food which is cereal! Yay! The date was not so important but it meant so much to me -- 9th of Jan, 6 months & 3 weeks of Declan! That means Declan has entered another stage of growth! =)

Teri passed me different types of organic cereal. Oh man, they all smell so good and yummy! I hope my baby would love it. I waited for King to be home from work for video recording. We were excited for the moment!

I mixed 3 teaspoon of cereal and 1 ounce of warm water into his small bowl. I introduced Declan the cereal before his noon time meal. The little rascal was hungry for milk when I offered him first few of teaspoons of cereal. He likes it, I'd say. Not used to spoon-feed, Declan gave me a funny face. And he pushed my hand with teaspoon into his mouth by using his both hands. Awww.....!!! I love the push!! His hands and eyes are well-coordinated! This little hungry baby cried for milk before finishing his cereal, haha! And then, I offered him another 5 ounces of milk. King and I were glad that he finished everything up! Yay!!

I'm going to offer cereal once a day for a week from now on. Hopefully, he has no food allergy after a week of monitoring. I'd introduce him pumpkin, sweet potato, avocado, etc slowly. Baby Declan, mommy will make you a lot of delicious food, alright?

You are my sunshine, son! We are so proud of you! =)

Your smile bright me up!

2011-01-07T22:16:00.000+08:00

New Year Resolution

2011-01-07T22:06:00.001+08:00

I came across the new year resolution of a friend on Facebook this morning. Her 10 resolution made my day and she's one of my idols!! Coincidently, I came across another email which forwarded by Evelyn today. And I like the idea of the following new year resolution.

1。想辦法努力賺錢，不是如何省錢。
2。憤怒的時候，數到30，再說話。
3。喜歡的東西自己努力買，不要指望別人送。
4。少喝果汁多吃水果，少吃零食多喝水，少坐多站，少想多看，少說多做，少懷舊多憧憬。
5。永遠不會再有第二個男人像爸爸這樣愛你，所以最愛的男人當然是爸爸。
6。如果你不喜歡現在的工作，要麼辭職不幹，要麼就閉嘴不言。
7。寂寞的時候不聽慢歌，站起來做運動或找人八卦。
8。做好防曬，但記得適當的時候曬曬太陽，心情也會進行光合作用。
9。要讀好書，陶冶心情，提高品味。
10。可以淘便宜的衣服，但記得自己的品味比這個價位高。
11。護膚品雖重要，但外養不如內涵。
12。養成寫日記的習慣。
13。可以不認同，但學會尊重。
14。注重內心，但不要忽略外表。

Here are more new year resolution for myself.

15。當一個更好的女兒，太太，母親，和朋友。
16。每天都看10頁書，一個月看至少一本書。買書也要看書。
17。帶 Declan 去旅行看世界。旅途中好好教導 Declan 甚麼是生活。去兩個國家。
18。一定要做一門生意。有開始，就是接近成功的道路。
19。自己製作玩具給 Declan。
20。把 Declan 的房間給佈置和整理好。
21。把自己的健康和皮膚照顧好。當個美麗又性感的媽咪和太太。

It looks like Coby and King are not in the list, hahaha! Well well well, number 15 says it out. I gotta make all these happen before greeting year 2012! All the best, Mrs. Lau! =)

Yes, we smile together!

2011-01-07T15:58:00.000+08:00

This is one of my favorite pictures, although it looks blurry! Yes, we smile together!!!

Play time with big daddy

2011-01-07T15:54:00.000+08:00

King misses playing with Declan every day and night. This little fellow loves anything as long as it's new to him. A sofa pillow can make him smile in the Heaven! Daddy, thanks for coming back home after work! =)

My little model

2011-01-07T15:48:00.000+08:00

A strong mother

2011-01-07T15:24:00.001+08:00

Well, this is me when Declan was down with flu. Yes, it's Me! Hahaha! I've no time for dressing up. The only things that I can do is to stay healthy and be stronger physically and mentally when I've a sick baby at home. Staying hydrated and good quality of rest are two things that I must do mainly. I can't lose the battle before Declan is recovered. Be tough, mothers!! =)

My activities with baby Declan

2011-01-07T15:16:00.003+08:00

It's fun to taking care of a baby at home, well, if you have him occupied. I always run out of ideas when it comes to baby activities. Here are what Declan and I do every day at home. Haha!

~ Reading is a must! We are glad that Declan loves book and reading! I hope this good habit can last him the whole life as we learn through reading besides playing.
~ Toys. Kids without toys are not kids. Whatever toys we hand out Declan, we encourage him to grap, shake, bite, smell, touch, squeeze , whatever sense you name it.
~ Music is on for hours. I turn on the musics for Declan and he has been listening to the musics since he was a fetus in my tummy.
~ Singing. Oh dear, I sing to Declan many many times a day. I feel that singing can calm Declan down and he'd smile at me back. Diaper changing, bathing, dancing, I sing to Declan.
~ Paintings. I let Declan see a few Renaissance paintings for visionary training. I hope the focusing training can help his capability in the future. Surprisingly, his favorite Renaissance painting is Mona Lisa, hahahaha! Now I know the reason of why Mona Lisa is a world famous painting! Babies love to see faces.
~ Walking in the park is our daily activity. I notice that Declan loves to be outdoor. He loves to see the cars moving, the kids playing and running around in the park, Coby running in the park with us, the trees and leaves dancing in the air, the smell of flowers and green, the birds singing! Foremost, he loves to be carried by me by using baby carrier. He's a little explorer. I told Declan, it's good to be part of the nature!
~ The squary screen. Ah ha! I hate to introduce Declan all squary screen which they are TV and computer! However, I only let Declan enjoy his only two music video cartoons -- Elmo Song & Backyardigans for 5 mins. He can only enjoy the show by watching once a week or less.
~ Flash cards. After doing some reading regarding baby brain development, I finally was convinced to try flash cards on Declan. I'm a practical person who believe in learn-through-play. No doubt, playing is still the key in our life, I let Declan to see the pictures and words by using flash cards. He flaps his hands and kicks his legs when he saw the images that he is familiar with the most. I'm amazed by his feedback.
~ Sociology, ah ha! I always introduce our friends and neighbors to Declan. Positive feedback is Declan always smile at them, although he starts having separation anxiety now. He's a contented baby -- this is what I always hear from our friends and neighbors. I hope he is and he'll.
~ Tummy time. Declan doesn't like to sleep on his tummy most of the time. But tummy time is good for his motor skill and cognitive system. So I let him on tummy during his play time everyday.
~ "What are daddy/mommy and coby doing now?". This is what King and I ask Declan every day and night. We try to explain Declan about our daily jobs and he's not alone or ignored. We want to make sure he's well-noticed and well-marked at home although we might be busy with something else when he was alone.
~ Mirroring. I love this activity with Declan! He loves to smile at himself in the mirror although he doesn't recognize himself yet. He is a shy baby, sometimes. I hope seeing himself in the mirror will be able to bring him more confidence.
~ Baby sign language. Ah.... This is something new for Declan when he just turned into 6 months old. This is really really fun, even King loves it too! We hope the sign can help him to communicate with us in near future. Persistent and patient play an important part. I need to be consistent on this.
~ We tell Declan that we love him everyday. Of course, kissing is a must, hahaha! I can't stop kissing my little baby every minute!!!!! Mothers are hopeless on this! Hehe!
~ .... There would be more and more new activities in near future. Swimming, new exploring, baby yoga, and others which I can't wait to let him try. It's really fun to have a baby at home! Babies are our best playmate!! I learn things through spending time with my baby!

Declan's first Christmas

2011-01-07T12:48:00.000+08:00

Merry Christmas, Declan! May Santa brings you happiness and health every year! =)

First hometown trip to Declan

2011-01-07T12:32:00.000+08:00

Yes, we were going back to Kluang and spent our quality time with the four grannies! We were glad that Declan was well-behaved in the car for hours. Son, we are so proud of you! Haha!

Get well soon, my baby!

2011-01-07T12:23:00.000+08:00

Love from the parents is the best medicine for sick baby! Other than that, plenty of water and good quality of sleep do help a lot, too. It's time for you to build up your bullets in your immune system now, son! Get well soon, my little fighter! =)

2011-01-07T12:05:00.000+08:00

I haven't been updating my blog for so long! I mean, it has been very long, ah hahaha! Well, I'm not a lazy butt just that I've been quite tight up with my little one. A lot of busy but fun time with little Declan!

King has back to work as usual since end of November. Hence, I've no helper at home when it comes to Declan and housework. And so, I've to adjust my time table and re-schedule everything. Thank God, everything is up to path and up to my standard -- of course, I can't be perfect, ha! Fortunately, King did help me out for the floor cleaning part, phew! This is the big thing that I hardly do nowadays.

Well, what has happened in the past 2 months? No doubt, Declan has grown up a lot amazingly! It's unbelievable! I brought him for third vaccination and my own thyroid check up in December. We enjoyed our several journeys to the hospital. I really love my baby! =)

Christmas time? Oh yay, Declan had a hectic Christmas holiday schedule with us! Our Christmas Eve dinner with David family and Kurjit family was fun and full of laughter! We love these 2 wonderful families! On Christmas day, we enjoyed our gathering time with friends. The rest of the holiday, we were out and about. My poor little Declan was down with flu after a few days. And so, I've to postpone my plan of introducing solid food to Declan. He was down on New Year -- what a good start of the year 2011! We visited doctor Khoo on 3/1, finally. Without giving Declan medicines, he fights with his own immunity. My little fighter, pls get well soon!

Now, Declan has plenty of phlegm but mild coughing. I hope he is entering the next stage of growing up now. Baby, be tough, ok? We miss the happy face of you so much! =)

We love you, Declan!

我的 Happy Baby

2011-01-07T11:40:00.002+08:00

5 個月了，真快！這 5 個月里，Declan 從 1.7 kg 的體重慢慢伸展到接近 6 kg，我和老公的心是感動滿滿的。謝謝你的努力與合作，小寶貝！

我一直都很感激上天給我安排了一個很好的做月婆。因為有她耐心和細心的照顧與指導，我們才能比較順利地照顧小 Declan。而她時常從 Ipoh 到 KL 來，順便來探望我們和小 Declan。每次都給 Declan 帶來小禮物。我感動的心，真的是用眼淚寫下來。當中，我也深深地瞭解到，能擁有一個 full term 而又健康的 baby 是多麼幸福的事呀！當我看到那些睡在 incubator 里的 baby ，用插管來“喝”奶，用吸管來呼吸，我的心都碎了！這 5 個月來，我對數字都特別敏感－－小 Declan 喝了多少 ounzes 的奶啦，體重和高度增加了多少，一天當中睡了多少個小時，等等。醫生說，早產兒需要等到兩三歲才能和順產兒相提並論。我也比較放心了。

當媽媽是我夢想的事情。以前還沒結婚時會想要生 3 個，因為我喜歡小朋友熱鬧的家庭；結婚了之後，就想說生兩個吧，不多不少剛剛好，現在養孩子不容易，要好好教育孩子們更是登天呀！生了 Declan 之後，我和老公討論過之後，決定不再生了。原因是我不想要冒著生命再去所謂的搏一搏。Pre-eclampsia 和 HELLP Syndrome 真的是把我們給嚇壞了！而小 Declan 以後的夥伴生活，我們只有靠 Coby 和其他小朋友們的融入，讓他從中學習吧。

每每抱著 Declan，我對著他微笑，告訴他一定要當一個健康快樂的 baby，他都會用微笑來回應我，似懂非懂的。所以，我常常叫他 Happy Baby。能擁有一個健康快樂的寶寶，是我每天的希望。

Declan, 媽咪希望你的天空里會有很多的笑容與快樂。加油！爹地媽咪為你打氣！＝）

Love our kids in a right way

2011-01-07T11:38:00.002+08:00

This article is forwarded by a friend of mine. Something to share with all my blog readers. Cheers! =)

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One young academically excellent person went to apply for a managerial

position in a big company.

He passed the first interview, the director did the last interview, made

the last decision.

The director discovered from the CV, that the youth's academic result is

excellent all the way, from the secondary school until the postgraduate

research, never has a year he did not score.

The director asked, "Did you obtain any scholarship in school?" and the

youth answered "none".

The director asked, " Is it your father pay for your school fees?" the

youth answered, my father passed away when I was one year old, it is my

mother who paid for my school fees.

The director asked, " Where did your mother worked?" the youth answered,

my mother worked as cloth cleaner. The director requested the youth to

show his hand, the youth showed a pair of hand that is smooth and perfect

to the director.

The director asked, " Did you ever help your mother washed the cloth

before?" The youth answered, never, my mother always wanted me to study

and read more books, furthermore, my mother can wash cloths faster than

me.

The director said, I had a request, when you go back today, go and help to

clean your mother's hand, and then see me tomorrow morning.

The youth felt that its chance of landing the job is high, when he went

back, he happily wanted to clean his mother's hand, his mother feel

strange, happy but mixed with fear, she showed her hand to the kid.

The youth cleaned his mother's hand slowly, his tear drop down as he did

that. It is first time he found his mother's hand is so wrinkled, and

there are so many bruises in her hand. Some bruises incites pains so

strong that shiver her mother's body when cleaned with water.

This is the first time the youth realized and experienced that it is this

pair of hand that washed the cloth everyday to earn him the school fees,

the bruises in the mother's hand is the price that the mother paid for his

graduation and academic excellence and probably his future.

After finishing the cleaning of his mother hand, the youth quietly cleaned

all remaining clothes for his mother.

That night, mother and sons talked for a very long time.

Next morning, the youth went to the director's office

The director noticed the tear in the youth's eye, asked: " Can you tell

you what have you done and learned yesterday in your house?"

The youth answered, " I cleaned my mother's hand, and also finished

cleaning all the remaining clothes'

The director asked, " please tell me your feeling."

The youth said,

Number 1, I knew what is appreciation, without my mother, there would not

the successful me today.

Number 2, I knew how to work together with my mother, then only I can

realize how difficult and tough to get something done.

Number 3, I knew the importance and value of family relationship.

The director said, " This is what I am asking, I want to recruit a person

that can appreciate the help of other, a person that knew the suffering of

others to get thing done, and a person that would not put money as his

only goal in life to be my manager. You are hired.

Later on, this young person worked very hard, and received the respect of

his subordinates, every employees worked diligently and in a team, the

company's result improved tremendously.

A child who has been protected and habitually given whatever he did, he

developed "entitlement mentality" and always put himself first. He is

ignorance of his parent's effort. When he started work, he assumed every

people must listen to him, and when he became a manager, he would never

know how suffering his employee and always blame others. For this kind of

people, he can have good result, may be successful for a while, but

eventually would not feel sense of achievement, he will grumble and full

of hatred and fight for more. If we are this kind of protective parent,

did we love the kid or destroy the kid?

You can let your kid lived in a big house, eat a good meal, learn piano,

watch a big screen TV. But when you are cutting grass, please let them

experienced it. After a meal, let them washed their plate and bowl

together with their brothers and sisters. It is not because you do not

have money to hire a maid, but it is because you want to love them in a

right way. You want them to understand, no matter how rich their parent

are, one day their hair will grow gray, same as the mother of that young

person. The most important thing is your kid learn how to appreciate the

effort and experience the difficulty and learn the ability to work with

others to get thing done.

母子連心

2011-01-07T11:37:00.000+08:00

Declan 一來到這個世界，他的路程都是有點 adventurous 的。跟著我這個媽媽，他時常在外頭跑。幸好是沒有甚麼風吹雨打的。當初在馬大醫院生了 Declan ，我住的那棟 building 是全馬大最舊的一棟，也就是說，歷史最悠久啦。所以，設施都很舊。我還記得，我第一天被轉進普通病房時，我住的那一層樓要做 floor wax。我當時就很懊惱，那藥水味很重，機器又吵，我的病床和行李又得往這裡推，那裡移（對不起，自己慢慢行走，護士小姐們都沒空）。幸好的是 Declan 是住在他的育嬰箱里，而他也不和我一起住同一層樓，所以他沒有受到影響。再說，第二天，我的冷氣機有問題－－漏水！所以，我晚上睡覺的時候，都是有著冷氣機漏水的聲音相伴。而地上有塊濕布，自己得小心行走，不能滑倒。因此，每次當我看到朋友們在私人醫院生產，住的病房都是很 high class 的，我都不免會小小羨慕一下。老公安慰我說，沒事，我們先苦后甜。呵呵！只好這樣子想啦。

12 月份是我們一直往馬大醫院跑的月份。我和 Declan 的“旅程”又開始了。我們家只有一輛車子。所以，我是讓我老公開車去上班的。而我住的地方，死人頭德士司機（pardon my language）是不來你家接你的，除非你去機場。所以，我只好一大早就跟隨老公出門去醫院。我自己一個人用 baby carrier 背著 Declan 出門，這倒是頭一次。自己沒車，又帶著 stroller，是挺麻煩的。再說，要搭德士回家時，沒有人幫你抱孩子，沒有人幫你把 stroller 搬上車搬下車（德士后箱也很髒啦）。所以，baby carrier 是最適合我不過的了。再說，老外們出門都可以這樣子背 baby 上山或逛街。我也行，我鼓勵自己。就這樣，我穿得最輕便，不要打扮到美美（aunty 一點），自己的包包不拿了，就只拿 Declan 的包包。這個樣子，應該可以了吧？就這樣，睡覺前就把所有東西和文件準備好。一早醒來，動作要快。準備好了，就和 Declan 一起到醫院去了。去醫院的途中，我一直告訴 Declan，“今天陪媽咪去醫院，好嗎？就麻煩你合作了哦，ok? 幾個小時后，媽咪再帶你回家沖涼睡覺，好嗎？”。

到了醫院，我就一幅 aunty 的樣子。趕快按號碼排隊等待。唉，200 多個號碼，怎麼等？？？我當時快哭出來了。我的 Declan 怎麼能在醫院里陪我等上 3 個鐘啊？由於我背著 Declan 的樣子很出眾，所有的眼睛都往我這裡看。一個年紀大約 40 的男士往我這裡走來，和我瞭解狀況之後，他盡然和我交換號碼，說讓我可以比較先去付錢抽血。我看了看他的號碼，也是要等上兩個鐘。但是他的好意，我為了 Declan，我也就很不好意思地接受了。然後，他又幫我找了一個坐位，好讓我休息一下。聊著聊著，他還跟 Declan 說，媽咪很辛苦，他一定要聽話。啊，當時的我，真的是很感動！過後，我沒辦法等，只好棄權，第二天再早一點到醫院，希望不必等上幾個鐘。我帶著 Declan 上了德士回家了。

第二天，我又帶著 Declan 到醫院去。一到抽血部門，啊，又是要等 200 多個號碼，我的天呀！由於我背著 Declan 實在是太出眾了，一位年約 60 的阿伯走過來告訴我，我可以去跟付錢的部門要求有優先權。哦，帶著 baby 是有優先權的唷？我是很不好意思啦。不過，為了 Declan，我還是硬著頭皮去試看看。果然，我可以馬上付錢和抽血！啊，我真的是感動得要死！而在等待的時刻，護士小姐們都逗著 Declan 說笑。我也不那麼緊張了。呼！搞定了抽血之後，我又帶著 Declan 搭德士回家。馬來西亞的德士實在是很糟糕，又髒又臭（德士先生喜歡抽煙）。我緊緊得把 Declan 抱在懷中，內疚得要死。

一個禮拜后，我又得去醫院見醫生和看血液報告。Declan 又和我一起去醫院了。由於 Declan 很小，而他對周遭的環境很好奇，喜歡東張西望。很多人都喜歡走過來逗他玩，而他還蠻合作得會給人家一個微笑（好彩！不然會冷場，我就排寫了，呵呵！）。Aunty， uncle，護士小姐們都問我說，為甚麼帶 baby 來醫院？媽媽家婆不能幫你照顧一下你的 baby 哶？醫院是很多病毒的地方哩。問著問著，我的內疚感又來了。不過，也幸好我還可以應付這些問題。請問，有那一位母親喜歡帶孩子來醫院的呢？如果有更好的安排，母親當然是不會讓孩子呆在醫院那麼久的。我只想說，母親們都需要更多的鼓勵，並不是責備或更多的“為甚麼”。如果你的話可以帶給一位母親鼓勵和希望，那麼你就成功了；反之，“為甚麼”只會帶給當母親的更多煩惱和虧欠。何必呢？

接下來的兩個禮拜，我和 Declan 還得去馬大醫院兩次。希望我們會有快樂的旅程。累是累了點，辛苦是難免的。但是背著 Declan，心連心得走在一起，我覺得這種情景很窩心。當 Declan 抬頭看著我時，彷彿是在告訴我，“媽咪，我喜歡你背著我一起出門”。孩子，謝謝你！＝）

永遠擔憂不完的我

2011-01-07T11:36:00.002+08:00

我對 Declan 的擔心真的是不少。自從懷了 KJ，KJ 帶給了我很多意外。我也被醫生嚇得半死。

First trimester 時，我的 nausea 不成甚麼大問題。一直到了做 blood test，要測試 KJ 的種種。成績出來的時候，醫生親自打了電話給我，親口告訴我，我有 hypothyroid。我半桶水問了醫生一些問題，要確定對 KJ 不會造成傷害，我就去見了另一位 Endocrine Specialist 再做檢查。當我被 confirmed 得了 hypothyroid 時，King 剛好在國外公幹。我就這樣自己一個人駕著車子回家，在車裡流下了眼淚。幸好被發現得早。否則，缺乏碘是會對 KJ 的腦部發育造成很大的傷害，甚至會變白癡。就這樣，我吃藥，補充身體的碘，好讓 KJ 也有足夠的碘而好好地在我的肚子里成長。

Ultrasound 是少不了的。我們每一次去照時，心情都是無比得興奮與期待。醫生當然也要 make sure KJ 的身形健全。突然有一次，醫生一邊照 KJ 的腳，然後一直看，一直看。然後，她指著 KJ 的腳，向我們解釋，甚麼是 CTEV。King 問了一些問題，我一回家就馬上上網 google check CTEV，所謂的 Club Foot. 我看了所有的照片和詳細質料，我的眼淚就不停地往下流。我說，這孩子太可憐了。後來，我們去見了另一位 Gynae，拿些 second opinion。這醫生比較樂觀，他說，如果是 CTEV 的話，也是輕微的，無需太擔憂。就這樣，我們每一次做產檢，就特別注意 KJ 腳的位置和形狀。我們也開始有心裡準備，KJ 有可能會是 CTEV 的 baby。當然，我們拼命得胎教，告訴 KJ 一定要把腳放好，有對健康的腳。

接下來，醫生每一次替我做血壓檢查，她都會提醒我，我很有可能會早產，而且是要剖腹。我說，甚麼嘛！我希望能有個 full term baby，而且我 prefer 自然產。回家后，我們天天和 KJ 說話胎教，要當一個健康寶寶，開心寶寶，當一個順產兒。而我的血壓問題，我們一直認為那應該是家族遺傳吧。就別太勞累和擔憂了。

33 week，醫生測驗了我的血壓，說我肯定會早產，而且 KJ 的體重已經沒有再增加了。她勸說我們去馬大醫院生，因為在私人醫院生個早產兒，費用是天文數字。我無比的失望，我可以不要這樣做嗎？後來，為了安全起見，也考慮到費用的問題，我們就這樣地去馬大醫院掛號。怎知道，當天去馬大醫院，我的血壓上到 160 多。馬大醫生要我馬上入院觀察。我就這樣心不幹，情不願地住在馬大醫院。我吵著要回家。醫生給我打了 Steroid 針，要確保 KJ 的呼吸系統可以早熟，我也乖乖聽話的打。

35 week，我去做產檢，私人醫生說我得馬上去馬大生孩子了。因為我的血壓高，尿蛋白高，臉部紅腫（我以為是後期水腫）。當時，護士用輪椅把我推到車旁，不讓我行走，擔心我隨時會抽筋缺氧，這種情況會對 KJ 不保。King 也被搞得很緊張，立刻把我送去了馬大醫院。在馬大時的血壓是高到 190。我跟醫生說，我考試都沒有這麼高分過哩！搞來搞去，我當晚就剖腹把 KJ 生下來了。當醫生把 KJ 從我的肚子里抱出來時，我沒有機會馬上看到他，就馬上被抱進育嬰箱里，這裡插管，那裡插管。而 King 也就一直看著 KJ，拍照送給我看。也確定了 KJ 沒有 CTEV。怎麼知道，KJ 出來了之後，我的血壓確沒有恢復正常。我被送回 labor room 觀察。那一晚，我聽到了超過 10 多位自然產的母親們在啊，啊，啊，痛啦，醫生們叫 lagi lagi lagi。天啊！睡了一晚，一早，我看到了一群醫生圍著我的病床。然後問了我一些身體感覺的問題，就告訴我說，我得了 HELLP Syndrome。我糊裡糊塗地，哦，哦，哦。我問了一位年紀比較大的醫生，想必他應該是在馬大最有經念和權威的一位，我會死嗎？醫生，你一定要救我，我剛生了一個可愛的 baby！幸好他很樂觀，微笑得說，我不會有事地。我也吩咐了一位年輕醫生告訴 King 我的狀況。King 回家就馬上 wikipedia HELLP Syndrome。原來我得了血崩，而且是最 critical 的 level。天呀！搞甚麼東東嘛？！然後，醫生給我輸了兩包血，把我轉到 normal ward 觀察了 10 天。真是難熬！在馬大醫院的日子，每天抽血驗血，我看到血壓機我就怕。我告訴自己，我被插管，好過 KJ 被插管。謝天謝地，KJ 健康正常，只是體型太小。就是這樣，我在醫院里“享受”了10天，而 KJ 還得住院，以至體重達到標準為止。當我們送 KJ 回到育嬰箱時，我的臉都是淚水。啊，我可憐的孩子！

生完孩子，醫生要我做另一個 blood test，要確定我有沒有 APS，另一種跟 hormone 有關的測試。而我的 thyroid 問題又多了一個。天啊，這真是一個健康的考驗！但是，我告訴我自己，最重要的是 KJ 健康無礙。

現在的每一天，我都會觀察 KJ 的一舉一動。雖然醫生們都說他很健康，很正常，但是，我還是會擔心他營養不足夠。呵呵！不管怎樣，日子還是要過下去。KJ 的每一個笑容都帶給我勇氣去面對任何問題。孩子，要當你媽還真不簡單也！哈哈哈！

First outing by myself

2010-10-29T14:28:00.000+08:00

It was a beautiful day. I told Declan that mommy is going to bring him out to meet mommy's cousins and his cousin from Jakarta! He sortsof understood and gave me a smiley face. I packed things up and gave King a good-bye kiss before heading out. That was my first time to bring Declan out alone. It was fantastic!

Declan was well-behaved back in the car seat and enjoyed his own view while had himself soothed by sucking his little cute thumbs. I turned on my favorite Christmas CD and told Declan where we were and where we've passed by from moment to moment. It was a happy ride to both of us!

During the gathering and chit-chat time with my dearie cousins, Declan was well-behaved and couldn't stop flirting around with his aunties and cousin. The new place and new people made him not willing to take his afternoon nap. His routine was off for an hour. However, I was relief that he was able to nap before his feeding at 5 pm, thank god! After his napping and feeding, we took a few pictures and headed home.

After that, I reached home safely with this little friend. The father welcomed us, together with Coby. Ahh.... It's so good to be home and see dad again, I told Declan.

I wish to bring Declan out by myself more often. I love to drive this little friend around and have some private talk. Ah ha! Many ideas pop up in my mind..... =)

Good website for present giver

2010-10-28T21:53:00.000+08:00

If you have no idea about what to give for a newly mom for baby shower or baby full month, I've a good website for ya! Check out www.stubbornsnails.com! I find that the Diaper Cake idea is pretty neat and unique! Don't wait and go click on the link now and you will know why! Happy browsing! =)

Good blog for the mothers

2010-10-28T21:44:00.002+08:00

I would like to recommend a blog to all the mothers. If you prepare home meal or lunch box for your kids daily, you may find how informative this blog can be. Hit on www.kinigu.blogspot.com ! The blog owner has all kinda ideas for kids meal. Happy reading, folks! =)

Story time between a father and a baby

2010-10-28T18:07:00.000+08:00

I like to see the moments of King & Declan, actually. They always make me laugh no matter who lead the story telling session. One will come up with funny description, one will babbling non-stop. Ahh... These 2 persons meant so much to me!! I just can't live without them -- the father and the son! =)

Book reading for my baby

2010-10-28T15:22:00.001+08:00

King and I are book lovers (I know I've mentioned this many times in my blog, ha!). We've bought quite a number of books for our little one as well. We want to bring books to Declan's life which is good for him. Not being a bookworm but falling in love with books. Hence, wherever we go or travel, bookstore will be in our itinerary.

Declan has a Black-&-White, Sometimes-Red cloth book. With the high contrast color images, Declan loves the book very very much! Every time when he is bored, we'd flip the imaged book page by page for him by our own description. He would just sort of reply us with babbling sound and kicking his both legs, and with a lot of smile and laugh. King and I were happy to see that as it is a sign of loving book from this little friend. So, how do we describe the picture to our young fellow? Here is my sharing tips as follow:-

When I describe an apple to Declan....
Oh what is this that we are seeing together now? Ohhhh... Apple!!! This is your favorite apple, Declan! Look at this apple, it's red color, a beautiful color! This apple wants to say hello to Declan! Hello, Declan, I'm apple, how do you do? What do you do today, Declan? I'm very happy to see you again, Declan! Apple is good for you and everyone! An apple a day, keep the doctor away! So, when you are a kid, you should eat more apple and other fruits, alright?

This is another example with a ladybug.....
Ahhh.... What is this, Declan? It's ladybug!! Oh isn't this ladybug beautiful? Look at the colors! This ladybug is in red color with a lot of black dots! Ladybug has 6 legs. We have 2 legs but ladybug is different from us. Ladybug is a happy insect. We must learn from ladybug that be a happy baby, alright? L for ladybug! Yay!

Moreover, I sing my song after each description. I've my own personalized song for Declan every time. King always laugh at me because the way I "read" Declan sounds like a children program Sesame Street! Hahahaha...!! By moving the cloth books while singing my personalized song, it is indeed funny!

This is my personalized song that dedicate to my son:-
   Daddy love KJ.....
   Mommy love KJ.....
   Coby love KJ.......
   Everybody loves KJ......

I composed and wrote this song for Declan from the first day we met! And, I repeat this song every day. This song meant a lot to me and this family!

Sometimes, we do read books for Declan. He seems like a book lover from the way he responds to us during our reading session, so far. We are happy and blessed!

Declan, oh, Declan! Books are our good friends. If we love books, we'd be loved, too! =)

"I Love You, Mummy" story reading.

Declan's favorite cloth book.

Hypo-Thyroiditis

2010-10-28T14:36:00.000+08:00

I've myself checked up a month ago again. Why? I was unwell. And, the doctor announced that my thyroid has stopped functioning after diagnosing past-partom Hashimoto Thyroiditis. What the hell?! I was so shocked and I couldn't take it for a few seconds! The stupid specialist said that I've to be on medication for life time. Life time, what the heck?! Anyway, I'm going to seek for second opinion early November. I've been on medication since a month ago and hopefully things are under controlled. People, pray for me......

Back to my blogging world

2010-10-28T14:32:00.000+08:00

It has been a while not updating my blog again. Life with a little one really is something new to me, even though Declan is 4 months old baby now. Time pass by without my noticing; clock ticks without my noticing.

King and I can't stop a second not to look at little Declan at times. We are scared of losing track of his growing. Having a baby at home is just too wonderful to both of us. We, sometimes, hug each other while looking at our baby. Declan is the force that driving us together. He's such a cutie-pie that we can't disagree.

Blogging is one of my hobbies. It's a good way for me to review myself and my life. I'm just busy plus lazy a little bit to do it in a weekly basis. My bad. How can I being lazy after having little Declan? I should be a good role model to my son. Hmm.... Mama Eunice..... Hehe!

Alright, let's start blogging again! Yee-ha! =)

Trend or Trap?

2010-09-08T15:03:00.000+08:00

Declan will be 3 months old on Earth next week. Time flies. And, I've started to think of what kinda education and life we should provide him. I might sound a bit "kiasu" but I just like to think and observe things too much! :p

Welp, there are so many children programs in the market now. All is based on the needs for the parents. I wonder is all of them good for the kids. Are they a need for the babies and kids. It is a question mark to me. Gymboree, Kindermusik, Shichida, Montessori, you name it. I'm confused by the marketing and advertisement more. Most importantly, some of the fees are not cheap although it's affordable. But is it a must to my little Declan? I ponder..... I wonder..... I contemplate..... And, is this a trend or trap????? Other parents send their babies/toddlers to the programs but do I have to do the same thing? Do I have to follow what others do or have done? Is it really worth it?

I'm a full time home maker and mother. That means, I've 24/7 time for my family. But do I have enough time for little Declan? I guess this is all based on my own time management and what I wanna provide my son. I'm worried that KJ can't digest everything in one time and it'll become worse to him.

I wish to give Declan a happy and healthy childhood. I had a happy childhood with my siblings and cousins. We played and shared our own toys and we even imagined our own world during our play time. So I guess, first of all, I should bring Declan and meet more friends out there. So that he can have some play mates for socialization. As for those music, story, singing, gymnastic, fun programs, I'd do more research and hopefully I can do it at home with the little monster. It's fun to have DIY program at home, too.

Wish me luck!

女人

2010-09-05T17:07:00.000+08:00

這篇，是我生了 Declan 而有感而發的。那天，我也和 King 聊到我的疑問和感受。

我說，女人真的是很很很很很偉大！！！超偉大，很大的那種！！我一一分析給他聽。女人在自己的家庭成長了十幾二十年，然後願意嫁給男人。然後要嫁進男方那家，搬進男人的家，甚至和不是養育自己的家翁家婆一起住。要遷就這裡遷就那裡。公婆要求孫兒，女人就得努力。若沒孩子，公婆就責怪女人不能生（你以為母雞生蛋哶！）。老一派的公婆還說要生個男孫呢（媽的，還要選！）。ok, 女人努力了，懷孕了。懷孕時，有錢的公婆或許（我是說或許而已，ok）會給女人吃點好的。沒懷孕的話，誰有空給你吃好的呀？懷胎 9 至 10 個月，辛苦的是女人。女人的害喜和肚子的重量，男人懂個屁？等到要生的時候，肚子疼個半死，或者六層的肚皮要開一刀，誰願意去承擔那種痛和肚皮上的疤痕？還是女人自己。痛了過後，生了過後，餵人奶的是當媽媽的那一位，不是爸爸厚。半夜起來餵奶的也是女人。辛苦了這麼久，而小貝比的姓確是跟爸爸姓的（哇嘮哩！）！而公婆都一直在看小貝比長得像誰。哇，當然是像男方一家啦。好的都像完爸爸啦，伯伯叔叔姑姑爺爺奶奶啦。小孩若是不精靈，就是像媽媽啦。若是公婆搖電話來，第一句問的是孫怎樣怎樣，而非問起媳婦做月有沒有休息或補得夠不夠，照顧小孩辛不辛苦。然後呢，照顧小貝比和小孩的主要是媽媽。若是公婆知道男人會和貝比洗澡，那女人不是很輕鬆（哇噻，應該是讚美男人的體貼吧？）？如果照顧的不好或是有點差錯，公婆會說女人不會教不會養他們的孫。男人或孫若長得乾巴巴的，就說是女人不會照顧老公和孩子。還有嗎。。。？我不懂。

說著說著，我好像要流眼淚了。好像我很慘那樣，呵呵！但是，心裡就是有種不平衡。女人所做的一切，到最後，若是男人回家給女人個擁抱，孩子給媽媽個微笑，甚麼都了！

King 說，女人是 powerful 的。男人能做的，女人也能做；女人能做的，男人未必能做。

《世上只有媽媽好》寫得實在是太對了！然而，我要強調的是，今天我是別人的媳婦，太太與母親，將來我也會是別人的家婆和婆婆。如果我們能好好得教育下一代，好好疼惜我們以後的媳婦，這世界會更加美好！多重身分的我們，應該要好好珍惜身邊的每一位親人，那管是同姓或否。

給家翁們－－生男生女，是靠你家兒子的 X，Y 精子。麻煩去差差看。
給家婆們－－你以前也是人家的媳婦。所以，媳婦的心情你應該最明瞭。
給老公們－－老婆是娶來疼的。請多珍惜你家的黃臉婆。要買漂亮的衣服和化妝品是應該的。
給孩子們－－媽媽生你雖辛苦，但是你是媽媽的力量。要替媽媽加油哦！
給娘家們－－恭喜你擁有一個堅強的女兒！嫁過去了還是個漂亮媽媽！耶！

Mix feeding

2010-09-05T15:40:00.001+08:00

現代有很多母親都是餵人奶，而且是 fully breast feeding。而我呢，我和 King 選擇了 mix feeding －－ breast milk 加上 formula。然後有一些人就會開始告訴我餵全人奶的好處等等，甚至還超熱情地找上門來。而且還告訴我可以的話，不要餵 formula，而改餵全人奶。我們還是很堅定得做出我們當初的選擇－－ mix feeding。

其實，當了媽媽之後，我對很多事情都看得很開了，也不那麼執著。Dr. Yap 曾經告訴過我們，不要太執著。我當初在還沒生產時是很堅定要餵全人奶。但後來患上 pre-eclampsia 和血崩之後，我發現到，我能給 Declan 的並不是全人奶，而是我當時能給他最好的，就是我的健康，我要一個健康的身體來保護 Declan 和陪伴他一起成長。這是我和 King 愛他的方式。我沒有給 Declan 全人奶並不代表我不夠愛他呀。

很多母親都勸說，我要努力多一點，餵多一點；還有餵人奶的好處多多；不可以放棄餵人奶，因為人奶是世界上最好的奶；還有一堆啦。有時候我聽得多，我真的很想問這些人，請告訴我們一些我所不知道的！你們所說的，我和 King 都一一明瞭！我們都知道餵人奶很好，最好，特別好，太好不過了！我的人奶不夠，那我能怎樣？該吃的我都吃了，該試的我也試了。我沒有錯。

～一位曾餵人奶的印度鄰居告訴我，孩子們是不知道你給他人奶或奶粉的。他們還是一樣的成長。他們還是一樣地愛你。

～一位收英文教育的鄰居告訴我，人奶和奶粉都有各自營養。我們不能否定兩種食物。選擇你所能選擇的。

～一位好朋友和她母親一直叮嚀我，自己的健康勝過一切。餵奶粉沒有錯。

～我那餵全人奶的表妹告訴我說，她很佩服我。因為我經歷了苦難的生產前後過程，我還是願意餵人奶，雖然是不多，但還是很偉大。很多母親未必能做得到如此，甚至早已放棄餵人奶了。

～我媽說，有多少人奶，就給多少。不要給自己太大的壓力。

～ King 說，有餵到人奶就很不錯了。他擔心我的健康多過人奶的供應。他可以買奶粉給小 Declan。我知道他不像失去我的健康，更不像失去我。

～我看了很多書本。而餵人奶的第一個 priority 就是母親要有個健康的身體。

～我是喝奶粉長大的小孩。現在已經 34 歲了。還是活生生的，而且長得還不錯。哈哈哈哈哈哈！

我的身體在生產前后患了那兩種症狀而倒下了。糟糕的是，我在生產后的 6 個星期是需要 on medication 的。雖然醫生都說沒有藥性的副作用，但我還是很不喜歡吃藥，因為我要餵人奶。我吃藥，Declan 也是在吃藥。那怎麼行？！不管那是仙丹靈藥還是普通的藥，都是對 Declan 不好的。所以，我們選擇了給他加上 formula。

我花了6個星期才把自己最 basic 的體能恢復過來－－就是上樓梯不喘氣，出門不會勞累，臉色恢復紅嫩，等等。而我生產后的 diarhea 確在第 8，9 週才恢復正常－－前面的 8，9 個星期，我天天都在拉肚子！！醫生說那是因為我的腸里感染了不懂甚麼鳥細菌。而我的做月婆在第 8 週離開了我們。我和 King 就開始自己照顧小 Declan 了。我們的飲食都得依靠自己而攝取足夠的營養，而製造有營養的人奶給小 Declan。我和 King 確定了之後都會相互鼓勵。我們要給 Declan 一個有歡樂和健康的家庭。

一直到現在，當 Declan 的 feeding time 到了，我都是先餵人奶，然後再加上奶粉。我的人奶是很少，到現在我還是在繼續餵人奶。我要的是 quality，不是 quantity （volumn)。如果我吃得不夠營養，身體又弱，我有很多很多人奶也沒有用。

每一個家庭所碰到的問題都不一樣。所以，每一位母親都有不同的選擇。我選擇了最適合我們家庭的方式去愛 Declan。請尊重我們吧！

When they sleep on each other's tummies

2010-08-25T14:58:00.001+08:00

I see this scene every morning. They love to sleep on each other's tummy, haha! What a father-and-son scene!

Coby and us

2010-08-25T14:35:00.000+08:00

Coby!! Many friends care about Coby after the arrival of Declan. They all asked about Coby and its reaction when he met Declan.

Coby has been behaving well in the past 2 months. He couldn't get to see me for 10 days when I was hospitalized. And when I got home, I couldn't pet and hug him as usual during my confinement. I'd say, Coby and I missed each other very much! King has been taking care of Coby all this while. And, Coby has understood that Daddy is the one who can spend more time with him since then. I'm glad that everything about Coby is well taken care of by King! Even my confinement lady does care about Coby, haha!

Well, we slowly introduce Declan to Coby lately. We feel so touched when Coby kisses Declan's hands and legs!!! It's such an amazing scene!!

Okay, now I can tell everyone that, my family members are King, Coby and Declan. We are one happy family! =)

My content baby

2010-08-25T13:01:00.002+08:00

Declan is a music lover, I can tell. When we turn on the music every time, he seems enjoy the musics very much. And, this is the way to keep this little monster occupied when I have to do my own personal things and house chores.

My 34th Birthday

2010-08-23T15:32:00.001+08:00

生日－－母難日。以前聽過這個辭彙，但根本談不上甚麼感覺。自從生了 Declan 了之後，對“母難日”就有點恐懼感。生日，怎麼過？我今年好像也沒有甚麼興致去慶祝。只要一家人（和 Coby 狗狗）能夠在一起，我就已經很滿足了。我的生日，是我媽 34 年前的母難日。我好像也不好意思去大慶祝甚麼的。

Declan 讓我深深瞭解到母難日的真正意義。回想起我生 Declan 之前與之後所經過的日子，我就流汗！別人生孩子很容易，我這個安帝生孩子就那麼多經歷。嚇人哶？！昨天早上，我們一家人一起去見了我們尊敬的 Dr. Yap。聊了我之前所患的病 (pre-eclampsia 妊辰毒血症 & HELLP syndrome 血崩) 和之後要做的身體檢查等等之後，Dr. Yap 還是鼓勵我們再多個兩年，我可以再懷孕。我簡直就在流汗，舉起雙手，擺個大阿差，表示不可能！！！雖然患的機率還是很高（30％），但是一些人還是鼓勵我要往那 70％的好機率方面想。我只能說，只有親身體念才能讓人深深瞭解到，生孩子的偉大與危險！而生多少個孩子對我來說，數目不重要。一家人能夠健康快樂得在一起成長才是最珍貴的。人生當中，每一樣東西只要和數目扯上關係的，人人都會拿來做比較。何苦？有多少個孩子，有多少輛車子，有多少個老婆，有多少錢？答案都是一個數字而已。寫一下不就可以了事，呵？！

和死神擦肩而過，我把 King 和 Declan 的手握得緊緊的。憶起當時 King 罵醫生和護士 man man 的樣子，想起我們把 Declan 留在醫院時的情景，我的心還是會抽一下。這兩隻屬老虎的都把我的心抓得緊緊的，我想我這輩子就是要服侍這兩位皇帝的啦，呵呵！

過去這一個月來所接到的越洋電話和問候不斷，鼓勵更是連連，我們的感激真的是不盡！抱歉的是我沒辦法及時向所有的親戚朋友們報平安。曲折的生產故事全都是原自於我的 Placenta 而產生的妊辰高血壓和嚇人的血崩。而我最感激的是醫學的進步！！！否則，我也不敢去想這個“否則”。

我 34 歲的生日，我第一個有寶寶的生日，真的是很不同！餵小恩桐喝奶的感覺就是我最棒的生日禮物！

生日，是讓我們重生的日子嗎？＝）

I'm your sweet mommy!

2010-08-23T15:14:00.005+08:00

Hello my lil' KJ! I'm your mommy, a sweet mommy! We met each other 5 weeks earlier but that's okay. I'm thrilled to hold you in my arms! You came to our world earlier and our life is full of laughter since your arrival!

I'm a funny mommy, too. I'm sorry to tell you that I always make you up! This is one of the many ways to show my love towards you, Declan. Daddy said I like to make fun on you and he pity you. But you know what, our life should be full of joy and creativity, even your daily hairstyle! Why should I comb you the same old stupid hairstyle every morning?!?!!!??!!! We should be more creative! =)

I like to spend every single minute with you. But when I wasn't by your bed side, I miss you very much! I miss your baby smell crazily! You mean so much to me, Declan!

At times, how I wish you can stop growing up and be a baby forever. How silly I am! No matter how, Declan, we will go through everything together step by step. Please be patient with us as we are newly parents at this moment. We learn a lot of new things about life since your arrival. I'm happy to say that, your appearance make our life happier and more meaningful! =)

Declan, my sweetheart! Mommy can't stop kissing you from head to toe every day and night. I just love you too much! You are indeed our bundle of joy! =)

Hi from Big Daddy!

2010-08-23T15:04:00.003+08:00

Declan, this is your Dad, your proud Daddy! He feels proud every time when you were noticed by stranger outdoor because you look just too cute! And, I love this pinky romper with "If you think I'm cool, you should see my dad"! The shirt says it all, don't you agree, Declan? =)

Daddy loves holding you in his arm all the time. He looks for every single chance to bathe you, change diaper for you and bottle feed you! He just can't stop looking at you and start having a man-talk with ya! I guess you'll be quite occupied by everyone in this house! Or the other way round? Oh hahahaha....

You've a Big Daddy! He's mommy's Big Man! Mommy loves him very very much! And, I hope you love him too! Because Daddy loves you without stopping a single second. Enjoy your days and nights with Big Daddy! =)

Here comes your Wai Gong & Wei Poh

2010-08-23T14:58:00.005+08:00

Hello Declan! Here come your Wai Gong and Wai Poh! They always call mommy and ask about you. They love holding you in their arms and talking to you. You gonna love sitting on their laps one day! =)

Here comes your Yeh Yeh & Poh Poh

2010-08-23T14:49:00.004+08:00

Hi Declan! Here come your Yeh Yeh and Poh Poh! They can't wait to meet you, you know! They want to hold you in their arms so badly! They even see you from head to toe and check everything of you out! You are gonna love playing with them one day! =)

Our hands

2010-08-23T14:45:00.002+08:00

Declan, you are in good hands;

Declan, we've got you in our safe arms;

Declan, daddy and mommy love you!

Flexibility

2010-08-23T14:28:00.004+08:00

Everyone likes to plan. Nobody likes no plan ahead before we do and take action. Me neither. Without a plan, I hardly do things right and I know what I want to achieve.

Well, I had my birth plan, King and I have planned a lot of things together for our baby during our pre-birth period. However, we've many unexpected surprises along the pregnancy and child birth delivery. I thought I was able to pre-shadowed whatever I want accordingly along my pregnancy and birth delivery. But now, I learnt that things are not always go with our plans. Nothing is perfect. Now, I've learnt not to be so stubborn but flexible. The flexibility give me strength and happiness! Really!

I wanted to give birth naturally, I should say I WISH TO. And, we planned to deliver baby in a private hospital. I wished to hold my baby right after my delivery and breastfeed him. I even wished to start bonding with him right away!!! I wanted to breastfeed him without giving formula. There are many I-wanted-to or I-wished-to. But surprises pop up out of the sudden one by one. I don't care about those I-wanted-to or I-wished-to. I just want my baby to be safe and sound healthily. It's that simple! Now I even mix-feed Declan without much worries. Why cares much about those plans if I've a better solutions?!

Flexibility give me strength to keep on surviving with my family. And, I am happier now and then! =)

My confinement lady

2010-08-23T11:44:00.003+08:00

This is my beloved Confinement Lady! She's such a wonderful nanny in the past 7 weeks! We are so blessed to have her during my confinement period and Declan was well taken care of! Surprisingly, she even rang me up a couple times to check things out and make sure we are doing alright with little Declan. We became good friends now. =)

Thank you, Dr. Yap!!!

2010-08-20T17:51:00.003+08:00

Dr. Yap, you are a wonderful Gynae to us!!

We paid Dr. Yap a visit after my confinement to show our greatest appreciation. I was very very happy to visit her with Declan and King since the delivery. She is a wonderful doctor who helped us to save a big amount of medical bill in the end. Knowing that I was diagnosed with pre-eclampsia, she suggested us to have ourselves registered in UMMC as early as we could for emergency purpose. We felt thankful to follow her instructions. And now, both mother and baby are safe and sound.

Declan, Dr. Yap save our lives! I'll bring you to visit her when you are able to say Thank-you one day! =)

Napping time

2010-08-20T12:11:00.004+08:00

Both of us have moved into Declan's room at night. Declan sleep in his crib since day one. We want him to sleep in his own place. And so, we started the training early.

I am the one who take care of Declan in the middle of night. King sleeps next to me and he takes turn around 7 am. And, I continue for my short nap before the next morning feeding. When we see Declan in his own crib, we feel secured and have a peace of mind. We are glad that Declan is able to sleep on his own without using any other method (touch wood!).

Waking up in the middle of night is tiring. But I do enjoy the work. I don't know how to describe my joy while I see the King Senior and King Junior sleeping in the same room with me. I've two Kings in the room!!! Hehehe....

Having the persons you love sleeping next to you is such an amazing feeling! =)

Changing diaper

2010-08-20T12:06:00.004+08:00

Diaper is good friend of all babies. And so does Declan! =)

Every time when I said "change diaper", Declan will raise his both legs. Awwww.... So so cute! Declan can read my mind. I love playing that with him! Declan is a boy with penis (of course!). The most challenging part of changing diaper for Declan is he pees in the half way of changing diaper! Hahahaha.... The little fountain is GOOD, I tell you! Well well well, I've found a way to prevent the fountain leaking, hahaha.... Practice made a good result! :p

Learning the color and shape of stool is part of it. Oh my, his little butt is so soft and cute! I feel like to bite this little lazy butt, ha!

Diaper, diaper, diaper, thanks for cleaning up all the dirty work for us! =)

Feeding time

2010-08-20T12:01:00.004+08:00

Oh gosh, feeding!! Feeding, feeding, feeding Declan! It's so amazing to see Declan while he is sucking away!

My breast milk production is low. I tried many methods but the production doesn't increased tremendously. And so, we mix feed Declan. We find the best method to suit our life style and needs. Declan milk my breasts still although he does drink formula. I am busy every 3 hours! His mouth is tiny and I like to see his hungry face, ah hahaha! Naughty mommy I am!

King enjoys feeding Declan, too -- of course, only bottle feeding! He looks so fatherly while feeding Declan! One of the best picture I've ever seen on King! Ahhh.... The father and the son.... =)

Bathing time!

2010-08-20T11:52:00.003+08:00

After regaining my health and energy, I must start taking up all the "courses" from my confinement lady. Being newly dad and mom, King and I were nervous while holding little tiny Declan in the bathe tub. Well, nothing is impossible, haha!

Declan is small. Every part of him is small and cute!!!! We hold him carefully in everything single steps. King hardly remember all the steps but he was so brave to take up the bathing course. I was surprise that he asked for it in the beginning. It is good for the father to learn all the basic stuff. So that, I've an assistant when I'm not available.

Well, undressing Declan, applying all kinda oil and cream, wrapping up, bathing, playing water, talking and guiding, cleaning up, dressing up, changing diaper, combing, whatever you name it.... We love every part of bonding with baby Declan. Declan didn't like the way we hold him and bathe him at first. Man, his crying made me scared and nervous. His tear drop is real!!!! Hahahaha.... But still, we enjoy every moment with Declan! Oh my, he such an adorable baby doll! =)

We took more than a week for the bathing class and now, we can do it without any help! And, Declan enjoys playing water in his little bath tub! It's such a good bonding time every morning and I always looking forward for this session with Declan, hehehe!

Happy bathing, my little Declan!

Temple visit after my 40 days of confinement

2010-08-20T11:47:00.003+08:00

I did confinement for 40 days. I started to regain my energy to do basic stuff. And so, we decided to visit the 天后宮 temple and thank God for protecting me and baby Declan from the tough delivery. I feel thankful and blessing!!!!! Really!!

I made a wish in front of the God. God, please grand us a happy and healthy family! We love each other very very much and we cherish each other every single minute! We love whatever we are and we'll live our life to the fullest, God! And again, thank you for granting us such a beautiful baby! We love him very much and we promise to raise him up in an educated environment. Thank you, God!

Full month of Baby Declan

2010-08-20T11:40:00.004+08:00

Baby Declan was born on 15th of June. We had some guests at home during the weekend before 15th of June. King and my parents were here on 15th of June for our own family celebration. I was so glad for their arrival and attendance.

I couldn't believe that lil' Declan was one month old! He was around 2.5 kg, even though he looked small. I was having my confinement, still, to regain my health. My confinement lady (Kam Jie) did a good job and we decided to extend her for another 3 weeks stay. Man, it was so good to have her for 7 weeks in total!!

Something that blow out my mind was, I didn't take shower for 2 weeks!!!!!! Eewwwwww!!!! How did I do that?! How???? Gosh, I couldn't stand for the unwashed hair but I followed the tradition no matter how. Well, regaining my health was my purpose. Without health, it is impossible for me to take care of lil' Declan and King in the future!

Lil' Declan, lil' Declan..... Daddy and Mommy are so happy to have you in our family! Having you with us in the first month was great! We hope that you had good time with us, too! We love you, Declan!

Busy busy busy

2010-08-20T11:37:00.002+08:00

It has been a while for not updating my blog. Yes, I'm busy! I'm very busy with my new family life! =)

Well, I've many things to update and note down as I know that I will review my life again and again. While King and I are adjusting our new life routine, my mind is full of writing, still. That's the purpose of having this blog. King is bonding with baby Declan now and here I've my own personal time for my blog. Stay tune.....

Our new family member

2010-07-18T16:31:00.001+08:00

KJ has got a new name -- Declan Lau 劉恩桐. This is a name that given by his proud Daddy. We love the name very much! =)

My 35 weeks -- KJ arrives!

2010-07-18T15:20:00.004+08:00

34 weeks 6 days, King brought me for Gynae check up as usual. The moment we stepped into Dr Yap's room, she told us right away, Wan Teen, you have to deliver your baby today or tonight! We were shocked! My blood pressure was high -- around 160/110 and the protein level found from my urine was high too -- more than 2. My eyes were puffy and my face was swollen -- I thought I was having water retention. All these indicated that I was diagnosed with pre-eclampsia (pregnancy induced hypertension) and the only solution is to deliver the baby. Dr Yap ultrasound KJ again and KJ was doing fine (fitness, heart beat) but he was underweight with 1.6 kg merely at his gestational week. And because of all the reasons put together, Dr Yap demand King to send me to UMMC right away without thinking twice. Dr Yap wrote a reference letter to a Gynae and she rang the Gynae for KIV arrangement. Everything seems unusual to me. I was wheeled by a nurse and King sent me to UMMC right after that. Dr Yap was praying for us, I know that. She told me before seeing me off, "I want you to deliver your baby in UMMC. They have many good doctors and you'll save a lot of money, trust me.".

The minute I was arrived in UMMC, King wheeled me to the labor ward. The medical team did all the arrangement for us. From that minute on, I was monitored closely by the medical team for blood pressure reading and pre-eclampsia symptoms. They sent me to general ward for a few hours monitoring. King went back home and brought me my hospital bag.

Around 7 pm, I started to have nausea -- one of the pre-eclampsia symptoms. I rang the nurse and the team transfer me to labor ward. I sms King quickly that I might deliver KJ that night. He's going to be a father very very soon!

At midnight, I started to have gastric pain -- another pre-eclampsia symptom. I was nervous and the medical team decided to deliver KJ right away for safety purpose. Otherwise, KJ and I will be in danger. The hospital rang King right away and the medical team prepared all the equipments for me. I told myself that, KJ, you are going to be alright, mommy will meet you soon, let's work things out together!

I finally saw King again when I was bed-wheeled to the operation theatre. King gave me a smile and I know I'm gonna be alright. The operation theatre was damn cold. I was excited but nervous. I just couldn't wait to meet my little KJ. The operation didn't take too long. I was told by the team that KJ is smaller than other babies. I heard KJ's crying noise and I was happy. But I didn't see KJ right away. I didn't think too much. I just want KJ to be safe and healthy.

I was bed-wheeled to another room for blood pressure monitoring right after my delivery. I was there for about 15 to 20 minutes. I was conscious and I wish to see King. After that, I was transfer back to labor ward for monitoring again. King came to my bed after seeing KJ. He showed me KJ's pictures and videos, and we are very happy that KJ is fit and healthy. KJ can breath by himself without using oxygen supply.

Next day, I saw another medical team standing next to my bed after I came back from toilet. One of the doctors asked me, how do I feel now. I told them that I felt dizziness and tiredness. The specialist who is named PC Tan told me that I developed HELLP Syndromes during my delivery. I didn't know what the heck HELLP Syndromes is. They told me that my liver enzyme is shoot up tremendously, my platelets count drops seriously to classification 3 (the most critical) and my red blood cell counts drop. This can be very serious!!! I asked the team, am I going to be alright? Dr Tan explained to me what they are going to do the next. I'll have 2 packs of blood transfusion and steroid injections. Blood test is a must everyday for making sure everything gets back to normal. I was shocked, still. Why am I having such a complicated and tough delivery?! Before the team left, I requested a doctor to explain everything to King.

King was informed and he came to me. I was comforted. King did wiki HELLP Syndromes at home that night and he was worried. Fortunately, I was transfer to general ward after the blood transfusion was done on the same day. Since then, I stayed in the general ward for another 6 nights. It seemed like a year long to me!

Mom got to know about the delivery and she rushed to KL for visiting. Thank God mom was here for help! And, thank god again, my confinement lady rushed to KL for help and start working! Help is coming, I told myself. Since then, King was my meal delivery guy. Mom went back to hometown when my confinement lady was here. I'm glad that part of the things were settled down, although I needed to be hospitalized.

KJ stayed in the hospital with me. So I wasn't alone. I started to breastfeed him. But my blood pressure didn't drop to normal reading. I hate to be on medication but I've no choice. After a week, the medical team discharged me and I have to go back for check up after 2 weeks time. I was happy about the go-home news! However, KJ needed to be stay in the hospital for weight gaining purpose -- he weighed 1.62 kg merely. My breast milk was not enough for KJ. And that's why KJ didn't gain weight accordingly. For safety and healthy reason, we decided to put KJ in the hospital for a few days. Hopefully the team will be good, they better be! I couldn't stop crying while leaving KJ in the incubator...... I felt guilty and sorry for leaving him!!! Thank God I've King and a few supporting friends. I was comforted that I need to build up my health before welcoming KJ home. And I promised King and KJ that I'll do that.

Home sweet home! I rested and slept well at home. I was the breast milk suppler and King was the milk delivery guy. I visited KJ every day happily. Oh my, little KJ was famous in the Pediatric ward because of his active kicking and punching, and his tiny body. Many people came to King and me when we were there.

My blood pressure has dropped to normal reading after a few days fully resting. And another good news was KJ can come home!!! This is the day that we have hoping for so long! When KJ came home, his 4 grandparents were at our house for welcoming. =)

Four of us were together, finally! King, me, Coby and KJ!!!!! This is one family! I had a tough delivery and I have a lot of thought after all these. Thank God that KJ and I survived and we are recovering well! Thank King for supporting and everything! Thank Coby for cooperation! Thank my family for praying! Thank all my friends for praying, blessing, phone calling and everything! It's blessing in disguised! I wanna thank another important person -- Dr Yap! She's the one who safe us and she saves King's wallet! The medical bill turns out cheap and affordable! We are blessed that we went to a good and ethical doctor!

Life is a celebration. Living healthily has became a wish to me and King. We never thought of any serious illness which will strike any of us suddenly but it had happened. We are blessed that we've overcame the worst situation together. And now, we've one new family member -- KJ! No matter what had happened, we welcome KJ and we are happy that we've extent our family to a greater height.

Thank you all! We wish all of you happy and healthy! =)

To my dearest friend -- Luke Yeow

2010-07-18T15:17:00.000+08:00

3／6 下午，我因為高血壓而進院觀察；確沒想到同時的你跌下山而受傷，等待救援。
4／6 ，我吵著要出院，醫生說我可以出院在家休息；確沒想到同時的你在手術室里。
5／6，我在家修養得很開心，因為住在醫院里很另人討厭；確沒想到同時的你在與死神搏鬥。
5／6 傍晚，我接到欣卉的短訊，說你剛去世。我從午睡中跳醒，讀了 SMS 幾遍，馬上打電話給阿卉問個清楚，再上网讀你的消息。你，真的離開了嗎？我不敢去想太多，因為我要保持我血壓的指數。King 帶我和朋友外出用餐，他們和我聊別的話題。我的心情是平復的。回家的路程中，鳳嬌和佳臻都打電話來，不知要如何把消息告訴我，因為大家都知道我現在有身孕。如何開口啊，你說？後來，我的心情還是平靜的。但是就是不能接受你突然離開的事實。那一晚，沒有人可以入眠。
6／6 一早，我給 King 唱了生日歌。然後，King 開始和我一起回憶和你的點滴，特別是你10年前去加州找我們的日子。King 很記得，很記得，我們帶你去 Infinite Loop 買你的蘋果衣服，等等。他說，你的忌日，怎麼和他的生日那麼近。他很難過。後來，我打了電話給寶玉。她在電話里頭哭得不能自己，我強忍著淚水，叫她要冷靜。你啊，真叫我難做人啊！下午，我讀了你在 Facebook profile 里很多朋友為你留的言。我突然間痛哭了 5 分鐘。King 把我抱得緊緊的。他說，那是場意外。

－－兩個月前，你不是才帶我去吃好吃的日本餐嗎？付錢的時候，我說，做麼吃降貴的啊？NT$1000！！！你說，你朋友我在 IBM 上班，別擔心啦！反正我也沒吃過，你就陪我吃咯！
－－我說我是大肚婆，很怕走樓梯，你帶我走平平的小路。
－－我說我是大肚婆，馬上要去廁所，你帶我去乾淨的公厠，在外頭耐心得等我。
－－我看到你公司樓下有大平賣，寶寶衣服超便宜，我吵著說我要去買。你一直笑我，我說我是安弟哩，誰叫你跟安弟一起逛街，呵呵！然後，你跟我一起選寶寶的衣服。我還拼命跟你說有多便宜多便宜，你就一直笑我這個安弟。
－－你問我懷孕期間有沒有看很多書，我說當然有啊。然後你笑說，難怪人家都說第一個孩子是看書養的。
－－。。。。。

你真的是玩臭的！你34歲就離開了我們，你是不是怕我們看你老去的樣子？

因為你的離去，大家都很努力得上 Facebook 想要知道你得消息和後事安排。我知道你很怕別人談你的是非。然而，這一次，你讓我們太緊張了。你的後事和葬禮，我無法出席。但是我知道你一定能了解我的原因。我會告訴寶寶，媽咪有一位很要好的朋友，雖然他已在另一個世界繼續追尋他的夢想，我們不能見面，但是他是一個守護著我們的帥天使。

我不知道要如何把這篇文章做個 ending，因為這一次的拜拜，實在是太沈重了。保重，dear！

Third Trimester

2010-07-18T15:05:00.003+08:00

After coming back from Koh Samui, Thailand, I entered my third trimester. Fatigue strike me again and I was so lazy to do anything. I basically slept and rest a lot.

When I was in 33 weeks, I was refered to UMMC by my Gynae suddenly. Dr Yap told us about pre-eclampsia and the symptoms that I need to pay attention with. My blood pressure was shoot up noticeably and I was admitted into UMMC for a night of blood pressure monitoring. I was shocked and I hate to be admitted into the hospital out of the sudden. Oh well, we've no choice. So I was sort of being forced to stay in the hospital for a night. I told the nurses and doctors that I WANTED TO GO HOME because I couldn't rest at all in the hospital! One of the doctors calmed me down by explaining how serious a pre-eclampsia could be. So I tried to cooperate with them as much as I could and I was able to discharge the next day. It was so good to be home!!!!

Since then, I monitored my blood pressure closely at home. I do not want to be admitted into hospital again unless KJ is ready to meet us. Hence, I rest and sleep as much as I could since then. I was told by Dr Yap that I might need to deliver KJ in UMMC (a government subsidized university hospital) if I had the complication and if KJ is underweight. Dr Yap's purpose is to save our medical bill. King and I sort of understand and we follow what Dr Yap has told us.

It's no fun to have "surprise", some times. But nothing is perfect. We want a safe and healthy baby delivery, that's our aim.

Koh Samui

2010-07-18T14:44:00.003+08:00

King is taking a long break since April. We had so many plans to do since then as we didn't wanna miss our plans out before King Junior arrives. One of the plans was having a honeymoon!

Welp, we chose Koh Samui in east Thailand at last. It was a 5 days trip. We had a lot of great time together in the hotel and at the beach for 5 days. I wanted to take my pregnancy pictures so badly. And so, I took some ideas from the Internet before heading to Samui Island. Both of us are not professional in photo shooting. But King did a good job and I love all my pictures very much! Being pregnant is once or twice in a life time. If I missed out the opportunity of taking pregnancy pictures, I don't know when is my next chance, haha!

We spent all our time in the hotel everyday. Of course, we did sunbath at the hotel private beach, too. Many people noticed my baby bump and I was well-taken care of wherever I went. This is the privilege of being a preggie, haha! Everybody said "Good luck" to both of us.

Walking at the beach hand-in-hand with King -- this is what I love the most in the trip! I told King, KJ will be the sandwich between us when he is here one day. But King said each of us will take turn and be sandwiched accordingly. He wants KJ to know that Daddy needs Mommy sometimes and Mommy needs Daddy sometimes too. =)

King brought me for star view every night after dinner. We miss starry night so so much!!! We had many great moments together in Samui Island. And, we had a lot of fun topics to talk to as well. Having a great partner is more than enough wherever a destination is.

I wanna thank King for a wonderful holiday! Now I can cross out an item from my Wish List. =)

I'm back!

2010-07-18T14:42:00.003+08:00

I'm back! Yes, I'm back to my blog after 2 months! =)

Well, I kept on thinking of updating my blog at times but I had no time to do so. I'm going to write down what I have missed in the past few months. Every moment is important to me. So, stay tune!

My right side of my baby bump

2010-04-22T10:22:00.004+08:00

Lil' baby KJ likes to park himself on my right side of the belly. If you wanna look for baby KJ, please look at my right side of my belly.

Baby KJ kicks and punches frequently, especially after having meal. This lil' angel tickle me at times; I laugh out loud suddenly at times. This is a wonderful feeling! King and I know that baby KJ likes to play with us. Baby is active and curious inside the womb.

Baby KJ, we'll miss this wonderful feeling and moments for sure after this July! We love you, baby KJ! =)

Books for baby KJ

2010-04-22T10:13:00.004+08:00

I know I've mentioned many times -- King and I are book lovers. So, it's no doubt that we prepare books and book shelves for our lil' baby KJ. Hehe!

Some people think it's a bit too early for us to prepare books for the lil' one, esp the books for 2 years old and above. I disagree with these people. There's no rule saying that this book is mainly for toddler or young kid or teenager or even an adult. Adult enjoys reading pictures book too; young kid enjoys reading fictions too; baby enjoys reading colorful pictures no matter how many words in it too. We buy good books for all sort of ages, including for ourselves. I laugh at these people because they know nothing about books. Toddlers and kids can't read many words, yet the parents can share the content after reading with the kids, why not?! Parents can spend more quality time with the toddlers or kids by flipping the books, why not?! Parents can figure out the doubts that questioned by the kid from the books, why not?! Why NOT?!

Think out of the box, people. THINK! =)

Taking a break

2010-04-22T09:58:00.004+08:00

King is taking a break from work lately. Thank godness he's with me all this while when I lost my Grandma and my baby bump is growing bigger and heavier. He's such a kind hubby, I'd say.

** Well, we did some gardening together, although I hardly do much and King did most of it under Coby's inspection, haha! We know that we will not have time to do gardening together when baby KJ comes to this world.

** King goes for shopping with me all the time. We shop for home furnitures and stuff for baby KJ. It's so good to have a good driver when my belly is big, ha!

** King brings me for swimming with my sister when we have time during weekend. King is a good swimmer. We agree to let baby KJ to take up swimming lesson when he's ready in a few months old.

** We brought Coby to see vet when Coby started to unwell a week ago. Oh man, I don't know how am I going to handle Coby without King because my baby bump is heavy. Coby, we can't live without daddy, do you know that?

** We hang around in bookstore again when we have time. We bought new books for ourselves and baby KJ, again. Hehe!

** We have a lot of DVDs on our TV shelves. I cried wholeheartedly when we watched "Ten Promises", damn it! More DVDs to come while sitting next to King.

** Walking Coby together in the park is our usual daily job. We started to imagine when baby KJ is sitting in his baby stroller, checking out the park and birds in the park together with us, that's nice and sweet!

** Of course, King tend to have more sweet time for me and baby KJ. We talk to and play with baby KJ every morning and every evening. Baby KJ is starting to build the bonding with us and we enjoy every moment with him.

There are more things that we haven't start doing..... Catching movies in theatre, having fun in the kitchen together, designing the room for baby KJ, more and more.

It's good to take a break from work. Life with family is beautiful, beautiful, beautiful!

My dearest Grandma

2010-04-22T09:51:00.002+08:00

I lost my beloved Grandma 3 weeks ago. I was sadden by the news although King and I did visit her a few days before she said final good-bye to everyone.

I tried to hold my tear most of the time because I want to handle the emotion well. But I did have teary eyes a couple times when I was alone.

Well, I did share the good news of having baby KJ with Grandma when she was still alive. She said she wanted to give him a red packet. I was touched after hearing that and was hoping that she could wait until July or August when baby KJ is born. Yet, Grandma is having reunion with Grandpa in the Heaven by now. So I guess it's a good thing in a way.

Baby KJ sensed my sadness and exhausting body during the traveling and funeral. But he was very cooperative with us. He didn't kick a lot; he gave me a peaceful of mind. Thank you, baby KJ.

Grandma has became one of my idols. I see her from the motherly part. I know that I gotta live stronger and happier because I'm going to be a mother soon. Grandma, may you rest in peace and we will miss you forever...... I love you!

The 5 kg

2010-04-22T09:45:00.002+08:00

I finally reach 49 kg yesterday, yay! Well, I sound like someone who like to shade off some extra pounds, hahaha! No no, what I mean is I have gained extra 5 kg in the past 6 months, hooray! I'm happy, King is happy too!

By putting on weight, I started to drink fresh milk everyday and eat my favorite Avocado. Most people think I've the potential and good reasons to eat more more more based on my skinny and petite body shape. I disagree with this mentality and saying because everyone has different bone structure and body shape. I just want to eat healthy for myself and my baby, that's it.

Something good that I really wanna mention is baby KJ kicks a lot after having meal every time. I'm happy that he enjoys the food that we have together. I told baby KJ that all kinda food is good for him.

My target weight is 53 kg. Keep it up, mum-to-be! =)

夫妻誰的基因決定了孩子（1）

2010-04-01T13:51:00.003+08:00

夫妻誰的基因決定了孩子...

基因, 夫妻, 孩子

身高是誰的遺傳大？

——父母各占一半。

在營養狀況下的前提下，孩子的身高有70%的主動權掌握在父母的手裡，父母的遺傳是決定孩子身高的主要因素，因為決定身高的因素35%來自父親，35%來自母親。假若父母雙方個頭不高，那就要靠寶寶後天那30%的努力了。

智力是誰的遺傳大？

——媽媽

智力有一定的遺傳性，同時受到環境、營養、教育等後天因素的影響。據科學家評估，遺傳對智力的影響約占50%-60%，就遺傳而言，媽媽聰明，生下的孩子大多聰明，如果是個男孩子，就會更聰明。這其中的原因在於，人類與智力有關的基因主要集中在X染色體上。女性有2個X染色體，男性只有1個，所以媽媽的智力在遺傳中就占有了更重要的位置。

為證明此點，我們首先來復習下高中生物知識：男寶寶和女寶寶是怎樣來的？

男生是XY，X (卵)是來自母親，Y(精子)是來自父親。

女生是XX，X (卵)是來自母親，X(精子)是來自父親。

所以生男生女都是先生的錯，不要怪罪媽媽的肚皮不爭氣。

請注意：

男生是XY，所以男生的智商全部都是來自母親的遺傳，女生是XX，所以女生的智商是父親跟母親各有一半影響。

因為女生的智商是父親母親都有影響，所以會有中和的效應。所以女生智商的分布會呈現自然分布(normal distribution)，就是倒鐘狀，中間最多，兩邊較少。

然後男生因為是完全只受一方影響，所以男生智商分布會呈現在偏向在兩個極端。也就是說，男生天才比較多，但是同時，蠢材之中也是男生特別多。

這個故事告訴我們什麼？

1. 你要判斷一個男生聰不聰明，看他媽媽就知道了。可是，你又要怎麼判斷一個男生的媽媽聰不聰明？......。.想不出簡便的方法...。.

2. 然後我們用機率來算：

生男孩的機率= 1/2；生女孩的機率=1/2。

生男孩的時候，母親對於男孩智商的影響力 = 1

生女孩的時候，母親對於女孩智商的影響力 = 1/2

所以說母親跟父親對於下一代智商的影響力(期望值)的比例是

1*1/2 + 1/2*1/2 : 0*1/2 + 1/2*1/2= 0.75 ： 0.25= 3 ： 1= 母：父

所以說，如果你：

1. 是男生，如果你覺得你很笨的話。你千萬要娶一個聰明的女生來。這樣你小孩翻盤的機率還有七成五，人生還是充滿了希望。

2. 是女生，如果你覺得你很笨的話，因為，你翻人家盤的機率有七成五...。.啊，我不能再說了.......。.總之，最近天氣不錯，出去走走。

3. 當你看到一個男生很聰明的時候，則，他父親很聰明的機率是 0% (應該說，就算他父親很聰明，也對他是沒有影響的)，可是他母親很聰明的機率是100%。

所以說，如果你在考慮要嫁給一個很聰明的男生的時候，你就要小心他媽媽，可能會是一個很會算計的婆婆。

反之，當你看到一個男生很笨的時候，沒錯，他通常會很有錢，這是上帝的安排，上帝為了不讓人類滅亡，所以他會讓很笨的人很有錢，這樣他才能娶到聰明的女生。

性格是誰的遺傳大？

——爸爸。

性格是父親的遺傳大。性格的形成固然有先天的成分，但主要是後影響。比較而言，爸爸的影響力會大過媽媽。其中，父愛的作用對女兒的影響更大。一位心理學家認為：“父親在女兒的自尊感，身份感以及溫柔個性的形成過程中，扮演著重要的角色。”另有一位專家提出，父親能傳授給女兒生活上的許多重要的教訓和經驗，使女兒的性格更加豐富多彩。

相貌是誰的遺傳大？

——具體問題具體分析

膚色：

總遵循“相乘後再平均”的自然法則，讓人別無選擇。若父母皮膚較黑，絕不會有白嫩肌膚的子女；若一方白一方黑，大部分會給子女一個“中性”膚色，也有更偏向一方的情況。

眼睛：

(眼形)孩子的眼形、大小遺傳自父母，大眼睛相對小眼睛是顯性遺傳。父母有一人是大眼睛，生大眼睛孩子的可能就會大一些。

(雙眼皮)雙眼皮是顯性遺傳，單眼皮與雙眼皮的人生寶寶極有可能是雙眼皮。但父母都是單眼皮，一般孩子也是單眼皮。

(眼球顏色)黑色等深色相對於淺色而言是顯性遺傳。也就是說，黑眼球和藍眼球的人，所生的孩子不會是藍眼球。

(睫毛)長睫毛也是顯性遺傳的。父母只要一人有長睫毛，孩子遺傳長睫毛的可能性就非常大。

鼻子：

一般來講，鼻子大、高而鼻孔寬呈顯性遺傳。父母中一人是挺直的鼻梁，遺傳給孩子的可能性就很大。鼻子的遺傳基因會一直持續到成年，小時候矮鼻子，成年還可能變成高鼻子。

耳朵：

耳朵的形狀是遺傳的，大耳朵相對於小耳朵是顯性遺傳。父母雙方只要一個人是大耳朵，那麼孩子就極有可能也是一對大耳朵。

下顎：

是不容“商量”的顯性遺傳。父母任何一方有突出的大下巴，子女常毫無例外地長著酷似的下巴，“像”得有些離奇。

肥胖：

會使子女們有53%的機會成為大胖子，如果父母有一方肥胖，孩子肥胖的概率便下降到40%。這說明，胖與不胖，大約有一半可以由人為因素決定，因此，父母完全可以通過合理飲食、充分運動使自己體態勻稱。

禿頭：

造物主似乎偏袒女性，讓禿頭只傳給男子。比如，父親是禿頭，遺傳給兒子概率則有50%，就連母親的父親，也會將自己禿頭的25%的概率留給外孫們。這種傳男不傳女的性別遺傳傾向，讓男士們無可奈何。

青春痘：

這個讓少男少女耿耿於懷的容顏症，居然也與遺傳有關。因為父母雙方若患過青春痘，子女們的患病率將比無家庭史者高出20倍。

腿型：

酷似父母的那雙脂肪堆積的腿，完全可以通過充分的鍛煉而塑造為修長健壯的腿。倒是那雙腿若因遺傳而顯得過長或太短時，就無法再塑，只有聽任自然了。

KJ -- King Junior

2010-03-31T14:07:00.002+08:00

I started to use KJ to represent my lil' one lately. Does KJ sound good? Hahaha.... KJ means King Junior! :D KJ oh KJ, I like this short form of nickname so so much! If I have a baby girl next round, I'll call her EJ, which represent Eunice Junior, hahahaha!!! Hmmm.... Let's focus on KJ now first.

KJ KJ KJ! I like KJ! =)

Good and relaxing mood

2010-03-31T13:59:00.004+08:00

I'm glad that I did go for a trip after knowing that I am diagnosed with Hypothyroidism. I'm relief after the trip because relaxing mood does help to ease my condition and worries. Pregnancy does change a woman's health due to the hormone change. Good mood is the best medicine after all.

After chatting with a few cousins and friends of mine, my condition seems controllable. As long as my physician and Gynae do monitor my health condition with blood test, I would be fine. And so does KJ. I keep telling KJ that he'll be a healthy and happy boy. And he'll be a full term baby.

Moreover, Raimond Lap's musics ease my mood every single minute. KJ seems calm while I listen to Raimond's songs. And my blood pressure is under control by having a relaxing mood.

Alrighty, keep it up! =)

夫妻理财第一步：设定共同的目标

2010-03-31T13:53:00.002+08:00

I like this article and would like to share with my friends on my blog. Happy reading! =)

于敏 / 张力

我的幸福观就是拥有目标，然后享受努力的过程，最后达成目标，接着趋于平淡，再奔向下一个目标。家庭理财也一样，设定目标非常重要。因为财务自由的初级目标是过上想过的生活，那什么是我们想过的生活？有了生活目标，通过记帐，就能知道这样的生活需要多少金钱，再据此选择自己擅长和需要的理财方式，才能算出每年的收益是否能支持目标生活，这样有助于我们尽快达成理想。

我和先生一直都是在同类别IT公司工作，受过很多相似的培训。虽然“工种”不同，但长期的工作使得我们有着近似的思考方式。由于都很推崇“高效能人士的七个习惯”，我们一致认为写下自己的目标能最好地认识自己并理清思路。因为写作能促使我们进行更多更有效的思考。在我看来，俩人拥有相似的价值观和目标是婚姻幸福的重要保障。“门当户对”和“志同道合”远比请吃饭、送礼物和娱乐、玩耍要重要得多，因为俩人志趣相投是可遇而不可求的。我们的经验是：婚前理智一些，婚后矛盾就少一些，这样浪漫才会多一些。

我们的家庭目标其实也是一个不断完善、摸索和改进的过程。先来看看最开始的问卷答案。这是先生的目标，在此精简摘录：有了孩子，就换一个大的房子。每年有一次国外和一次国内的度假，好好享受生活的乐趣，同时也开阔视野。为此我们应该努力地工作，保证良好的经济基础和收入来源，同时也注意广开财源，尽早进入财务自由的阶段。我的计划是，在五年内，达到财务自由。再看我的目标：住在北京东边，不用自己打扫卫生；在高档写字楼上班，工作体面而又有趣；婚姻幸福；孩子聪明漂亮；爸妈健康长寿；三五知己经常聚聚；不用自己做饭，想出去就出去吃，如果做饭，也只是娱乐；除去公费旅游，每年自费一次出国游、一次国内游。

从两个人的答案中，能看出很多有趣的东西。对于我来说，目标生活就是快乐单身生活一笔一笔的叠加和延续，外加一点家庭的内容。对于先生来说，享乐的内容不多，更多的是谈到如何达到目标，甚至包括了达成时间。这说明他是一个很有责任感的实干分子，而我是一个务虚的享乐分子。除去家庭幸福的共同要素－有房有车、长辈健康长寿、孩子聪明健康、夫妻和谐，我们对于自费旅行也有着惊人的一致。这也导致在达成财务方面的目标后，我们重要的生活内容就是自助旅行。

后来我们对于目标进行了修订，在“该做的”、“想做的”和“能做的”事情基础上有一个交集，这就是共同目标：住在东边，工作和生活兼顾；孩子健康聪明；每年保证一次国外自由行，一次国内自由行。鉴于两个人不同的才能，由先生全面负责理财和投资，我全面负责消费和记帐。我辞职后，更是全面交出了“挣钱大权”。

目标明晰后，我们很快采取了行动：两年之内在东边买了房子；有了一个儿子；去了黄山、婺源和三亚；又去了美国和澳大利亚。春寒料峭中我们自驾在游人稀少的塔斯马尼亚岛，大雨中闻着摇篮山泥土的芬芳；烟雨朦朦中骑着租来的摩托车穿行在婺源水墨画般的乡间；在大堡礁和百福湾深潜，和鱼群畅游；黄昏时从波士顿返回纽约，曼哈顿灯光亮起，那璀璨的夜景震慑人心；以后我们又自驾在意大利托斯卡纳乡间，流连在迷人的历史小镇，享受美食美酒美景；在希腊小岛上看爱琴海日落……那一刻我们感觉真是“神仙眷侣”！

当然，生活不是随目标按部就班进行的，必然有很多意外发生。如果都是按部就班，那就像旅游团一样刻板无趣了。生活就像自助旅行，有计划更有意外，有惊喜也有阻碍。因为认定该什么时候就干什么事，有了儿子后，生产前一天还在努力工作的我辞职做了全职妈妈，貌似推迟了目标的达成。但后来又赶上了股市的暴涨，使得我们最终还是用五年时间达成了目标。

（丈夫于敏，从事资讯科技业 13载。酷爱理财，热衷投资。40岁前实现了财务自由的理想，现在南加州大学攻读工商管理硕士学位。妻子张力，从事资讯科技业 9年后从白领丽人变身全职主妇。无论工作还是在家，干的都是花钱的事。本文所述仅代表他们的个人观点。）

買買買

2010-03-31T12:22:00.004+08:00

天啊！我在台灣買了很多很多 KJ 的東西！老公說，如果我繼續待在台灣一兩個禮拜，他可要幫我把我的戰力品船運回家了，呵呵！

KJ，我們買了很多東西給你哦！有你的小衣服，小玩具，書本，用品等等。媽咪自己都差點忘了買自己的孕婦用品呢！你這個幸福的小傢伙，爹地媽咪都好愛你唷，呵呵！

書本，我最不能掉以輕心的 ITEM。我很注重看書的好習慣，和書本的選擇性。我很高興得找到了一些我很喜歡的書本，和給 KJ 看的書本和畫本。KJ，爹地媽咪都是愛書人。我們希望你也能參與和我們一起享受看書的樂趣。書中自有黃金屋。而我們也選擇了英文和中文書給 KJ。KJ 一定要學會讀中英文書！

買買買，我們都開始為 KJ 而忙了。

感謝堂姐一家人

2010-03-31T12:09:00.003+08:00

我在台北的日子，堂姐一家人都很照顧我這個大肚婆。而我的 KJ 也從來沒有餓過，哈哈哈！在台灣的十天，我的體重增加了2 KG，夠力夠力夠力！！！但是，我真的很享受台灣食物，哈哈！KJ，你真的是有口福哩！希望你將來不會是個偏食的小朋友哦！

而我的6歲表姪子陽陽也很棒！他還替我想了一個英文名字給 KJ － Wester Lau。雖然我們還沒有確定 KJ 的中英文名字，但是6歲陽陽的細心真的是讓我整個人都融化掉了！孕婦是不是都比較容易被感動啊？哈哈哈！

堂姐一家人的照顧真的是讓我說不完，感動和感激都是滿滿的在我的心裡和記憶里。謝謝你們讓我的懷孕過程當中留下美好的回憶！謝謝叻！=)

我的腳和你的手

2010-03-31T11:54:00.002+08:00

在台灣的十天，我到台中和 KING 住幾天。自己挺著一個大肚子到處去逛和吃，還算不錯。當然，也為 KJ 買了很多東西，很是開心。有位司機先生知道了我獨自去逛，他開玩笑得說，老公不對哦，怎麼能讓太太獨自挺著一個大肚子逛街呢。我笑笑得回答說，我老公很愛我的，我也不會讓他擔心。他用往後鏡看了看我，沒說甚麼，呵呵！

因為我走得很多，老公下班回到酒店，就放了熱水讓我泡泡腳，這是我們在家也回做的事情。啊，舒服多了！泡好了腳，我開始動不到我的腳了！KJ，你一天一天的長大，媽咪的肚子越來越大，媽咪不能親自用手洗腳了！突然間，老公彎下了腰，很用心得用一塊干布幫我擦干腳，說我的腳不能濕濕的，一定要擦干才行。我當時感動得不能自己！謝謝你了，KING！我真的很感動！KJ，因為有你，媽咪看到了爹地的溫柔一面，呵呵！

我的腳，你的手，拉近了我們的距離。這一幕，我永遠也不會忘記！

My first flight with KJ

2010-03-31T11:28:00.003+08:00

Well now, we are back from Taiwan! We had a lot of fun time with daddy and mommy's cousin family. And, I'm glad that King Junior (KJ) experienced the first flight with mommy, although daddy can't make it together with us in the round trip. But there are more to come, nothing to worry about!

On the way to Taiwan from Kuala Lumpur, KJ kicked a lot and I guess he didn't know what's going on while the flight was taking off and landing. I touched my baby bump and explained to KJ that we are gonna be alright. Mr. Pilot will ride us to our destination and meet daddy pretty soon. Something to mention, I'm glad that all the flight attendences, airport helpers and bus drivers gave me a hand when I had hard time to carry my luggage. KJ, you are such a lucky star to mommy!

On our way back to M'sia, KJ seemed pretty calm and steady in my baby bump. Welp, KJ, you'll experience more airplane ride in the future because the world is so big and beautiful for you to explore!

We love you, KJ! =)

Airplane ride

2010-03-18T09:29:00.003+08:00

I told my baby that we are going for an airplane ride today! Sit tight in my tummy and we'll see daddy soon!

It's funny that I keep talking to my belly. But with the responds and kicking, it brings more happiness to me! I told my Lil' one this early morning, mommy will bring him for an airplane ride this evening and it only last 4 to 5 hours long. We'll reach Taipei pretty late but please hang in there with mommy. Please be good, my baby. Please cooperate with mommy, my baby. We gonna have a fun but also relaxing trip. We'll meet mommy's cousin and your cousin Ryemco. Mommy and daddy will introduce the world and our friends to you, my baby. Get your seat belt ready, baby!

Coby will stay at pet hotel when we are away. I told Coby what he'll do in the pet hotel and who is he going to meet in the pet hotel (oh well, he knows some of his doggy friends there). He seems unhappy with the arrangement but I told Coby that we'll pick him up after our trip. He seems understand. Oh dear Coby, you are such a sweet dog!

Alright, pack things up and get ready. Fasten your seat belt, baby! =)

A wake up call to me -- Hypothyroidism

2010-03-17T16:43:00.003+08:00

I'm diagnosed with Hypothyroid and I was confirmed by my Gynae and a physician few days ago through a blood test. Thank godness my condition is pretty mild but I must be under medication as soon as possible. How did I find out? I would say it's blessing in disguise! My blood pressure was high during my last pregnancy check up due to the stair climbing in that morning and so I did the blood test for hypertension test. And that's how we found out that my Thyroid level is lower than the bracket.

After seeing my Gynae and an Endocrine specialist on the same day, they prescribe me the medicine to ease my Thyroid disorder problem. I was worried about the side effect of taking the drug and the harm that'd bring to my unborn baby. Fortunately, there's no harmful effect to my pregnancy and my baby. And so, I've no choice to take the medicine everyday.

I was a bit helpless when I deal with my Endocrine specialist after the confirmation. King is on business trip and I had to handle the emotion all by myself in the specialist hospital. I was pretty upset while driving back home and I even had a few tear drops. How I wish I could have a drug-free pregnancy.

Well, so, I started to do a lot of research online and read as many articles as I can. I realized that how dangerous it could be if I do not take the advice from my doctors. Being a victim of Iodine deficiency, the fetal will not be able to develop his/her brain healthily, which means, it might cause brain retardation to the baby when the baby is born, if the disease is not under control or gets worse. I was so worried and I couldn't think much after reading all these.

I'm lucky to have a cheerful husband. We talked via Skype that night and he told me that we'll be in this together. I felt guilty to take drug during my pregnancy; I felt bad to my baby; I felt sorry to King as I promise to give him a healthy baby. But I felt relief and the pain went away bit by bit after hearing the comforting words from King.

Next day, I talked to a few friends and my cousins who have diagnosed Thyroid disorder before. I want to know the root cause -- family gene or diet or insufficient medical check up or anything. I felt relief after figuring things out. And now, I'm back to the happy-me!

My health condition will be monitored by my Endocrine specialist every month, which is a must. I'm sure my Gynae and my physician will make my pregnancy stable and healthy. This is a wake up call to me and King. It's so important to study our family medical history for more prevention and health awareness. No matter what kinda disease our upper generations have diagnosed, we must do our part on the medical check up and it's always good for our next generation. Do not take health for granted! Medical check up and knowledge studying do not cost us a lot but the emotion of dealing with health issue cannot be described in words! Diabetes, heart disease, Thyroid disorder, Cancer, Papsmear, etc, whatever we have seen in our family, it's something important to know of. It's our responsibility to be aware of for our next generation!

Right now, I feel a lot better because Hypothyroid is not a serious disease after all if it's under control. The medicine that I'm taking now is one kinda natural hormone that good for my baby.

My dearest baby, oh, my dearest baby, mommy and daddy will protect you! We love you! =)

My chicken essence

2010-03-16T10:05:00.002+08:00

I made King my own brand of chicken essence when he was back from a business trip. Ah ha! It took me only 4 hours to make it and it did smell good, hahaha! I showed King how to prepare the ingredients and the kitchen utensils while showing him off my chicken essence. I can see the smile on his face! :p

Well, so..... King loves my chicken essence!! I'm glad that I can make more home brand chicken essence for this family, haha! Chicken oh chicken, you taste too nice! :p

The Man in my world -- the real King

2010-03-16T09:32:00.003+08:00

King was back for a short weekend last week. His caring melt my heart. It's not easy to take care of myself mentally during my pregnancy. He miss me and our Lil' one very much. I couldn't ask for more when I think of this wonderful man in my world.

We always believe that it's good to have a short separation for a couple. But it requires more mental support for a preggie when it comes to a short separation, especially I live by myself with the only dog. I'm glad that King was trying his best to be back as early as he could. I saw his effort and the love he is nurturing with this family.

Well, we spent a lot of good quality time together before his next trip. He brought me to get a maternity long jeans, we went for my favorite Japanese food, we hang out in Borders bookstore as usual, he showered Coby and took care of his morning and evening walk, he asked Coby to take care of me when he is away again. I think my pregnancy will not be sailing smoothly without King's support and caring.

Now King is off to business trip again. I'll meet him in Taiwan in a few days time for 10 days trip. This man in my life might not be a perfect man but he's just too perfect to me. I tell my baby that he has a wonderful daddy who miss talking to him everyday. Our baby boy responds to King when the Lil' one heard his voice, even via Skype. Isn't it amazing?!

King told me once, he'll work harder for this family. I hug him silently and thank him for everything.

Again, I wanna thank God to grant me a perfect man and make my life even more beautiful! And, I love you, my love! =)

我的雞精

2010-03-09T17:01:00.002+08:00

今天的我特別開心！因為我今天為自己和 baby 燉了雞精，哈哈哈！！！好好喝哦！

我一向來沒有喝雞精的習慣。但是在网上得到一些訊息說，雞精對孕婦和 baby 都很好。所以，我也來嘗試自己燉雞精為我和 baby 補一補吧！

其實，我是蠻羨慕身邊一些女性朋友們不用親自下廚，確有媽媽或家婆幫忙煮菜和燉補品，而自己又能好好休息。但是，一向來都很獨立的我，自己就得親自下廚和燉燉補品，就當作學習的日子吧。我媽要照顧我爸和幫忙生意的打點，我也不好意思叫我媽來照顧我的飲食；我家婆身子不好，所以我更不可能麻煩她。所以，我在沒有選擇的餘地之下，只好自己照顧自己了。呵呵！我要感謝我肚子里的 baby！因為他的合作，讓我可以有不錯的身體而好好自己煮菜和燉補品，哈哈哈！媽咪愛你，寶寶！

以前在美國的日子，我都是自己照顧自己的飲食而下廚的。因此，學會了不少家鄉菜。我想，在無奈的情況之下，它還會是件快樂無窮的經念。

我還要繼續尋找燉補品的 recipe 呢！為自己和家人而加油！耶！=)

My pregnancy and parenting books

2010-03-08T12:39:00.003+08:00

Books are meant to be explored and read. Bookstore is one of the favorite places of King and my. What a pity that Amazon doesn't have a mailing service in Malaysia. Otherwise, I'll spend on more books! Books is one of the best heritage to pass on to our next generation, I mean, only good books. I love books, ah ha!

Welp, the following books are what I've been reading and catching up with. I like them all.

1. On Becoming Birth Wise

2. On Becoming Baby Wise

3. On Becoming Toddler Wise

4. Itsy Bitsy Yoga: Poses to help your baby sleep longer, digest better and grow stronger

5. The Science of Parenting

6. Dr. Spock's baby & child care

7. What to Expect when you're Expecting

8. 七田真最新胎教

9. 不可思議的胎教

10. 聰明媽媽的胎內育兒法

11. 七田真 0－6 歲育兒法

12. 每個媽媽都是七田真

13. 決定孩子一生理財教育

The books lend by my friends:

14. 輕鬆度過懷胎十月

15. Complete Pregnancy & Baby Book

16. He's having a baby: the complete guide to fatherhood

Besides the books, my favorite pregnancy website is www.babycenter.com.

More to add into my bookshelf but I need some time to find them out. I've a list of books that I want to buy. Sighs, good books are so limited and hard to find here in Malaysia. Wish me luck!

我們的成長

2010-03-04T16:14:00.003+08:00

你將會是個怎樣的媽媽呢？我不斷地問自己，提醒自己。

除了要當一個能培育好下一代的好媽媽，我還很注重一件事情。那就是我不要當一個整天只懂家務事的媽媽。除了煮飯燒菜，除了家務清理，除了接送孩子上下課，我還懂些甚麼呢？我還能學習甚麼呢？我能做些甚麼而不會和孩子有代溝呢？地理？歷史？財經？運動？錢財管理？算起來是數不清呀！

我和 KING 討論過，當我們的孩子問很多“為甚麼”時，要如何應付。我們的地理歷史不是一百分，經濟學也不是 A+，動物植物學樣樣半桶水，而我們的耐心更不是一百分呀！經過商討之後，我們希望我們能和孩子一起努力尋找答案，不恥下問的精神，應該要和孩子一樣。但是，教導孩子自尋正確的資訊更是重要。我發覺到現代的孩子們很愛問問題，但確不知如何自尋答案。

孩子讓我們成長

孩子讓我們懂得甚麼是愛

孩子讓我們學習更多

孩子讓我們的人生可以更完美

感激寶寶的爹地

2010-03-04T15:39:00.004+08:00

老公出差去了，而我自己照顧自己的日子又開始了。當他抱著我，告訴我要好好照顧自己和寶寶的時候，我的眼眶確濕了。本以為我不會怎麼樣，因為我多兩個禮拜會去和老公會面，順便到處去走走，跟寶寶介紹一下這個世界，是件開心的事。但是，我的懷孕荷爾蒙確作怪，讓我突然間變得很無助。當然，我不想讓寶寶的爹地知道我流淚的事，好讓他安心得去公幹。所以，我們家的 Coby就傻傻地看著我在家流淚。可憐的狗。

在老公出差前，他都很細心地盡量把我不方便做的而他確可以幫上忙的事情一一搞定。幫我清理屋子啦，修修草地啦，買 Coby 的狗餅啦，交代我如何用新的 printer 啦，把要清的賬單和單子準備好啦，換床單啦，這個那個的。雖然我的肚子不是特別大，但是行動方面還是會有點兒喘和慢。而他的細心確是滿滿的，我的感動也是滿滿的！

很多人都說，懷第一胎時，老公都會特別緊張。不管甚麼事情，老婆都是最大！呵呵！我曾經問過 King, 當我有機會懷第二胎時，他會不會像現在這樣得對我體貼和細心。他笑了笑，拍了拍我的手。而一些媽媽級的朋友告訴我，要好好利用我懷第一胎的機會，叫老公做這個做那個。否則，懷第二胎時，就很難有這種特權了。呵呵！不管怎樣，我還是很感激 KING 對我的體貼和幫忙！兩個人要一輩子的在一起生活，感激的心很重要。這也是讓我們不管走到那裡都一直牽手的原故。

謝謝你叻，King！我肚子里的寶寶以你為傲！加油！=)

19 weeks

2010-03-02T17:22:00.002+08:00

This picture was taken during Chinese New Year in year 2010. I was in week 19th. My baby bump is shown obviously. Look at the father-to-be, his belly is as big as mine, haha!

Up closed and personal

2010-03-02T11:36:00.002+08:00

"Hey, baby is kicking now! Come and see, 寶貝!" I told King.

When I feel the kicking and movement from my baby bump all the time, King will come and stare at my baby bump and wait for the next kick or move. He loves to touch my baby bump or put his ear right on my belly. Just to get closer to our Lil' one.

"So, what are you doing in there now, baby?"

"Are you playing or sucking your thumb now?"

"Hello, baby, this is daddy and mommy!"

"......" more and more....

King gives my baby bump a kiss. I can't kiss my baby bump, too bad, hahaha! Baby, we hope you like hearing our voice, hehe! =)

Daddy will miss you

2010-03-02T10:53:00.003+08:00

Hello baby boy!

How are you in the womb? I hope it's warm and nice enough for you. The womb is your first new home for first ten months. We hope you like it.

Daddy is going to be away for a few weeks for a business trip soon. He feels sad and sorry for not able to greet you everyday as usual. But his love towards you will never be decreased or lessen. Mommy will bring you to see daddy maybe 2 weeks later. Mommy will bring you for an airplane ride 2 weeks later. Daddy will be overjoy to talk to you again when he sees you again! You gonna miss Daddy's voice and touch again!

Baby, oh our Lil' one! Daddy and mommy love you, always! Muak!

Love,

Mommy

Half way -- my 5 months of pregnancy

2010-03-01T15:12:00.004+08:00

I'm 5 months of pregnancy today! Yes, today!

We went for check up this morning. We are suppose to see our lil' one on 6th of March. Yet we made it one week earlier. King is going for a business trip by then but he doesn't wanna miss the chance to see our lil' one. And, he wanna go for the check up with me. He feels bad to leave me driving alone for check up. Isn't he a sweet guy? =)

Well, our lil' one was pretty cooperative. Dr. Yap told us everything about him and he is a healthy and good fetal (physical development and weight). We were happy! We had our first 3D ultrasound scanning today. This was our first time get to see up-closed picture of our lil' one. He seems to have bigger eyes and high cheek bone like me, high/big nose and small lips like King. Ah ha! Is it a good combination? We hope so and we'll find out few months later. I was advised to monitor my blood pressure twice a day, still. I wish not to have any health complication and I can go for natural birth on time. My lil' one, please help mommy a little bit and work things out together with mommy, alright? We will go through the pregnancy progress together with daddy's bom-bom support.

Dr said I'm able to travel oversea now with my good health condition. I am glad to hear that I'm able to tag along while King is having coming business trip. I wanna take more more more preggie pictures with my Man! I want! Hahaha.....

I'm half way in the whole pregnancy now. I'm glad that I've made it, so far. I told King to enjoy his life to the fullest now. 4 to 5 months later, I'll need his help the most, haha! =)

Raimond Lap

2010-02-25T17:31:00.002+08:00

I got to know Raimond Lap through my cousin, Chia Zhen. She introduced me Raimond Lap after knowing about my pregnancy. And, I'm blessed to have the CDs from her. Thanks a lot, Chia Zhen!

I started to in love with the musics that composed by Raimond Lap since first track. Surprisingly, King and I will not fall asleep after listening to his musics. Most of the prenatal or pregnancy musics are pretty classical and sleepy to both of us. We find that those classical musics are pretty boring. However, the harmonious melodies that composed by Raimond Lap ease our mind and emotion! And, my Lil' one moves a lot when I turn on the musics. The baby sound and laugh, plus the toy noise, mix into the musics make 3 of us calm and happy. All these are wonderful music on earth, I would say!

I don't mind to look for more series of the CDs, if it's for good or better. Why spend the money on something we dislike.

Thank you for your musics, Raimond Lap!

Thank you for the gifts, my dearly cousin!

Our lil' one loves it very much! =)

Kick and punch

2010-02-25T12:21:00.003+08:00

I felt the very first kick in week 19! I felt it, haha!! That was one of the best thing ever happened to me in my life!

The gassy or bubble or butterfly feeling, some people said. Yet, it is the feeling of popcorn popping to me! I started to talk to my lil' one more often now. And, I introduce him mommy and daddy more. King felt his first kick yesterday, finally! He was like WOO! I'm sure we'll miss the kicking after this July.

The lil' one is very active around 9 in the morning and 8 in the evening. I started to capture his active schedule and get ready with the games, musics and reading for him. But of course, I won't forget about my own personal time and my sweet time with my family.

This is such a miracle to me and King. I'll cherish the next 5 months more and we love you, baby!

Me and my Man in 17 weeks

2010-02-11T16:28:00.000+08:00

Me and my Man! The lil' young man is in my belly...... =)

XY Blueprint

2010-02-11T16:03:00.003+08:00

2 月 7 號，老公陪我一起去做產檢。我們很想念我們的寶寶。所以，在去的前一晚，我們都和寶寶說了一些話。希望他可以讓我們看到健康的他／她，也想知道他／她的性別。

17 個禮拜了，我也進入了 second trimester 。Morning sickness 也逐漸的少和輕微了。而我也比較 energetic 。醫生見到我們，說今天可以看看寶寶的性別。我的心老是想知道寶寶的健康。我很興奮得跳上床。醫生照呀照，突然間，她說，“哎呀，呵呵！Mr. Lau！你要給我一個大紅包了！”。老公和我還沒反應過來，都以為醫生在說要過年的事。然後，醫生就指了一個地方給我們看，是 BOY ！哇，我們真的很驚訝，哈哈哈！我們兩都對寶寶的“小雞雞”很好奇。老公一直問，那真的是他的 Lil' Penis 嗎，呵呵？醫生非常確定。因為我長得瘦，而且寶寶很合作，所以我們大家都看得非常清楚！小寶貝呀，你真的很聽爹地媽咪的話哦，真合作！希望你出來之後，也是那麼的合作，哈哈！後來，醫生恭喜我們得了一個 boy ，我們兩個很開心得看著 ultrasound 里的寶寶，從醫生房間哈哈大笑得走出來。而在等待的 10 多對準爹地媽咪看到我們很大聲的笑聲和笑臉，也看著我們傻笑。嘻嘻！

我在網上玩過幾個測試，都說我這胎是個女兒。所以，我們也以為是個女兒。然而，是男是女，我們都很高興！只要寶寶健康快樂，我們就很滿足了。我跟老公說，兒子以後可以和你一起去打网球游泳，幫你洗車，帶 Coby 去公園玩，還可以幫我換燈泡呢！老公一臉慈父的樣子也讓我很是興奮。老公還告訴我說，哇，那我以後還得帶兒子去上男廁也，媽咪在外頭等我們唷！哈哈哈！老公，你的 XY 軍隊很強哦！

兒子呀兒子，歡迎你來到我們的家！我們愛你！

Yen 媽

2010-02-05T10:11:00.005+08:00

昨天我去探望 Yen 和她的 new born baby。我和 Yen 不常見面，但是我們一見面就可以聊到東南西北，沒有句號的那種。而再加上 Yen 媽，我們三個女人的笑聲是可以勝過一間咖啡店。聊著聊著，Yen 媽也告訴了我們她的經歷和人生磨練。把一些工力傳授給我們。

“我活了幾十年，從來就不問別人，甚麼時候生孩子，甚麼時候生第二個第三個，更不問要不要博一個兒子（Yen 媽只有兩個漂亮女兒）。我真的很不明白，為甚麼那些八婆總是愛問別人這些問題。問了又怎樣？這些是人家的家事，而且是沒有辦法給你答案的，那問來做甚麼哩？人家要生多少個孩子是人家的事，生了你幫他們養嗎？那你問來做甚麼呢？一對 couple 可能他們要生，或在計畫當中，又或者他們真的是有身體問題。那麼你問了，只會讓他們難過和更擔心，甚至吵架。那又何必？你的關心根本就不會幫到他們，反而害到他們在家哭或吵架，更死！那你開心嗎？如果你是他們的好友，就更不要問這些問題。如果他們有疑問或有需要或好消息，他們肯定會告訴你的。我只有兩個女兒，以前我總是被問，要不要生一個兒子，做甚麼不生一個兒子。問這些問題的人是豬腦。為甚麼我說他們是豬腦呢？因為這些問題和答案，根本就不是我們所能控制的。如果我可以控制生男生女，我就是很厲害的外星人了，我有超能力了。生男生女，都一樣。最重要的是媽媽和寶寶健康平安，快快樂樂。當你把寶寶生出來的那一刻，你會先看寶寶的五觀和手腳長得是否健全，並不是先看是男或女寶寶。如果是個有缺陷男寶寶，你也不會安心和放心。我有兩個女兒是多幸福多好的事。我生病的時候，我難過的時候，我去 shopping的時候，我的女兒都會陪伴我。如果我有兒子，他就不會陪我了，他會花多些時間陪他的女朋友或老婆了。生男生女真的那麼重要嗎？生男孩有甚麼特別之處？難道我死的時候是站著死，不是躺著死的嗎？以前別人叫我博一個男孩，說我們沒有兒子，我老公聽了，回到家就給我臉色看。就是這些八婆害到我們吵架的。幫不上忙，還害了我們。有些人更好笑，她叫我去開別人的兒子－－開仔。我自己忙兩個女兒都忙不過來了，還去忙甚麼開仔。天啊！真的是豬腦！做人要看開一點，多少個孩子都不是最重要的，生男生女都不是最重要的。只要你們和你們的老公達到共識，開開心心就已經很足夠了。”

Yen 媽說了很多，偶爾也會很激動。那種令人悲憤的心情我的確是能夠了解的。

我把這段話和老公分享。我們都認為，幾千年的中華文化是很難一轉眼就可以改變它的。中國人的一些傳統觀念的確是已經過時了。而所謂的“關心”方法的確是有很多種。然而它的難處就是要如何去 filter 那些無聊問題和拿捏人與人之間的溝通技巧。所以，我也常常提醒自己，問自己多些問題，多學習，別把問題老是往別人身上推。

一種米養百種人。我會用不同的方法去“處理”這些人。如果只有一種方法可以“處理”這些人和問題，那天下早就太平了。

Magician's show time

2010-02-04T10:59:00.003+08:00

I had a good laugh yesterday because of my dearly husband.

After taking evening shower, I stepped out from the bathroom in a relaxing way. Out of the sudden, King showed me a magic in front of my eyes. "Let me be your magician!", he said. And then, he hold his iPod with his one hand. Showing me his iPod from left to right, from right to left. After that, he could hold his iPod by using his single thumb only. I was amazed and wow! And then, he raised his eye brows and gave me a funny look -- I'm the Magician, hehehe! I burst into laugh. At the end, I found out there was a sticker behind the iPod!!!! And, that was how his only thumb hold his iPod! Duh..... But, we had a good laugh and it made my evening!

Oh my dear hubby, you are a great magician in my heart! Thanks for the show! =)

The three languages you need to learn

2010-02-02T15:40:00.003+08:00

我們的小寶貝！

自從你在媽咪的肚子里慢慢得成長，我和你爹地時常都會討論到關於你的一切。我們都非常關注你的人生和教育。因為，我們希望你會成為一個快樂和幸福的一個人。

首先，要來到這個世界，第一件事情你一定要注重的是，我們人與人之間的溝通語言和技巧。而我們非常關注你將要學習的語言。所以，媽咪和爹地已經有了共識，一定要讓你學習三種語言。而這三種語言能夠足以讓你和全世界的人溝通和了解這美麗的世界。小寶貝一定要相信我們的眼光和見解。讓我們一一為你解釋，你為何要學習這三種語言。

1. 華語 Chinese/Mandarin

我們是華人，華語是我們的母語。所以，我們學習華語是應該的，是必須的。在2020年，中國將會是全世界最大的消費國（第二是美國，第三是日本）。你將會為你能講一口流利的中文而感到自豪。而其他民族也會尊重你對母語的認識而感到敬佩。而華語將會讓你以後的人生有很大的幫助，且為你帶來許多方便。媽咪和爹地都很慶幸地能夠學習到華文及中文文化。聽，說，寫，看都不成問題。當我們住在美國的時期，很多台灣人，中國人，甚至白人都很意外得知道，我們兩雖然是馬來西亞出生的子民，確可以用中文和別人溝通。這個語言在我們的事業上也讓我們取得了不少收穫。當然，最重要的是，我們能夠和會講中文的人拉近距離，培養出更好的感情。當你能夠和人好好溝通時，好運和錢財就會跟隨著你。了解中文，你還可以學習到儒家思想，讓你學習到更多的人生道理。你將可以認識到五千年的中國文化與處世待人的方法。這將對你的人生和下一代有更多的幫助。而學習方塊字能夠訓練你的腦子和靈活性。中文字是世界上最難學習的字體。如果你能夠掌握好中文，其他語言的學習能力，應該對你不會太難了。

2. 英文 English

English is an International language, no doubt. People speak in English when they can't speak other native language in other countries. And so, learning good and proper English is an important task. When you are able to travel around the world, either during your business trip or own vacation, English will be the first priority language for you. If you want to learn other new languages, such as the third language that I'm going to mention in the following part, English can help you a lot. No matter where you go and where you are, you definitely need English!

3. 西班牙文 Spanish

Dear baby, you might be surprise by our suggestion -- learning Spanish! Why is it good to take up Spanish class? Spanish is a fun and easy-to-learn language. There are more than 20 countries are using Spanish as their national language. By speaking Spanish in these countries, you'll be able to achieve more things when you need to. After 15 to 20 years, there'll be more than 1/3 of Americans speak in Spanish. And, you'll be able to interact with Central and South Americans in the future. Treat it as a fun learning activity. And, we are sure you'll love this language.

小寶貝，這三種語言不多也不難學。媽咪和爹地會陪伴你一起學習與成長。如果你能夠掌握好這三種語言，你將不會有太多的語言障礙。當然，要當一個善解人意的人還是最重要的。我們大家一起學習吧！你的成長路程會有我們的陪伴。加油！

爹地媽咪（字）

Time wait for no man

2010-02-02T12:04:00.002+08:00

The clocks tick non-stop. I just realized that how time pass by in a fast pace when I'm pregnant. I'm in month 4 now, wow! 5 more months, we'll be able to see our little bub in real! Can you believe it?!

Stepping into my second trimester, I feel a lot better and more energetic although I don't have much serious nausea. And now, I start to pick up the books on the tables and bookshelves again. Reading articles on the Internet is one of my daily things-to-do. I just can't stop reading.

I'm glad that King is willing to read the Chapter-to-the-Fathers. He started to understand how amazing a life is developed and shaped week by week, month by month. We build this family together with our love and patience. King is a good reader, either from book or my mind.

Time wait for no man. Tick tuck tick tuck tick tuck.....

一起用餐

2010-01-24T16:16:00.002+08:00

今天和老公一起吃午飯的時候，我們聊起了以後的吃飯時間和時刻，該怎麼處理。

我告訴老公說，現在的我們，要好好珍惜兩個人一起用餐的時刻。老公即刻了解我的意思。然後說，以後我們旁邊就多一個小瓜在旁一起用餐了。然後，一口一口得餵。我可沒這麼樂觀。因為，我們身邊旁人的例子，根本就不能老公老婆一起用餐。不是老公先吃，老婆抱著小瓜；否則就是老婆先吃，老公抱著小瓜。兩個人一起用餐的時刻根本就是不可能的事情。

後來，老公說，如果你抱著小瓜，我可以一邊吃，一邊餵你吃。而你又可以餵寶寶。這樣，我們三個就不會餓肚子了啦！我眼前一亮，哇，好主意！那我就不用餓肚子了，哈哈！那麼，我們三個就可以一起用餐了咯？！哈哈哈！這真的是太好的主意了！雖然，我也不知道到時候行不行得通。但是，這主意實在是讓我太感動了，呵呵！

今天的我，很開心！＝）

原來

2010-01-22T17:15:00.002+08:00

我第一次嘗試到沒有老公在身邊的失落感，是前幾天他去了香港公幹幾天的第一晚。天啊，好難受啊！我簡直是難受到不知如何是好！我不曾有過這種失落感。因為，老公經常出國公幹，我也早已習慣了。但是，那一晚的我，就是莫名奇妙地感覺到沒有他在身邊的難過。

原來，跟老公在一起十年了，他還是對我很重要的。

原來，老公在我的生活中是那麼重要的。

原來，我們還是很依賴對方的。

原來，我們依舊還是很愛對方的。

有人問我說，世界上到底有沒有真愛？我不知道要如何給一個很好的答案。但是，我很慶幸的是，我找到了我的真愛。謝天謝地！

老公，歡迎你回到這個家！

我們也很串

2010-01-19T22:47:00.005+08:00

我和老公有時很肚懶的時候，就會說以下的話。

如果遇到一些開快車和亂亂割車和危險駕駛的人，我們都會說，“有本事的話，去買飛機啦，直接在天空中飛！”。本來就是嘛，不用割來割去，造成車禍釀成悲劇。

如果遇到好練的跑車車主在很 show off 的 vroom vroom vroom，我們都會說，“有本事的話，去美國 vroom vroom vroom 啦！這裡很塞車，vroom 了還是在我前面或隔壁而已！”。本來就是嘛，vroom 了都是一堆黑煙。

如果遇到那種喜歡開車開得很靠近我們車尾的那種鳥人，我們都會說，“有本事的話，就不要走這條大道，去給 toll 咯，車子比較少！”。本來就是嘛，甚麼是安全距離也不懂，undang 是買回來的。

原來，我們也很串一下，哈哈哈！

Baby IQ

2010-01-19T22:24:00.003+08:00

一天，我在一本 magazine 和 Internet 讀到說，如果孕婦吐得越多，根據統計，寶寶會越聰明，能夠有好成績。

我把這消息告訴老公說，嘿，我沒有吐哩，我生不到一個聰明的寶寶給你了，呵呵！老公“啊”了一聲。我又說，你真的相信嗎，你真的介意嗎？老公告訴我說，最重要的是寶寶健康和快樂啦！我們很開心的笑啦！

我不會生一個科學家寶寶，也不會生一個讀書得第一名的寶寶，更不會生一個當總統的寶寶。哈哈哈！我們對自己的智商程度都知曉啦。寶寶健康和開心最重要。而孩子以後的學習環境和 EQ 磨練更是重要過科學家的智商。處世待人更是重要過成績表。

很多人都會認為，生出健康的寶寶都是理所當然的事情。但是，我們確是要求寶寶要健康的長大。沒有了健康，其他的都是虛假的。

人生里有太多東西是要讓我們去發掘的。而懷孕的過程當中，我們也學習到了如何面對人生。呵呵！＝）

My morning sickness

2010-01-19T22:11:00.002+08:00

"Do you have morning sickness?"....."What's your morning sickness?".....

Thank god I have a smooth sailing first trimester with not-so-serious morning sickness! I'm blessed that I don't experience much nausea with vomiting. And, I tend to eat anything I want. However, the bloating tummy is killing me most of the time. And, that's why I need to eat more often with less portion. I have a frog-tummy which sounds like a drum most of the time, haha! I'm sick of the taste of toothpaste every morning. It triggers the vomiting feeling. I'm afraid of teeth brushing activity every morning and night, hahaha! Ewww... It sounds dirty and messy! Of course, I did brush my teeth everyday, ha!

I'm sure every preggie experience fatigue in the first trimester. I feel like I'm like a pig, some times. Napping after eating, eating after napping. But I guess it's good that I can rest as much as I can now. Yet, I can't sleep well at night if I took too much day nap, opps!

I, some times, walk like a duck. I've ducky walking movement, hahaha! It's funny to see my ducky movement. Quak quak quak! I enjoy walking slowly and enjoy my walking pathway view more. Everything is beautiful.

Mood swing has not attack me yet (touch wood!). I need to thank King and Coby to be the clowns all the time and make me laugh everyday! I'm a happy mom-to-be.

Yes, I'm a happy and healthy mom-to-be! =)

Coby 的未來

2010-01-19T21:40:00.004+08:00

很多朋友都認識我們家的 Coby。我家的 Coby 是一隻很討人喜歡的狗狗。而一些朋友知道我懷孕的消息之後，就問我以後要如何處置 Coby，而最好的話，是不要讓它靠近我們以後的寶寶。怕皮膚敏感啦，怕氣管敏感啦，怕它會咬寶寶啦，怕狗毛髒啦，擔心很多未來的問題。

當然，我可以了解朋友們的擔心與關心。然而，Coby 在我們家的地位真的其實是不小的。而我們和 Coby 之間的愛和默契，外人真的是很難了解的。因為，Coby 是我們家的一分子。

每當我和老公分別帶著疲憊的身體回到這個家，第一個來 greet 我們的就是 Coby，第一個擁抱的是 Coby。當我和老公鬧彆扭時，Coby 確能拉近我和老公的距離。根據統計，小朋友的家裡有狗狗的陪伴，對小朋友的成長過程是好處多過壞處。而且，根據醫學報告，從小跟狗狗一起過童年的小朋友，鼻子敏感的問題將會降至最低，特別是氣喘的問題。

在我開始我的懷孕過程當中，Coby 其實一直都很照顧我。不管我走到那裡或家裡的那一個角落，它都是在我的身邊，甚至坐在我旁邊。家裡有一次來了一個客人，Coby 就跟著客人來見我，似乎是在保護著我。很多時候，我就是能夠感覺到 Coby 對我的愛和保護。這就是我和 Coby 之間存在的默契。那中感覺就是很難形容。而孕婦的好心情當中，Coby 給了我很多歡笑，讓我有很多開心的生活樂趣。

所以，如果叫我在有了寶寶過後冷落 Coby 或在生活中對 Coby 有很大的改變，我真的是辦不到。我是不可能會因為照顧寶寶的原故而把 Coby 送走；我坐完月子，我會讓寶寶認識我們家的 Coby；我們還是會天天帶 Coby 到公園去散步；我們會更加愛 Coby。我相信我和老公是可以辦得到。Coby ，是我們家的一分子，它不能沒有我們。

Coby 的未來還是幸福的。我相信在我坐月的時候，Coby 能夠乖乖的和我合作，等待我的擁抱。

Happy Anniversary & Happy Birthday!

2010-01-15T18:57:00.002+08:00

15th of Jan is a special date to me and King. It was our wedding anniversary and our wedding was held 4 years ago. We've been together for 10 years, oh my god! How did we make it and walked through the 10 years together?! Time flies! Happy Anniversary, my love! =)

It is Coby's second birthday today. We sang birthday song to Coby and high five with him, hahaha! I'm glad that Coby has turn out a bravo and macho dog nowadays! Coby, we love you! =)

Clean and clear result

2010-01-13T17:40:00.003+08:00

I finally received the result of my blood test yesterday. Phew! I'm glad that my baby is healthy! It's a relief, after all. Having a healthy and happy baby is my dream and target.

I bought a blood pressure monitor today. My blood pressure measurement today is normal and healthy. Healthy diet and good quality of sleep are so important for all preggies. Having a happy and calm mood is important as well.

My baby, please cooperate with Mommy. Let's go for a healthy and happy pregnancy progress together! High five! =)

Let me introduce Family Lee to you!

2010-01-13T17:30:00.004+08:00

Dear baby,

After introducing Family Lau to you, here's Family Lee! Mommy's last name is Lee. But you don't follow Mommy's last name, haha!

The big man in Family Lee is 外公, the father of Mommy. 外公 is a good man. He's very happy for your arrival because he has been waiting for the surprise for 2 years, haha! 外公 loves you very much!

The big lady in Family Lee is 外婆, the mother of Mommy. 外婆 is a patient and nice woman. She cares about you all the time when you are sleeping inside Mommy's belly. 外婆 wants you to be a healthy baby. You must love her when you meet her one day!

Mommy has a younger sister and she's your 姨姨. She's a cute and funny lady. You will love to play with her when you see her.

Mommy also has a younger brother and he's your 舅舅. 舅舅 is a hardworking man. He might not talk a lot but it doesn't mean he is shy or self-reserved. You will know him more when you meet him one day.

The Family Lee is happy for your arrival! Mommy has a big big family and Mommy's cousins can't wait to see you! So, my baby, you must eat well and sleep well inside Mommy's belly.

Till here.

Love,

Daddy and Mommy

Let me introduce Family Lau to you!

2010-01-13T17:14:00.002+08:00

Dear baby,

Your last name will be Lau, following by Daddy's last name. So I think we shall introduce you the Family Lau!

The big man in the family Lau is 爺爺 , the father of your Daddy. He's an old man but with young heart and energetic body. 爺爺 is a successful businessman and I'm sure you'll have a lot to learn from him. He's a kids lover. I'm sure he'll love you very much!

The big lady in the family Lau is 婆婆 , the mother of your Daddy. She's a beautiful woman since young. You must kiss her every time when you see her because she loves to kiss kids in the same way. You must tell her that you love her, ok?

You have a 大伯 and 伯母, they are Daddy's eldest brother and sister-in-law. They have a baby named Xin Yi.

You have a 二伯 and 二伯母, they are Daddy's second brother and second sister-in-law. You have 2 cousins named Zach and Kate. They all live in Singapore. 二伯 and 二伯母 love kids very much, especially 二伯. You will have a lot of fun time with them when you meet them. Zach told Mommy he wish to have a boy cousin. I told Zach that I'll try to give him one but if you are a girl, Zach will be happy to be your playmate, too.

You have a 姑姑 and 姑丈, and a cousin named Xavier. They live in Shanghai. Xavier is one year old than you. I'm sure you and Xavier will have a lot of fun time together if we do exchange programs for you and Xavier, haha! However, you must share your toys and love with Xavier.

Family Lau is welcoming you, my baby! They are happy for Daddy and Mommy because they all would be "promoted" due to your arrival. Please smile at them when you meet them one day! =)

Till here.

Love,

Daddy and Mommy

Me in week 13!

2010-01-13T17:11:00.001+08:00

I like this picture very much! =)

Enjoy your life NOW!

2010-01-12T18:27:00.003+08:00

When I slowly break the news of my pregnancy to all my good friends one by one, all the parents told me the same thing -- enjoy your life NOW before your little one is here!

Yes, that's true! King and I got it and we started to enjoy whatever we are doing now every moment, ha! Have nice breakfast, eat out, shopping, hang out in bookstore with a cup of coffee, night flea market, movies in theatre, traveling, pillow talk, etc. It seems like a count-down to both of us.

We were told that life with a little one would be totally different. By seeing the real examples surrounding us, we can picture a little bit of our future life with our little one. Crying, cranky, giggling, milking, nappy, lack of sleep, tiring, you name it.

We plan our every weekends now. No matter where we hang out, either at home or outing, we enjoy every moments of both of us. =)

The unknown obstacle and tough decisions

2010-01-12T12:29:00.002+08:00

Everybody wish to have a smooth-sailing pregnancy process. And so do we. Even though I've a strong feeling of having a healthy baby, King and I did talk about any unknown obstacles and what are our tough decisions. This was raised by my sister-in-law and I do think this is not a bad topic to discuss.

What if the baby is mentally ill?

What if the baby is physically ill?

What if the baby is a premie?

What if I diagnose with pregnancy hypertension?

What are we gonna do?

Shall we continue my pregnancy?

Shall we let go the fetus and try for another one?

I'm glad that King is open-minded to talk about all these with me. We are pretty clear and calm for this discussion. And, fortunately, our thinking is the same and we know what's in our mind clearly to answer all the questions above.

It's good to read more books and have a healthy discussion with our partner. We can't foresee tomorrow but we can remain calm and prepare for a tough decision. God bless our baby! =)

Dolphin in Tahiti

我們去看你們了

稀有品種

Colorful books of Declan

Solid food

Your smile bright me up!

New Year Resolution

Yes, we smile together!

Play time with big daddy

My little model

A strong mother

My activities with baby Declan

Declan's first Christmas

First hometown trip to Declan

Get well soon, my baby!

我的 Happy Baby

Love our kids in a right way

母子連心

永遠擔憂不完的我

First outing by myself

Good website for present giver

Good blog for the mothers

Story time between a father and a baby

Book reading for my baby

Hypo-Thyroiditis

Back to my blogging world

Trend or Trap?

女人

Mix feeding

When they sleep on each other's tummies

Coby and us

My content baby

My 34th Birthday

I'm your sweet mommy!

Hi from Big Daddy!

Here comes your Wai Gong & Wei Poh

Here comes your Yeh Yeh & Poh Poh

Our hands

Flexibility

My confinement lady

Thank you, Dr. Yap!!!

Napping time

Changing diaper

Feeding time

Bathing time!

Temple visit after my 40 days of confinement

Full month of Baby Declan

Busy busy busy

Our new family member

My 35 weeks -- KJ arrives!

To my dearest friend -- Luke Yeow

Third Trimester

Koh Samui

I'm back!

My right side of my baby bump

Books for baby KJ

Taking a break

My dearest Grandma

The 5 kg

夫妻誰的基因決定了孩子 （1）

KJ -- King Junior

Good and relaxing mood

夫妻理财第一步：设定共同的目标

買買買

感謝堂姐一家人

我的腳和你的手

My first flight with KJ

Airplane ride

A wake up call to me -- Hypothyroidism

My chicken essence

The Man in my world -- the real King

我的雞精

My pregnancy and parenting books

我們的成長

感激寶寶的爹地

19 weeks

Up closed and personal

Daddy will miss you

Half way -- my 5 months of pregnancy

Raimond Lap

夫妻誰的基因決定了孩子（1）